There are a lot of reasons you might fear dating right now. Maybe you’re afraid you will look bad, embarrass yourself or be rejected. Or maybe you’ve been out of practice for so long that you fear you don’t even know how.
Ladies, these fears are fundamentally irrational, but they feel so real.
It’s time to work to overcome them. Don’t let them run your life and ruin the possibility of your happy ending.
Don’t get caught up in worrying so much about the first date, because in all honesty, what is the worst thing that can happen? It’s uncomfortable maybe. You don’t get asked on a 2nd date. Or, you have zero interest in the man across the table from you and find the night a bore.
No matter what, don’t turn the first date into an anxiety ridden evening. The only people who haven’t been hurt are those that haven’t been loved at all. And unless you get more practice, you won’t get better at dating.
So, here are 3 steps to overcoming your fears in dating over age 50…
- Get more experience. Go on more dates. Say yes to men who ask you out. Yep, even to those you might not feel an immediate spark with. Give them a chance and if anything, you’ll get good practice dating.
- Get back up when you fall. Not every date will be memorable, just like not every relationship will be lifechanging. Heartache and mistakes can happen, but don’t get down on yourself. Get back up and be willing to learn from your mistakes and change your behavior. Be willing to throw a gutter ball. Because we all know we have to knock a few in before we hit a strike!
- Learn what’s not working and correct it. Examine how each date went and reflect on the night. Reflect on yourself, not him. Think back and ask yourself: was I asking questions, curious, or judging too much? Notice what you did or didn’t do and apply what you’ve learned to future dates and relationships. Trial and error practice works in dating as long as you are learning from your mistakes.
So get out there ladies! Practice and reward yourself as you overcome your fears. Unless you take action, nothing can change.
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