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My top dating tips | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· April 1, 2021 

Online dating is the best way to meet men, and it’s only getting better. Since covid, there’s been a 78% increase in memberships on online dating platforms. Online dating is different than dating in real, and the key to be successful online is to hone in on the good guys and ignore and delete the bad ones. This video is about reminding you of my four top tips for online dating that I feel will give you an edge and smooth the path and speed up the process! Go here to watch my latest video

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Why You Need to Take A Break! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 30, 2021 

“Oh, I am so busy!”

We all say it, and often even mean it…but being super busy isn’t necessarily healthy! 

That’s because when we are “busy” – with work or hobbies or whatever is taking up the bulk of our time – it allows us to avoid things that we don’t want to face. Things like starting to date, or unpacking our inner baggage, or problems nagging us in the back of our minds.

When you’re busy, you don’t have time to dwell on what’s missing in your life. You can’t sit quietly with your thoughts and think about the consequences of choices you’ve made or recent triggers you’ve faced. 

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You can “hide” in the energy of being busy! 

The problem with this is, eventually the things from which you’re hiding WILL get your attention. Maybe it will be in the form of an uncomfortable phone call, or a forgotten appointment, or even a migraine! And if that happens, you’re in a position of defensiveness, of reacting to the issue instead of proactively handling things. 

A healthier thing to do is slow down and check-in with yourself. Even the busiest among us can take ten minutes to breathe and concentrate on ourselves! You may surprise yourself with the results. 

Just recently in my own life, I was really busy with the launch of a new program when I experienced a “trigger moment.” I wanted to just avoid it and made myself even busier as a distraction. But deep down I knew that I needed to lean into that trigger and get curious about it. I needed to spend some time dealing with it in a healthier way than just ignoring the issue. And in fact, if I had kept ignoring it, I would have missed the benefits of the wisdom that arose when I finally faced how I was feeling.

The next time you tell yourself you’re “too busy to” date, do some inner work, confront an uncomfortable situation, pause for a minute and really think about what you’re telling yourself. Are you really too busy? Or are you hiding? The answer may surprise you!

And I get it. This level of awareness is not for the faint of heart. But it is the mark of a fully actualized, super-empowered, totally captivating WOMAN!

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Dating Over 50: What Men Want | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 25, 2021 

One of the problems I see happening with dating is women over complicate things way too much! Men are pretty simple in my experience and I’ve found 5 consistent things men want in a woman when dating over 50.

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Men Love This Quality! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 23, 2021 

Jaki Playing ChessOne of the many things I’ve learned in my career over the years is that playfulness is a feminine quality that men love. They appreciate a woman who can be carefree and spontaneous, ready to take on a fun new adventure! I know my husband Michael loves that side of me.

It probably won’t surprise you to learn, however, that lately I just haven’t felt very playful. and I realize I’ve been more serious and somber than usual. And no matter how much I try to balance the stress of current events with good things and joy, it’s been taking a toll on me. Are you in the same boat? I know MANY women who are.

I’m focusing on amping up my playfulness factor this month, both for my well-being and for my family’s. I invite you to do the same! Think of how happy you were as a kid after a day spent running around outside, playing in a sprinkler, bike riding, even reading under a shady tree. You can recapture that feeling even now.

There are plenty of little things your can build into your days that can bring a lighter mood and a smile to your face. You need that – we are living through an incredibly stressful time. 

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Here are a few things I’m planning to do to bring back my sense of play! They’re easy and can make a big impact on your mood and outlook.  

  • Cranking up the tunes –  I love good old rock and roll! I can’t wait to tell Alexa to play my favorite 80’s rock playlist and dance around my kitchen with Michael.
  • Taking long walks – Sometimes for exercise, sometimes just for daydreaming. Either way, so much of my joy comes from nature that I am going to be intentional about making this a priority. It never fails to lift my spirits.
  • Dressing up – Even if it’s just jeans with a nice tee and fun jewelry to wear around my house, dressing up has always felt like play for me! June Cleaver used to wear a dress and pearls to cook dinner – you don’t have to go that far but it could be fun to dress up and make yourself a super fancy cocktail!

