I want you to picture what you do on a normal day.
Whatever your daily routine is, I can guarantee that it is exactly that: routine. When we get into a routine, we get comfortable, right? It’s human nature. But if you do the same thing every day, do you expect anything to change? If you want to welcome a man into your life, then we have to get out of this rut.
Let me explain.
We live in our comfort zones. That’s pretty normal. We do the same things all the time because we feel comfortable with the familiar. Our brains know what to expect, so we follow the same paths again and again.
But this is also how we get in our own way. There is no RISK in your comfort zone, right? And meeting someone new is a big risk. In fact, sometimes it can be such a big leap out of your comfort zone that, as much as you want to meet someone, your brain might just shut that idea down.
“I’d talk to him, but I’m busy.” “I’d give him my number, but I doubt he’ll call anyway.” “I’d like to go to that singles event, but it’s been a long week.”
Comfort zone, comfort zone, comfort zone. Right?
When you don’t want to push your boundaries, you have to take baby steps to expand your comfort zone. The discomfort is only temporary. I promise!
Start by making changes to your routines (basically, make them less “routine”). Schedule more Zoom dates, try intermittent fasting, or start a regular meditation practice.
Doing things, a little differently will make you more comfortable with taking risks and trying new things.
After all, your man is in the unknown, and we want to find him, right?
-Jaki
