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How to Avoid The Hookups | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 10, 2020 

Do you ever feel like you need to put “Serious relationship inquiries only” on your online dating profile? Does it seem like most of the guys out there are just looking for a hookup? 

If that resonated with you, I’m sure you are feeling the frustration. You meet someone with potential, and he’s perfect on paper, but when you want to meet him, he asks you to come over for “a movie and cuddles.” Seriously?

I don’t care if he is a math professor and a model—that is NOT what you’re looking for. And you deserve so much more. 

Finding a guy who wants something more than a casual hook up when you meet them in the real world may seem like a challenge, but those guys really are out there. It is easier to talk about intentions online than in real life, so when you talk to them, let them know what you’re looking for. Be honest. 

Usually, they will be honest, too, if they are only looking to hook up (after all, they aren’t going to meet their goal with you!). Then you don’t have to worry about wasting your time on a “date” that is heading in the wrong direction. 

But a word of caution, name, don’t settle! If you suspect that he’s only looking to hook up, trust your gut, and don’t waste your time. And if you go out with a guy who only wants to hook up, don’t do it thinking that you can change his mind. Remember, men are pretty stubborn. If he wants a hookup, that’s probably all he wants! 

You know what you want. Don’t compromise!

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Categories : Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

3 Lies that Sabotage Dating & Relationships | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 8, 2020 

Relationships are built on mutual trust, so it doesn’t make sense to start out with a lie, right? But it happens all the time. People post an old picture of themselves twenty pounds lighter on a dating site. Or they are “exclusively” dating two or more people! 

I know that you don’t want to try getting into a relationship on the wrong foot because nothing good will come of that. So here are the three most common lies that can sabotage dating and relationships.   

  1. You say you are available, but you are not legally.

Lying about availability for a relationship is devastating for partners who discover their significant other has been dishonest. Sometimes people lie and say they are single when they are not, or they may lie about whether they have children. This is never fair to the person being lied to, or to the people being lied about. 

If you’re in the middle of a divorce, be honest about it. And if you’re married, then you especially should be honest about it. You would want the same level of honesty from someone you are dating, too. Nothing good can come from lying about your availability. 

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  1. Pretending you’re ok when you’re not.

You should never lie about anything that bothers you in the relationship. You can be honest in an open but sensitive, tactful manner. Avoiding real communication, even if conflict arises, will take away from forming and maintaining an authentic relationship. You can’t expect any relationship to be completely free of disagreement. And you have to stand up for your needs and desires, too.  

Lying about your feelings can range from where you want to eat dinner, to where you want to live. In many relationships, lying about sexual satisfaction is also common. Pretending to enjoy a less than satisfactory sex life is bound to sabotage your relationship eventually. Lying often becomes a slippery slope that becomes easier to do than telling the truth 

  1. You cheated or he’s cheating.

If you’re cheating on your partner, then they may think something is wrong, and grasp at clues, to try to figure out what it is. Worse, when you aren’t honest about what’s going on, the lack of communication between the two of you may push them to spy, go through your wallet or phone, or search for information any way that they can find it. Lying, especially long-term, about any behavior or action is very wrong, and unfair to your partner. Consider what it can do to them? They probably abhor who they have become in the relationship, as a result.  

Even worse, is trying to make them think that the situation is all in their head, and that you are innocent of any wrong doing. Your partner wants to believe you. They love you. They want to think you would never lie to them. Cut it out. It’s cruel to live a lie—any lie. Both of you deserve better. 

Do build your relationship from a strong foundation that includes honesty. You wouldn’t be happy with someone you’re dating knowing that he lied to you. How will you know when the lies stop, right? 

And you want and deserve the same respect, so don’t let someone do this to you either. If you’re being lied to, then stand up for yourself. Lying is just not acceptable in a healthy relationship. 

Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams. 

Categories : Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How to Find Love After 40 | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 3, 2020 

In today’s video I shared several steps you need to take to become the best version of yourself, the version that will be most appealing to men.  

Heal. Become more intimate with yourself.  

Take care of your body, mind, spirit. Look at who you surround yourself with. Forgive. These are just a few. I answered questions too! 

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Categories : Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

2021 – It’s All About Authenticity! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 1, 2020 

Can you believe this year is almost behind us?

I admit, at times it has felt more like a decade, than a year! But we all have persevered, and there are still good times ahead.

