If you want to find true love, you need to stop chasing guys and have them chase you instead. While most guys would welcome a break from being the pursuer, they still like to chase you a little bit. Your best bet is to figure out a way to let a guy know you’re open and interested and give him that opportunity to make the first move without being too obvious about it. Find out how you can make men chase you with these five tips from Jaki.
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5 Tips To Stop Chasing Men And Have Them Chase You!
Men Are Hunters
I want to talk to you about the five tips to stop chasing men and have them chase you. Let’s jump right in with number one. Men are hunters. You have to remember that they love to hunt, and you have to remain in that receiving position and let them come after you. When you go after a man, it shuts him down. He’s not going to see you as a wife potential or a potential to be in a relationship. It kills the chemistry. Men want to chase you so give them a good run for their money. Make it fun for them because they love to be pursuing you. If you make it easy for them or if you start to pursue them, they’re going to lose interest much faster. You want to let them chase you.
You’re The Prize
The second tip that I want to give you to stop chasing men so that they chase you is remember ladies, you’re the prize. You are what they are after and that’s why they want to chase you. You have to sit back in that receiving mode and know your worth, know your value.
I’ve talked about this before in terms of your value and your worth. Your value and worth are a perception that you need to project outward. You need to create a perception that you’re a high-value woman and project that out to a man. How you do this is by not chasing a man. By leaning back and recognizing that you’re the prize. You have what they want. You have a beautiful and warm heart. You make life colorful, beautiful, interesting and fun for them. You’re creative, funny, interesting and clever. The way you dress, look, smell, and feel, you have all of these beautiful qualities that men find so captivating in women. Let him come to you and remember, you’re the prize. For all those reasons that I just shared with you, but more importantly is because you matter. You have value and you are destined for great things. You’re destined for great, extraordinary love and it’s your birthright. You’re entitled to it. Don’t forget that. Men love to have a woman that knows her worth. That’s what they’re looking for.You have to sit back in that receiving mode and know your worth, know your value. Click To Tweet
Give Them Signals
The third tip is helpful to make sure that men chase you and you stop chasing them. You have to give them signals. You have to be open with your body language. That means not sitting with your arms crossed and looking down at your phone. Your arms are open in receiving mode. Hold your head up high. You’re smiling and you’re giving them that five-second smile and maybe you’re doing the little eye movements and winking or whatever. If you have the confidence to do that, I recommend it. You are sending a man a signal through your body language that you’re open and receptive for him to pursue you, not the other way around. You can give him a look and give him a smile and then you can hold that smile and see if he’s going to be interested in pursuing you. That’s a signal. Use it and practice it wherever you go because it works. Men respond well to direct eye contact and a nice big smile. That lets them know through your body language. All you have to do is smile at a man and he will take it from there. If he’s interested in you and he’s available, he knows what to do.
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Stay Detached In Dating
The fourth tip, and this is a big one, you have to stay detached in dating and that’s hard to do. As soon as you meet a man you like and he’s chasing you, the first thing you want to do is attach emotionally. You start to become overly invested in the relationship. As soon as you do that, then he loses interest in you because you played your hand. You’re not holding any of the cards back. He already knows you’re into him and you like him. That’s a little bit of a turnoff. Where did the chase go? He’s hunting you and you’ve just taken away the fun in it for him, the mystery is gone too soon. That initial stage is fun. Make sure you stay in your position of receiving and stay detached so if it doesn’t work out, you can move on very quickly. How do you stay detached? By recognizing that you need to be the one that’s being pursued, for one. You need to continue to let him pursue you because you don’t want to be the one doing that. It’ll turn them off. Don’t make assumptions because you don’t know enough about him to attach to him until he’s given you the signs.
I’ve talked about that in other videos. It’s through caring and commitment. He’s consistent. All of these things are going to let you know that he’s into you. Only then can you start to make an attachment once you’ve established the level of intimacy that you’re going to share in that relationship. Detached dating is where it’s at. That’s where all the fun is. It’s how you remain mysterious because you are detached. He can tell that you’re not attached. When you’re detached, men can tell and they want you even more. Practice detached dating. It doesn’t mean that you’re cold. It doesn’t mean that at all. It just means you’re not playing all of your cards. You’re not letting him know right up front how you feel, even if you have feelings for him. Make sure that you’re matching each other’s feelings. If he is showing you a lot of interest, then you can show him some interest. You’re being consistent with what you’re both sharing. You’re not getting ahead of him. You’re not telling him you love him when you feel it. Wait for him to say those things. It will last longer. It will mean more and let him lead.Men want to hunt, so give them a good hunt. Click To Tweet
Don’t Be So Available
The fifth and final tip on how to get them to chase you is don’t be so available. Don’t drop everything for him as soon as he calls. What this does is it shows him that you don’t have a life and he’ll lose interest. It’s not a game. I want to pre-qualify what I’m going to say with that. What it is, it is a bit of remaining a little mysterious so he has to wonder about you. He has to wonder what you’re doing, where you are, or who you’re with. You want him to be thinking of you. If you’re so available, you don’t give him any time to be thinking of you. That means that you don’t have to respond to his texts the minute he sends you one. Don’t sit there holding your phone, waiting for the texts to come in and respond instantly. Let some time go by. Allow him to think about you and wonder what you’re doing and if you’re going to get back to him, men love that. Remember, they want to hunt so give them a good hunt. They will enjoy the fun of it all. The courtship and the dating process is fun. It is fun when you follow these tips that I’m suggesting because they do work. Don’t be so available. Don’t cancel your plans. Keep your plans with your friends and keep your commitments. Go on your vacations. Don’t contact him too much when you’re away. Enjoy yourself. Be where you are. Be present to what’s showing up in your life in that moment and you will be very desirable to a man.
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Thank you! I had a guy fly several states to meet me this past weekend. He came and when we went out he was upset that others told me how great I looked and not him. I had already told him how great he looked, but he needed more. I was positive and encouraging and allowed him to lead. When I dropped him at the airport and gave him a hug and brief kiss, he departed quickly. I texted him a few hours later a thank you and said that I enjoyed our time together. He texted me back something that didn’t make sense. He was a player.
Question- When is the best time to end a date with a player? There was nothing intimate, however some kisses and hugs.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. As soon as you know he’s one. You want to ask as many questions upfront as possible. For example: Where do you see yourself in 5 years? When was your last relationship? How long did you date her? How many marriages? None? oh, that’s interesting! Things like that, just be prepared to answer the same questions. I find the more you can find out upfront the better chance you have at discovering his true intentions. Love, Jaki
I’ve been talking to a guy long distance in a different country for quite few months now and I have feelings for him. I admitted feelings for him and ever since I’m feeling a bit taken back and notice that he doesn’t respond the same. I feel that he lost interest in me.
How do I bring the game back into my court. Well I suppose I have played my main cards. We were going to meet after the borders reopen but I dont know if it continues the same , we would ever meet at all.
Could you please suggest, what do I do now?
I recommend watching my blog “what to do when he pulls away” Go here now: https://engagedatanyage.com/how-to-take-back-your-power-when-hes-pulling-away-engaged-at-any-age/