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  • Meeting up with friends on Zoom – This is a great way to reconnect with friends near and far. Laughing about old times is fun! You can even play games like Pictionary or have a trivia contest.
  • Taking Zumba classes – This is a big one. Nothing feels better than when I’m moving my body! Many gyms are now holding outdoor and virtual online classes – check one out! The music is so fantastic you just can’t help moving to the beat. Even if you think you have two left feet, I urge you to try this fun form of exercise. 
  • Getting more laughs– With so many streaming options to choose from, I’ll have no problem finding comedies old and new to crack me up. There are lots of stand-up comics to be discovered there as well! I’m not in the mood for any tear-jerkers right now (I feel like I get enough of that feeling just reading headlines) – I need some belly laughs!
  • Dreaming – Yes! In the midst of this changing world, I’m going to start changing myself too. The first step in that process is dreaming of future goals and where I want my life to go. I’m going to put together a vision board to help focus my efforts and make my dreams a reality. Try it – it’s fun to dream of the future (especially when the present seems a bit scary and uncertain)!

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This is just a starting point, and I’m sure you have some ideas of your own. If you have a minute, drop me a line and let me know how YOU are going to recover your sense of playfulness. I want to know!

Remember- you landed here because a loving relationship with a man who adores you is one of your most important life goals. 

When you awaken your sense of play, you become irresistible! He is navigating this crazy world too! Men don’t talk about it as much, but they are feeling the heaviness just as much as we are.

And when he sees you, light, carefree and reveling in feminine playfulness, you will be the exact breath of fresh air he’s craving right now!

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How to Shake Off a Rut! (And Get Your Feminine Power back!) | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 16, 2021 

Years ago, when I was newly divorced, I spent many nights sitting alone on my couch feeling despondent and sure that I would never find love again. In fact, there were many times I didn’t even think I WANTED to find love again! I had been so let down and it was hard for me to trust that there were men out there who wouldn’t break my heart.

 

Is that where you are right now? Maybe you’ve had one too many heartbreaks lately and are having a hard time believing in love. If this IS how you’re feeling, my heart goes out to you. It’s such a hard place to be.

 

But that’s why I’m writing this – I want to help you break free from this pattern of thinking. Your true love is out there trying to find you, but you have to help ease his path to your door.

 

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Some things you can do to get back to believing again:

  

  • Acknowledge what’s hurt you in the past. Whether it was cheating, or being talked down to, or feeling like you weren’t a priority, bring it out and think about it. But also think about other times when you met or dated some “good guys” with whom things didn’t ultimately click. Your goal is to remember that there are good ones out there…you just need to find the one who DOES click with you!

 

Also remind yourself that what happened to you is not a reflection of your worth but rather a reflection of the other person’s inability to love. Period! It was THEM, not YOU.

 

  • Change your mind. Plain and simple. You can choose to be miserable, or you can choose to be happy! 

 

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  • Romance yourself. Stop negative self-talk and tell yourself you’re worthy of everything you desire. Treat yourself to some beautiful flowers, delicious chocolates, a spa day…whatever is going to make you feel special. It’ll become a habit that will signal to yourself you’re someone who is deserving of good things.

 

  • Let go of your fear. When we’ve been on the losing end of a relationship, it HURTS! It hurts so much, in fact, that the next time we have a chance with someone that pain turns into something else – fear. Fear of being hurt again, of feeling a fool, of repeating the same mistakes. But do you want to keep your heart completely safe at the risk of never falling in love again? I would hope that thought scares you more than any of the other love-based fears you’re harboring!

 

  • Give someone a chance. In other words, be a little less picky (a little!). It’s virtually impossible to find a man who ticks off all the boxes, so to speak. Maybe you’ve met a quality guy who’s shorter than you are, and that doesn’t at first thought work for you. Does that have to be a deal breaker? Instead of dismissing him, why not get to know him? You might find other qualities in him that can’t be measured with a yardstick.

 

You can take The Commitment Quiz right here, right now. I think you’ll be excited about the insight it gives you into what’s blocking you from the committed relationship you desire.

 

  • Recommit to why you want love in your life. Maybe you’ve been easing off on checking your dating profiles, or letting messages languish. It’s ok to take some time off to just be you, but if you’re sliding from “taking a break” into “it all just seems too complicated,” it’s time to rethink things! Take a stand that you’re still worthy of love, that you deserve to be happy, and get back in the game!

