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How to meet men in real life! | Jaki Sabourin

Posted by Addy 
· June 16, 2022 

I know a lot of women out there think there are no good men left!

I hear it all the time.

What happened to the man making the first move? Why don’t they approach me?

Well, it could be the signals you’re sending!

Here are 5 simple ways to meet great men in real life.

1. Create free time – If your schedule is so packed with work and trips and family that you cannot put yourself out there, things need to change. Create free time on your calendar. Literally, pencil in time to put yourself out there with the sole intention of meeting some men. Sometimes it means saying no to invitations. If you keep getting invited places with couples and you’re the only single one, say no and head out yourself!

They say that the universe will provide but you’ve got to make SPACE for it. (One friend of mine cleared out half of her drawers in anticipation of a man someday living with her and believe it or not, within 6 months she had met that man!)

2. Look unoccupied– Stop looking so darn busy! A man will not approach you if he feels like he is bothering or interrupting you. So, if you’re at a coffee shop don’t keep your head down and look at your phone the whole time. Look around! Make eye contact!

If you look unoccupied, you appear OPEN to company.

3. Become more visible– You can’t be stuck in a herd, hidden in the middle of a group of women, and expect to meet a man. Men are intimated by groups of women. Stand by yourself! Smile, look around, and choose a table out in the open instead of the corner. Maybe even wear brighter colors and stand out a bit! And of course, get out of the house! Volunteer at festivals, get online and find out what happens in your city this weekend and be there ready to mingle!

4. Move closer– Where are the men? Wherever they are, move closer! If there is a group of men near a window, position yourself closer to them. It sounds so simple but so many women just don’t do it. Walk by the group, smile! Yes, it’s bold but it works.

5. Give him a clear signal– This is by far the BEST signal you can give if you see a guy you’re interested in. Smile and make eye contact. But take it a step further and HOLD the eye contact for 5 seconds. If you do that, he will figure out that what you’re actually doing is sending an invitation. It might feel awkward but give it a go. That is the easiest way to get a man to talk to you. If it doesn’t work, that’s ok. He may be married or have a girlfriend, or maybe he’s gay, who knows! Don’t take it personally. Keep practicing that and you’ll find yourself talking to more men than ever before.

This isn’t about wishing and hoping. I created this business to put WOMEN in the driver’s seat. You can consciously create the love of your dreams. Tap into your Goddess confidence and go get your man!

 

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Categories : All About You, Create the Life You Want, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

People Pleasing | Jaki Sabourin

Posted by Addy 
· May 31, 2022 

Have you ever found yourself making sure everyone around you is happy and taken care of even when it means you are NOT!?!

This is so common for women.

Most of us were raised to be people pleasers. We grew up realizing that we were expected to make everyone else comfortable! I watched my mother do this her whole life.

Whether it was a friend or a man, she catered, and because of that, I learned to cater too!

It might sound counterintuitive, but putting everyone else is not “kindness.” In fact, it’s often a form of self-sabotage.

You see when you spend your life orbiting around other people’s suns, you might tell yourself that you just like to help, but eventually, you end up resentful!

It’s martyr syndrome!

Here’s an example.

Have you ever had a friend who seemed to be in crisis a lot? And even if that friend didn’t ask for a lot of help from you, you found yourself calling her often, bringing her dinner, offering to help out, and constantly checking in with her until one day you have HAD IT!

And that’s the day you lose it on her or talk about her to someone else because you feel the relationship is one-sided.

I hate to tell you this, but that’s on YOU! And you’re not alone.

When we learn to orbit around the suns of others instead of our own, we are on the fast path to resentment and regret.

This is especially true in romantic relationships.

But shouldn’t I want to make my man happy?

Yes. But not at the expense of yourself. Not if making him happy causes you to ignore and betray your own needs and certainly not if deep down your acts of kindness of conditional and require reciprocity!

This isn’t your fault. When you’re doing this it’s a deeply rooted fear of abandonment. You hope that if you just give and give and give, this person will never leave you.

You hope that if you meet their needs, you’ll never have to feel the shame of not being enough to them. This is so disempowering.

You are already enough! And you never need to betray yourself to keep a friend OR a man.

The best way to STOP this pattern in its tracks is to take a deep breath and tune into your heart, which is in this case, your sun.

Ask yourself “What is my intention here? Why am I doing this?”

When your intention is clear and unconditional, go for it! Buy the gift, make the call, and help the friend!

But if you tune in and can honestly admit that there is some ulterior motive, even if that motive is just to avoid abandonment, keep yourself in check!

This is something my private clients and I go DEEP with because most of the women who come to me are successful in every other area of their lives but have decades of people-pleasing programming to release. And it’s POWERFUL once you do!

I take a few private clients per year. If you’d like to learn more about how to work with me privately, click here.

Love,

Categories : All About You, Create the Life You Want, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

5 Things Men Find Unattractive | Jaki Sabourin

Posted by Addy 
· April 28, 2022 

Me and Michael at the La Jolla Beach and Tennis Club

Here’s the thing about men- we often make them more complicated than they are!

