When spring hits, Mother Nature thaws the landscape so everything can come alive again. When the ground is frozen, it blocks seeds from taking root. It blocks streams from flowing. It blocks animals from getting what they need to thrive.
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Let’s take a lesson from Spring and thaw our blocks and inhibitions. These things are keeping you from achieving what you want: a loving, committed, successful relationship!
These are just three things that I want you to focus on melting away this spring so you can let love into your life:
- Your fear. This is a big one. Change can be scary, so we sometimes sabotage ourselves even though we want a big change in our lives. When you’re used to doing your own thing, used to making decisions that basically only affect you, you might be sabotaging your ability to find someone to spend time with because your brain is trying to protect you from change. “I’m fine by myself.” “It’s a hassle to discuss buying a new microwave with someone instead of just doing it.” “I know how to use a drill. I even have my own!” Are these just statements of independence, or are you trying to rationalize not having a man in your life because you’re scared of change. Yes, independence is good. But, if you want a man in your life, don’t lean too hard into these statements or you may talk yourself out of dating altogether!
- Past heartaches. Nearly everyone has had a messy breakup in their lives. But if you keep holding onto that pain, it can keep you from moving on to better things. Remember that you are no longer with that person for a reason: the relationship didn’t work. Period. Also recall that not all men are alike (and it drives me crazy when women use this to justify their behavior). Everyone has different experiences, different upbringings, different traumas, different choices that impact them and what they do today. Did he cheat on you? That doesn’t mean that every man is a cheater (though there are red flags for this you should be aware of). Did he hate cooking? That doesn’t mean that all men are lazy or can’t cook. And maybe there was a good reason he didn’t like cooking! Consider what you learned about yourself from the previous heartaches, understand that it doesn’t have to be a pattern, forgive yourself and him for whatever happened, and move on. You deserve to be happy!
- How you show up. Sometimes, you just have to focus on you! Remember that the love, confidence, and strength that you project are what will attract a man, so make sure that you aren’t blocking the right one from coming into your life altogether. Think about it. When you are out by yourself (i.e. more approachable), are you worrying about work or your kids? Are you going over a frustrating conversation in your head? These things show in your posture, your facial expression and the energy you give off. If you want a man who is worthy of you and all that you offer the world, then do yourself a favor and relax. Journal about the issue, talk with a friend, box a punching bag. Get the negative energy out in a positive way so you can enjoy what you’re doing and be present. Even if you don’t meet “the one” you’ll still have a nicer time, whether you’re at the grocery store or at an art festival. You have to love spending time with yourself before someone else can enjoy spending time with you.
When you focus on thawing out these issues and letting them melt away, you will not only feel better, but you will significantly up your chances of finding love!
These are some of the concepts I teach in my signature program Engaged at Any Age®. Just click here to schedule a call with me and discover if Engaged at Any Age® is right for you!
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