Are you responding to men or reacting to them?
Can you say that a man feels a deep sense of trust in your ability to handle him?
Can you say that you invite trust and dependability on an emotional level? If you answered no then read on…
Emotional connection is what men unconsciously look for. It’s your energy. A man can detect whether or not you are a “responder or reactor”.
Men want and need you to respond to them, not react. Men sense this as a lack of confidence and insecurity and it makes them feel uncomfortable. They want emotional stability.
How can you get a man to open up to you?
- Learn to communicate responsibly
- Learn to listen deeply so he feels heard
- Learn his signals and how to time talks
The reason men don’t open up in a relationship and make a deeper commitment is because on some level they don’t trust that you are not going to emotionally react. When women emotionally react men shut down.
Your ability to be emotionally grounded is directly connected to how deep of a commitment a man will make with you.
Do you honestly feel that he could reveal his deepest secrets to you and you wouldn’t react and the relationship would grow stronger?
If your man is not communicating on a deeper level with you then the answer to this question is NO!
Men want confident women. Being spontaneous and adventurous can simply mean suggesting a sunset walk. Men want to feel alive in a relationship. When you become predictable he gets bored. Maintaining your personal independence is an important component to lasting relationships.
Having an abundant mindset will keep the tension on in a relationship or when dating. If you are not afraid of losing him and you trust things will work out for you no matter what, you captivate his attention. The most appealing mindset you could have is that you don’t need him.
Neediness is a huge turn off. Have you ever met a needy man? It’s not pretty.
How can you be non-needy?
- Have your own interests and friends
- Make plans that support your needs
- Don’t rush the “talk”
- Learn to trust your intuition
- Detach from outcomes
- Be spontaneous and unpredictable
- Relaxed, happy and carefree
- Take care of your own emotional dependency needs
- Respond to him, do not react to him
Your attitude and mindset creates your actions. You will get what you think about and what you think you deserve.
The Universal Laws of how the world works states “you will attract into your life what you are” not what you want. You can only resonate what your hearts knows to be true. So you will draw to yourself whatever you truly believe. And, he can sense this!
If you settle for less than what you truly want it’s because you don’t really believe you can have it.
I know you want to Fall Madly in Love this year. My Fall Madly in Love strategy call is in place to help you gain more inner confidence and inner trust. This will translate to a man that you are wife – girlfriend – commitment material!