Have you ever met a great guy only to get scared and run away?
The very first time I launched my profile, I ran! I connected with an interesting man, we set up a meeting time, and I ran. It’s embarrassing to admit, but I ran into my closet and freaked out! I was way too intimidated to meet him. I thought I didn’t have anything to offer. I didn’t feel confident. I felt emotionally bankrupt. So, I ran. That’s how I coped with stress.
Some people act out, some people act in. Some a little of both. What do you do when you’re stressed about a relationship? Do you jump to conclusions as a way to avoid something? Or maybe you just shut down internally? Or maybe you act out and push men away!
Obviously, that’s not functional. We can’t just withdraw or act out every time something happens that scares us. We need to learn to cope and deal in a more functional way. How can you start to shift your conditioned responses to men?
Start with healthy self-talk. Remember, you must be your own best friend. What would your best friend tell you to do?
Here’s what a former “runner” had to say about this:
“Thanks to your coaching I was able to talk myself out of the instinct of running away … Instead of thinking of a reason to run, I talked myself into finding reasons to stay and not expecting perfection from my partner…😅. This was the biggest take away, but there were many, many other points that helped me be a better partner to my hubby. I am positive that my attitude changes (from your coaching) made me more attractive to my husband!!” Eva
Take this to heart! It worked for Eva, now married for three years to her gorgeous husband. She became her own best friend and started becoming self-aware enough to notice the impulse to run and shift it before it sabotaged her!
We all have built-in programming.
And if you think about it, that programming often leads you AWAY from what you say you want most.
You say you want commitment, but you run at the first sign of trouble.You say you want a strong man, but you run when he takes charge.
Notice your default settings so you can reprogram yourself for dating success.
If you want different results this fall, you’ll need to step up your game!
Challenge yourself to stay, to get curious, to see what happens when you BOTH meet at the edges, work through your old programming and start installing NEW ways of being.
Eva discovered that this new way of thinking was a bridge to an even MORE intimate and amazing relationship.
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