Date High Value!

In today’s video, I’m pretty much unplugged. Delivering heartfelt wisdom from the hallway of the Thompson Hotel in Nashville. A perfect (although not conventional) example of being high value.

Thanks for being here. June will be our high-value month and we’re going to deep dive into the nuances of value.

Mark your calendar and please join me every Thursday (June 2021) LIVE at 3:00 pm Pac., 5 pm CST., 6 pm EST.

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Time to speak your truth

We’ve all been living differently for about a year now, and for many people, spending a lot more time on one’s own can dredge up emotional issues that were long suppressed. Did you experience that? If so, that can be a tough thing to carry as you attempt to date online now. Coronavirus dating was/is all about a new brand of digital intimacy, and maybe now, a year in, you’re finding that you struggle to make real connections because of all the blocks that have resurfaced! You’re afraid to speak up and speak your truth.

You’re not alone!

There are thousands of people who have turned SO inward in the face of isolation, that they’ve all but forgotten how to meet new people! 

But you MUST overcome this and put yourself out there! Learning to tip-toe your way into intimacy and truth with a man even when social restrictions seem to make it difficult, is KEY to manifesting the love you want.

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One of the best online dating profiles I’ve seen lately was 100% real. She wasn’t trying to be anything but herself. It went something like this:

“Single mom quarantined with two crazy monkeys (kids) in dire need of adult contact (wine) but hesitant to date (because, you know, pandemic death risk). Let me know if you’re interested in getting to know a sassy (sarcastic), chilled out (exhausted) and open-minded mom of two. P.S. I like my space and won’t answer messages during The Bachelor.”

My guess is that she was BOMBARDED with messages and the good news? She is in charge. She can respond or not! She was honest, she set boundaries. And the same can be true for you .

If you’re too afraid to speak up about your truth and set boundaries, your self-esteem suffers AND your partner will lose respect for you. What’s worse you’ll feel doubly betrayed – by yourself for not speaking up, and by your partner for overstepping! This just leads to a spiral of confusion and hard feelings.

Another way staying silent can hurt is that it causes many women to distance themselves emotionally. And in this age of social distancing, the emotional bond is more important than ever! This is a time for truth and not settling for anything that doesn’t make you feel fulfilled and happy, because there are enough things in the world that drain you. Staying emotionally connected to a partner can help get you through the tough days. 

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And think about it- it’s never been easier to protect yourself! You are separated by a computer screen and possibly thousands of miles and social distancing regulations (which seem to be lifting now). If you’re not vibing with someone, just cut ties and move on! The silver lining of this pandemic is that you have more space than ever to really zero in on what you want and release the rest without fear of awkward in-person run-ins!

Usually, not being able to find and use your voice springs from one thing -FEAR. Fear of rejection, fear of being seen, fear of not being good enough…they can all render you speechless (believe me, I have been there). But being fear driven is no way to live and love. It isn’t until you can overcome that fear that you’ll truly be able to present your authentic self and use your voice to the utmost.

What fears are you struggling with most right now? I’m sure you’re not alone. Let’s get a discussion going in the comments! 

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Come closer, but not TOO close! (The Importance of Good Boundaries!)

Have you ever considered just how important setting strong boundaries is for dating? Sound counterintuitive? After all, we want the men to come CLOSER right? Well….sort of!

Boundaries are vital because boundaries – what you will and won’t accept from a relationship  – keep you feeling safe and confident in your own values and preferences. THEY MATTER.

When we don’t have any parameters, and instead acquiesce to whatever requests come our way, in spite of how we might feel, we become uncomfortable and even resentful, right? And is that good for the relationship? No way! It isn’t good for your mental well-being, either, and that is a really important point to remember.

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Remember, men aren’t mind readers. You need to teach them how to treat you, and boundary setting can help. When you have strong, healthy boundaries, you show that you have strong and healthy self-esteem. Trust me, men respect women who communicate healthy boundaries early and often – quality men do not want to date a doormat!

The key, though, is in HOW you establish those boundaries. Time to get out your “feather,” ladies! You want to gently and consistently present what makes you comfortable as opposed to going on the defensive and withdrawing or acting out when he oversteps his bounds (especially when he may not even realize that he has!). He’ll be much more receptive if things are made clear ahead of time, lovingly and honestly. 

It’s not always just in what you say, but how you say it!

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I want you to take some time and think about where you are with your boundaries – in setting them, communicating them, and reacting when you feel they’ve been violated. Are you forthright or wishy-washy? Do you react viscerally, or do you withdraw? Unless your answers make you feel content and proud, you have some work to do. Future partners will thank you. It’s as much for his sake as it is for yours. 

Remember, boundaries give a relationship structure and help you attract and keep the kind of man you want. If you find yourself with a man who isn’t respecting yours after you’ve made them clear, it’s time to move on to someone who does!

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