 

Your perfect man won’t be able to connect with you if you shut yourself off from the world. It’s time to get off the couch and go after the love you’ve been waiting for!

 

You can take The Commitment Quiz right here, right now. I think you’ll be excited about the insight it gives you into what’s blocking you from the committed relationship you desire.

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Online Dating – Don’t be afraid of it! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 9, 2021 

According to the hugely successful dating site eHarmony, more than 600,000 of their members have gotten married to people they met on the site. And that’s a stat from just ONE internet dating service!

Clearly, online dating isn’t going away anytime soon, and it can be a fantastic tool to use to practice your dating and conversation skills while you search for your “one and only.” You can learn how to use these sites to weed out poor matches and reel in the good ones! 

I admit I’m a fan – it was online that I met my husband. Trust me, there ARE quality men out there just waiting to connect with you!

“But Jaki,” I can hear you saying, “how do I figure out who’s on there for a relationship and who’s just there for a good time?”

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Let me show you. 

  1. Ask more questions! This is the number one opportunity that women miss when contacting men online. If you see a photo of him standing with his skis, for instance, don’t comment on how beautiful the background scenery is! He’ll just respond with an “It sure was! Thanks!’ And you’re done. Instead, ask a question! How long has he been a skier? Or where does he like to ski? Then you’ve opened a dialogue, and after a bit of back and forth, you can say how nice it was to chat and sign off, leaving the door open for him to contact you again! And if he does, you know he’s interested.

 

  • You can pick dating sites that are more selective in their members and demand more transparency in the beginning about what type of relationship they want. Do your research! Don’t sign up for a “friends with benefits” type site if you want a “looking for a long-term partner” site! There is a site for everyone, n and starting where YOU want to ultimately land is of utmost importance. As Maya Angelou once said, “When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” Don’t try meeting someone who’s clearly just out for a good time in the hopes that you’ll change their mind – it just doesn’t work that way.

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  1. Be true to what you want in a partner and don’t settle. It may take a few go-rounds with some “Mr. Almosts” before you find THE one. You’ve set high standards for yourself in most areas of your life – why would you sell yourself short in this one? Take your time getting to know people. As I said before, the internet is a great way to practice flirting and banter in a low-risk environment via online chatting before deciding to meet in person (ALWAYS in a public place by the way!).

 

  1. Align your personal dating profile with your desire. Don’t try and attract someone by writing what you think men want. You have to start from an authentic place of what YOU want. This doesn’t mean you write “I want a ring within a year!” It means you think long and hard about how you want to be treated. What values are most important to you. The activities you enjoy that you want to share with someone special. Be confident in your choices. The more “into” your own life you are, the more the right guy will hone in on you. You show that you’re dynamic and interesting and not looking for a man to be the center of your life; rather, you want the perfect man to complement your life as it is!

 

I know the prospect of putting yourself out there can be intimidating. But online dating can open you up to a whole new world of possibilities. My advice? Pick a site that most closely aligns with what you want and try it out for a bit. Then if you’re not comfortable or feel like you’re not making good connections, take a week break. Then get back online!  

As always, I’m here to help. You’ve got nothing to lose!

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Is Your Past Pain Sabotaging you? | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 2, 2021 

We all have instances in our lives in which we’re hurt by someone we care about. Even if they occurred long ago (even sometimes as far back as childhood!), these occurrences can impact our present, wreaking havoc on our happiness and our relationships. This ruminating on the past isn’t healthy, but I see so many women struggle with how to handle these emotions so that they can forgive, and most importantly, let go!

 

There are plenty of people walking around today who appear to have it all together, who are functioning very well in society, even “climbing up the ladder” towards career success. But if we look closer into their hearts, you’d see that even they have some kind of constant hurt and pain playing on a loop again and again. Does that sound like you? It likely does; it fits everyone at some point! But to truly live a life of joy and peace, these hurts MUST be finally banished to the past, where they have no power over you.

