If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a situation and sat back to analyze why you’ve probably realized that fear lies at the heart of the problem, fear can keep us from moving forward with a job, a move, a new idea, and especially a relationship. Fear can also keep us in the wrong situation for far too long!
I don’t want you to live in fear any longer because I KNOW that you want to get out there and find the one for you! Yes, it can be scary, but you know what? It can REALLY be fun too!
Here are 3 fears that can keep you stuck and single (or with the wrong guy) AND how to get over them!
1. Fear of vulnerability: To make a heart connection with a man, you must be willing to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is the key to building a heart-centered connection with a man. Being vulnerable can be scary, but it also the most rewarding part of a relationship. Remember, you are the heartbeat of a relationship: you have got to open yourself up first.
What to do: •You can stop trying to control situations with men and stop trying to lead situations with men. You are responsible for the feelings of the relationship. A masculine man will not be able to open up his feelings until you expose your feelings. When you do this, the right man will honor your feelings and worship your vulnerability. Love is risky, and being vulnerable is even riskier. But if you are not vulnerable, you will never experience true love.
2. Fear of Rejection—This fear is just a way to avoid yourself and try to make another responsible for giving you the love, acceptance, approval, and worth you crave. Or you deny yourself those things because you do not know how to give those things to yourself so that you can hide in rejection. It’s easy, and it’s also lazy.
What to do: Try thinking of rejection as “re-direction” and give yourself the love and acceptance you need to feel safe enough inside to step out of your comfort zone and take more risks that include men. When you don’t take responsibility for how you feel the only person who rejects you is you.
3. Fear of Being Hurt—When you fear being hurt, you are unconsciously giving your power to those who have hurt you before and letting them determine FOR you whether you have WORTH after something painful has occurred. The truth is that you NEED to have someone dispense forgiveness, approval, and acceptance to you that is controlling you and keeping you from letting go and moving on.
What to do: It’s time to empower yourself with this healing paradox:
It’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to heal.
When you take the reins of your life back into your own hands, you will discover how amazing you truly are, and when you do that, a man will too!
Hi Jaki, love your work! Could you share some examples of what fear of vulnerability looks like and what it looks like to be vulnerable? Thanks!
Great suggestion. I’ll add that to my topics. Thank you!