One thing 2020 has taught us is that our lives are unpredictable. One thing you can always have to fall back on when the world is going crazy is your own sense of self. I can’t tell you how important being true to yourself is, both for your own mental health AND in the pursuit of finding the ONE.

When you are comfortable deep down with you who are, that shines through every fiber of your being! It becomes almost effortless to show the world that you are a high-value woman who is full of unshakeable confidence. Do you have any idea how attractive that is to quality men? Spoiler alert – it’s through the roof!

Good men are looking for an equal. A quality man wants a woman who is excited about things in her own life, not just in his. He wants to be proud of the radiant light that shines from WITHIN you.

2020 took us all to the edge, but there is a gift in that. When life turned upside down, we were given an opportunity to really think about what’s important to us, what we want, what we no longer have room for, what we refuse to live without!

So really think about that!

If 2020 shut down life and wiped the slate clean, what do you want to create next year? Who do you want to be? What will you no longer tolerate? What will now get your focus?

I urge you to look within in the coming weeks and see if you’re living a life that feels authentic to you. If there are areas where you feel like you’re just keeping up appearances, it’s time to think about ditching them! Life is just too short (and too complicated!) to spend it juggling a bunch of things that just don’t serve who you really are.

The goal isn’t perfection. Rather, it’s about being proud of your values, your work, your hobbies, your interests…and not apologizing for any of it.

Try it! You may find yourself with not only a fabulous new attitude, but a fabulous new man, as well!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Essence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Combat the Holiday Blues! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 24, 2020 

The holidays might look different, but the desire to share them is the same!

Pandemic or no pandemic, the holidays are coming!

And even though the celebratory social whirl that comes along with that might not be the same this year, the messages we receive are the same – among them, that the holidays are a time of romantic and joyful togetherness. It’s in our social media feeds, Hallmark movies, and commercials. And it can be relentless. I’d say that this is the hardest time of the year to be single.

I remember many Decembers myself where I longed for someone special to curl up with me and watch cozy holiday specials by the fire or meet me under the mistletoe.

That’s why I’m using this space today to share some ways to beat the holiday blues and enjoy the season. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in your mindset to change things around!

You can use this special time of the year, in fact, to practice extra self-care and give yourself extra love. Relax, recharge, and share your joy with others (even if it’s through Zoom!).

To avoid feelings of loneliness:

1. Stay in touch with potential quality men you meet online. The holidays themselves are a great source of conversation topics! Special childhood memories, crazy traditions, hopes for 2021, favorite holiday treats…the list is endless. With COVID limiting dating, it’s actually less pressure on a budding relationship through this time of year! You can enjoy someone’s virtual company without the added stress of “do I buy him a gift?” or “do I ask him to dinner with my family,” etc. etc.! Put on a gorgeous top, have a glass of eggnog, and continue getting to know some people! You may be busier in the new year than you can even handle!

  • (An addendum to this is, show up for any Zoom “parties” you might be invited to. You just never know when a great guy will be in one of those little squares! And if not, it’s so easy to sign off.)

2. Take advantage of the free time you may now have in your schedule to cater to one person – you. It’s natural to be disappointed when long-anticipated parties or events are canceled but maybe you’re also a little relieved! Read that novel on your nightstand. Cook yourself your favorite meal. Nap. Work out. Meditate. Clean your closet. Ask yourself what would make you feel happiest – and do those things!

3. Remember that this too shall pass. Meaning both the pandemic and your single state. It’s hard to be patient in the face of the unknown, when there is no firm answer to the age-old question of “WHEN???” Keep your eyes focused forward and keep working towards your goal of finding that special someone. Remember, he’s out there somewhere in the same boat as you, wondering when you will arrive, and how, and hoping that next year he will be kissing you at midnight on New Year’s Eve!

You can be by yourself without feeling totally alone or full of self-pity. It’s ok to have some moments of doubt, of course, but try to limit them! You are so very special, and there IS a man out there who deserves you.

BONUS TIP-

Wanting is the opposite of HAVING.

So, focus on gratitude for what you DO have this holiday season and you will raise your manifesting ability sky high!

Cheers!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How to Know if He’s the One | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 19, 2020 

The quest to find our one true “person” is always on the forefront of our minds. It’s almost impossible to escape the desire to find our soulmates when rom-coms are flooding our television screens, adorable couples are taking over our Instagram pages and most of our friends are coupled up or getting engaged and married.   

