When you think that you’ve found the right man that you’re into, you may find yourself looking for ways to keep him turned on and by your side. There are actually ways that you can do that. Jaki shares her five tips for keeping your man turned on.
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5 Things That Turn Men On
I’m going to teach you about the five things that turn a man on. I love talking about this. This is so powerful. The first thing that turns a man on is you being happy. That’s what turns a man on. His happiness is based on your happiness. If a man doesn’t feel that he can make you happy, then he’s technically be turned on by you. When you’re happy, a man is turned on by that. It creates a ripple effect and it makes him happy because he’s here to make you happy. The key to his happiness is your happiness so make sure that you’re doing the things that you need to do to keep yourself in that happy place in your life.
Feeling your feelings, releasing your feelings, holding your boundaries and speaking up when you need to. Everything that you need to do to be authentic and genuine in your relationship is going to make you happy. When you’re in a great relationship, you can expand and just relax in life. When you’re relaxed in life, you’re already naturally happy. Make sure that your happiness is a priority. When you’re happy, your man’s happy and it turns him on. How you’re going to attract a man by being a happy woman. The second thing that turns the men on is you have to be interested in his passion. Get into his passions. You have to show interest because when you bond with him over what he’s interested in, he sees you as a part of that equation. Whether it’s sports, whether it’s travel, whether it’s wine, whether it’s cooking, whether it’s gardening. Anything that he’s interested in like writing or movies, you want to show interest. This is obvious but I’d like to get into it because it turns a man to notice that you’re paying attention to what’s important to him because that shows a sign of respect. You respect what’s important to him. It’s going to create a bond between the two of you and then you’re going to become closer and closer.Start to learn about the things that he's passionate about and watch your relationship grow. Click To Tweet
I know if you’re following me, you want to be in a committed relationship or married this year. Show interest and get excited about it because it’s what makes him who he is. Start to learn about the things that he’s passionate about and watch your relationship grow. Watch his attraction for you grow much faster. The third thing is to initiate intimacy. This is after you’ve decided that you’re exclusive and you’re working on a future together. You’ve had those conversations. Go ahead and initiate that intimacy. Men love this and it turns them on when you’re hugging them and you whisper something in his ear like, “Maybe when we get home tonight.” Maybe you have a special candle that you get for him or you have a pretty little outfit you’re going to share with him. Whenever you initiate a sexual intimacy or physical intimacy, men really love it. It turns them on. A lot of men complain about women not initiating and wanting the men to take charge in all cases. When the woman does, that excites them. If you want to reel him in and if you want to have a committed, juicy and deep relationship, then you want to be initiating as much as he is. We all like to be the one that’s being pursued and men love it.
Number four, appreciate and validate him. This is so important. Men love appreciation. They love to be validated. What does validation mean? It means giving value. Give value to him by noticing and respecting him and appreciating him because men crave this and they will never ask for it. They’re not going to say, “Excuse me, would you please show more respect and appreciation for the things that I do for you?” They don’t say that. Just notice the things they do. Thank him for opening your car door. Thank him for dinner and tell him how much you appreciate it. Admire the work that he does. Ask him for help and then make sure you lavish him with your compliments and praise.
Men do thrive on this because it lets them know that they’re doing a good job and they’re making you happy. If his happiness is your happiness and vice versa, then you need to lay this on thick. Life can be hard. When we don’t hear from the person that we’re dating that we’re appreciated, it starts to affect us. If you reverse it and a man doesn’t give you compliments a lot and you’re like, “I just dressed up and spent all this time and energy to look fabulous for him. He hasn’t even been noticed.” Maybe he noticed but he never said anything. It’s reverse psychology. You’ve got to use this on men because they love it. He’s just going to continue to see you as the one which is what you want him to see you because you notice and appreciate him.
This is a big one for women. I don’t think they realize how important this is, but you want to encourage him to do things that he wants to do. Men are totally afraid that they’re going to lose their freedom in a relationship. If you establish right up front that you’re not there to take away his freedom, you’re there to support him in all the things that he wants to do knowing that he has you to come home too. You need to call after he’s done. Men that go off and do things with their guy friends, they’re thinking about you. They’re talking about you especially when you make it okay. Women that are jealous or controlling, that is a deal-breaker for men. They don’t want to commit to a woman who they feel is going to take their freedom away. That’s a huge fear for men.
Encourage him to do the things that he wants to do and what he’s going to do is fall more in love with you than he already is. Don’t be clingy. Don’t be needy. Go make plans with your girlfriends. Encourage him to make plans with his guy friends so that you can have this time apart. Then what happens is it creates a lot more intimacy when you’re together because it gives you an opportunity to expand as an individual. When you come back together, you have something interesting to talk about. You have more closeness because you had that trust. Give them a long leash. You’re not trying to control your men. Men hate that and it’s the fastest way to turn him off. This is all about how to turn your man on because you want a commitment and you want to keep him turned on in your relationship. I love giving my husband freedom. When I met Michael, I was very clear with him. You have all the freedom you need. He likes to ride his street bike. I love that he does that. I’m frankly turned on to see him on his bike and cruising around with his friend.Trust is the cornerstone of a relationship. Click To Tweet
I enjoy watching him watch sports. I love the things that he does and I’m interested in those things because he’s passionate about them. It helps our relationship so much to be okay with him doing things on his own. I don’t have any problem with that. I think it’s fabulous because I have my own life too and I want my time to myself as well. We have tons of freedom in our relationship and that’s all based on trust and trust is the cornerstone of a relationship. Follow these five tips. It turns a man on and it will get you closer to a committed relationship and hopefully engaged by the end of the year.
My freebie is I want you to go to SoulmateIQ.com and take my Soulmate Assessment. This is going to tell you what frequency you’re vibrating at and how close you are to attracting your soulmate. I’m going to send you your results and then a feminine exercise. It’s related to the frequency you’re vibrating at so you can get further into alignment and fast track your ability to manifest your soulmate. I’m all about fast-tracking. It doesn’t need to take as much time as you think it does. If you follow these tips and you start paying attention to what I’m teaching you, I know that I can help you get to the finish line because I want you to be a finisher. I want you to be in an amazing relationship like I am. I hope this was helpful and I’m just sending you a ton of love.