 

So the question becomes, “How can I move past this and leave it behind?” I know it sounds daunting. Maybe you’ve even tried and decided you weren’t up for it just yet. But please give yourself some credit – you’re stronger than you think! Here are some steps you can take to lessen the impact of those past slings and arrows:

 

  • Stop wondering why you were the target of the hurt. You likely may never know the reason, especially if the person is no longer in your life. Instead of rehashing these old questions with no answers, use that time to make NEW memories and experiences – happier ones that can be concrete reminders that you’re in a different and better place now.

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  • Don’t take things personally. Sometimes – most times! – it isn’t even about you. As I said before, we ALL have painful baggage. Sometimes we just find ourselves in the crosshairs of someone else’s pain, nothing but a convenient target for harmful words or betrayals to be unleashed. No, it doesn’t feel good! But reminding yourself that the act that caused you pain reflects more on the person who caused it than it does on you, can help a lot. 

 

  • Let go of the victim mentality. Continually remembering yourself in victim mode only steals your strength and gives it right back to the person who caused you the pain. You may have been knocked down, but it’s just a part of your life tapestry. You’ve also gotten back up! Be proud of that and remember that you are stronger than you may think.

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  • Forgive. I know, this is a toughie. I’ve been there myself many, many times! Please believe me though, forgiveness not only allows you to finally move on, it is a self-protection mechanism. When you don’t forgive, the anger and resentment eats away at YOUR peace.  It’s like swallowing poison yourself then and asking the other person to die! Forgiveness doesn’t excuse or justify the bad behavior, but it releases us from the toxicity of the wound.

 

This isn’t easy work, but it’s absolutely vital if you want to call in a new relationship and grow it from clean and pure ground!

 

Forgiving the past sends a powerful message to the universe that you have made space to receive a bright and beautiful future! 

 

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Is He Bread-Crumbing You? | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· February 23, 2021 

Ladies, there is yet another new dating buzz word that I need you to be aware of. It’s called breadcrumbing and in my opinion it’s even worse than ghosting! Why? Because as painful and irritating it is to be ghosted, at least you know it’s time to move on. With breadcrumbing, a man keeps you hanging on through the least amount of effort he can – in effect, tossing you crumbs –  and leaves you wondering if he really wants to date you, or if you’re just a back-up plan. You may know it as being strung along. He gives you just enough attention to keep you around, running hot and cold depending on his whims and his schedule. Not cool at all! Here are some red flags to look out for to guard against this obnoxious behavior!

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  • You get sporadic communication from him – a text here, a DM there (oh do they love the DMs!)…and not on a daily basis. It’s almost like these guys have ESP. When you finally get fed up with the inconsistency, they sense it and crank up the contact for a few days in a row or a week. You get your hopes up and then – crickets for days. Again. Ugh!! Remember, it takes only seconds to send someone a text; if he can’t even do that, do you really think he’s planning a fabulous weekend away with you? 
  • He isn’t one to make concrete plans a week ahead of time (or ever in some cases!). He knows he doesn’t have to, because you’re so into him he can drop you a line at 7 PM on Friday asking if he can stop by later that evening…and you know what he’s looking for. Don’t be his booty call!
  • He often cancels plans you do manage to make, and you get the impression he got a better offer. Multiple times.
  • He becomes offended if you point out his rotten behavior. Then, just to prove he isn’t doing it, he will pour on the attention for a little while. That is, until you’re comfortable. Get ready to pick up those crumbs again!
  • Your BS meter is going through the roof! Women know when we aren’t someone’s priority. The trouble is, we often fall into the trap of thinking we can change the behavior. That if we just give him some time to see how wonderful things could be, he’ll come around. I want you to stop doing this. Pay heed to that inner voice that’s tipping you off about the middle-of-the-night texts that say “thinking of you” when he hasn’t thought enough to actually see you in person in weeks! Don’t make excuses for him.

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Friends, your time and love are just too precious to waste on low quality men who play games like this! The cost of maintaining contact with someone who breadcrumbs comes in the form of uncertainty and anxiety, never wanting to be without your phone lest you miss a message from him, or keeping your calendar open in case he has some free time. It’s not happening! You deserve better than this manipulative situation (and believe me, it is – there’s plenty of forethought!) 

Please know that there are quality men out there who, like you, have had enough of the games and who know time is valuable. Stop collecting those crumbs! Tell this guy his little birdie is flying the coop… and mean it.

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