Your one true love will affect your life in more ways than just putting a smile on your face or giving you butterflies. Click below to watch the video:

Take the CommittmentQuiz.com and discover what is keeping you from a committed relationship.
Categories : All About You, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

5 Secret Things Men Need from Women | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 17, 2020 
· 2 Comments

I admit it. I feel a little sorry for men sometimes.  

Let me explain.  

Even now, in the 21st century, cultural conditioning has led them to believe that they must fit into certain boxes of masculinity. Boxes that tell them things like 

“Be a man”  

And  

“Women like tough guys” 

And 

“Suck it up” 

In other words, men are taught to suppress their feelings, never be insecure, walk with confidence and swagger, and not EVER cry. 

Doesn’t that sound a bit harsh? Not to mention unfair. 

I think so. I also think that that’s why men NEED our feminine energy now more than ever! Our openness and empathy can help them let down their guard and release everything they have bottled up inside – and they need that! You can use this knowledge to make yourself irresistible. Here’s what you need to know. 

Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block! 

1. He wants you to like him for everything he IS, not everything he HAS. Acknowledge that you understand the pressure he’s under to provide. Know that he has a deep desire to be loved for things other than the material, and make sure you mention to him the non-material ways he fulfills you, emotionally, sexually, romantically – the list is vast. Remember, men want you to validate that their efforts are seen and appreciated. Just like women, they like compliments too. Just like women, they want to know that they are satisfying you. They won’t ask for this reinforcement, but if you give it, it will be returned to you a hundred times over. He will do more and give more of himself when he knows it makes a difference. 

2. Men have a natural need to PLEASE you. The stumbling block comes because men and women tend to value different things. Sometimes, what men do for women goes unnoticed or not commented upon because the action isn’t something women value. For instance, when was the last time you went gaga over your man cleaning your car? Take note of the things he does for you, even if you don’t think it’s a big deal. Even something as simple as commenting positively on their choice of restaurants is enough. Men LOVE to hear that they did a great job!  

3. Let him lead as often as you can. When a decision needs to be made, but the outcome isn’t really important to you, this is the perfect time to say yes to whatever he decides. Learn to surrender to his masculine side. I know this sounds wrong, but it’s actually a way to lean MORE into your feminine side, giving him a chance to take care of you the best way he knows how. A great example is if you’re planning a romantic getaway. All you care about is being with him and that there is a quiet beach. After that, let his imagination run wild! This is a fun and healthy way to let his masculinity take charge. (An unhealthy version of this is, for instance, letting him decide who your friends are, or when you can see your family or other things of that nature. Your gut will know the difference!) 

4. Give him permission to express how he’s feeling. You are his safe place to fall. When something bad happens in his life that makes him cry, it’s imperative that you let him experience these emotions. The best thing you can do for him is to hold him, and afterward kiss him passionately to let him know that he’s still your man, attractive and masculine. 

5. He wants you to meet him where he is, even if you’re not totally into it. This isn’t about subjects like marriage or children if you’re not ready. Think instead of a guy who loves golf. He comes home with a new, super-expensive driver that is supposed to improve his game dramatically. Instead of lecturing him about the expense and what will happen if his game DOESN’T improve, etc., you want to be excited with him and tell him you can’t wait to see his next scorecard! Please note, this tip doesn’t mean you lose yourself in HIS hobbies…you can be supportive of his interests while still tending to your own (men find this attractive, too). 

When it comes down to it, men and women are not really that different. We all have the same basic human needs to feel loved and appreciated, to express ourselves and our feelings.  

Give your man the space to do just that and he will give you his love and loyalty in return. And maybe a 3-carat diamond. 😉  

Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block! 

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Categories : Beliefs, Feminine Essence, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Use the LOA to Attract Your Soulmate | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 12, 2020 

Everything you think say and do is being broadcast out to the universe and it comes back as pictures in your life.  Your life reflects what you’ve been thinking about!  

Most of your thoughts (until you become conscious of them) are very negative, for example,  “I’m not good enough”  There are no good men” “It’s not safe to open my heart.” 

Today’s video we examine the most predominate thoughts that may be sabotaging you and what to do about it! Click here to watch the video now.  

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Categories : Attraction, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy
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