Dating can be exhausting. Sometimes in good ways, other times in bad. In most cases though, going on dates with different men all the time, only to never feel stable in a relationship can actually lead to dating burnout.
So how many men do you have to date to find the one? There’s no magic number.
But there are ways to keep dating, searching and having fun, without feeling burned out.
Here are 4 steps to take to avoid dating burnout…
- Stop overthinking – Overthinking can be an energy drain that will usually keep you stuck in the past or worried about the future. If you are overthinking, you will find a lot of times that it’s hard to move past painful experiences in your past and to not let negativity creep into the future. When you overthink, you tend to waste time going over scenarios in your head and stressing about what he said, or what you should have said or done. This is a total waste of time! You can’t change the past, so don’t overthink it. Get out of your head and into the present moment where all of the power is!
- Detach from outcomes – It’s easy to attach or set your mind on an outcome. That’s because our mind is always seeking safety zones. Our mind likes to create stories and scenarios about how things should work out, but this is a dangerous game to allow your mind to play on you! Don’t get stuck on an outcome. Go with the flow and stay open to new possibilities. Otherwise, you waste energy hoping for things that might not happen, or trying to “figure out” what’s happening next. This will only lead to you missing signs about what’s really going on, and thus, wasting energy. Rigid thinking lacks flexibility, so going with the flow is the most energy efficient way to think and act. Your feminine energy should be like water—always moving, easily flowing around obstacles and embracing change at every turn. This detachment will set you free and make it possible to enjoy the journey of life, all while the universe handles the details!
- Acceptance yourself and situation – It’s so important to accept exactly who you are and where you are in your journey to find love. Don’t ever forget—you are where you are supposed to be to achieve your highest potential. Everything you are experiencing is bringing you closer to your dream man. When we resist accepting ourselves or where we are, we create emotional blocks. These emotional blocks actually keep us from finding the love that we want and deserve. Be willing to take risks, or throw some gutter balls along the way, to learn and find love.
- Validate your feelings – It’s very hard to feel positive about dating if you’re burned out. You don’t have to deny that you’re having a hard time. In fact, it’s helpful to validate your own emotional experiences, rather than to beat yourself up for feeling down. Start out by naming your feelings and giving value to them. Be your own best friend in this process. Don’t ever deny or resist your natural, normal feelings. If you feel disappointed, it’s ok. For example, you might even validate yourself by saying, “it’s normal I feel disappointed. Anyone who is going through what I am would feel exactly the same way.” When you give value to your feelings without repressing them, you will feel better faster and will be more emotionally ready for new experiences and love.
Bottom line, you will meet your soulmate! Everything you are experiencing now is preparing you to have an incredible connection with a man.
And, this journey to love starts with you! So, if you’ve been feeling burned out, get back into the game! Do a self-check… Why do you want a man? Why are you dating?
Write your answers down and reference it when you tired of dating! When you have a clear vision on why you want what you want, it helps you to stay the course when things feel harder than usual.
Your man is out there looking for you! Never give up. Never give in.