If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, you know the pain of not being able to get close to someone. They’re evasive, make excuses, or are just inept when it comes to talking about feelings or the relationship. Usually, women complain about emotionally unavailable men. Yet many aren’t aware that they’re emotionally unavailable, too. Getting hooked on someone unavailable (think Mr. Big and Carrie Bradshaw) disguises your problem, keeping you in denial of your own unavailability.