I’m not saying that men don’t have any depth, but their needs and wants are usually pretty simple!

And sometimes, we try to guess what they want, and we get it dead wrong. So why guess? I’ve asked Michael what turns men on and what turns them OFF. Below are the top six things that repel men. Believe these. Believe and avoid!

1. Talking too much – This can happen when you are nervous and it’s the fastest way to get friend-zoned. Don’t make the mistake of sharing every little detail with him. He may be acting like he’s listening, but inside he’s checking out. Not only will he start having visions of a life FILLED with your endless chatter, but one thing men DO find attractive is a little mystery! And you’re not leaving any mystery if you talk non-stop. Men like a little bit of an adventure. They want to explore you. So leave something to be explored and save the chit-chat for your girlfriend.

2. Too Much makeup – The natural look is best. I’m not saying you can’t wear anything at all, we all like to enhance what we’ve got, but overdone makeup, (like drawn-on eyebrows), too much eye shadow, or bright lipstick is a turnoff. Men love the more natural look because they like to know that they are seeing the real you. Here’s the bottom line- if you’re embarrassed to have a man see you without your makeup, you’re wearing too much!

3. Brown or dingy teeth – This might seem obvious, but as we get older, our teeth show it as much as the tiny lines around our eyes! And sometimes, we are just so used to looking at ourselves in the mirror that we just don’t see it. Use whitening strips regularly, especially if you drink coffee or red wine. Your smile is your calling card.

4. Dressing too sexy – What!? I know, conventional wisdom says that men like a woman in a skimpy dress. But that’s not actually true. The trick is to show skin that is not as obviously sexy. Like, for instance, wearing an off-the-shoulder top or cold shoulder top. Definitely, no thongs showing out of your jeans and no bra straps showing. Keep the undergarments under! You also want to avoid showing too much cleavage or too much leg. Remember, you want to pique his interest but leave a few things to his imagination!

5. Swearing – Do not swear like a truck driver on dates. He’ll be running for the hills. Never ever use an “F” bomb. You want to be seen as a lady, not his biker buddy. Of course, you’re not expected to completely edit yourself, but you do want to be mindful of this. Especially at first. Speak as though his mother (or yours) is listening!

It’s not that hard. Look good, speak right, and be a little mysterious. I want to be clear, I am not asking you to be fake, just mindful. You would want the same in return!

Love,

💖Go here to read about joining my Inner Circle: The Engaged at Any Age Inner Circle is your best chance to fulfill your mission and find a quality man. Get access to my team and me every week, receive advice and feedback you need to move forward on your love journey, and so much more! Go here to read about it and sign up!

Categories : All About You, Create the Life You Want, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Do you have a Man Plan? | Jaki Sabourin

Posted by Addy 
· April 26, 2022 

How you do one thing is how you do all things! 

Spring being in the air never fails to give me a sense of hope and renewal! To that end, I decided recently to undergo a 21-day cleanse to give my body a reset. Little did I know it would help reset my mind, too!  I’ll be kicking up my heels on Maui tomorrow, but for the first ten days of the program, I pretty much ate fruits and veggies only, staying hydrated with water. I was able to add in fish protein for the final week and WOW, I love seafood but I have never been so happy to eat it! To adhere to such a strict plan, even for just 3 weeks, was tough.

It was a real commitment to stay with it! But it was that commitment that helped me stay on track and keep my word to myself.  I wanted to do this to feel fresh and renewed at the end of the 3 weeks. I’m happy to say, in spite of being tested mentally and physically every day, I didn’t falter, and was rewarded with five pounds gone and better sleep than I’ve had in years. I feel so great, in fact, that I am going to stay on this path!

I tell you all of this because, as I reflected on the past few weeks, I’m reminded of how women need to commit to a plan, a strategy, to find real love and create healthy relationships. 

How you do one thing is how you do all things! If you find yourself unwilling to COMMIT to PLAN when it comes to diet and exercise or to your career, you will likely find yourself stumbling along, making mistakes, giving up too easily, and wasting time with the wrong men.

I get it, I do. Sometimes it’s easier to give in and go on a date with the wrong guy just to have something to do, or avoid feeling lonely. 

But when you have a set goal – a lifetime with the man you were meant to have – and a plan to follow, those low times with “easy outs” are outweighed by clarity and resolve! You feel better and better each day and have a sense of pride for sticking with your commitment. PLUS – when you stay on track, you will be rewarded at the end with the relationship you’ve always wanted.

So let me ask you – do you have a Man Plan? Or are you just “winging it?” Think of how you’re feeling right now. Are you happy with how things are going? If not, you are due for a reset of your own to get you back on track for finding the RIGHT man for you. 

💖Go here to read about joining my Inner Circle: The Engaged at Any Age Inner Circle is your best chance to fulfill your mission and find a quality man. Get access to my team and me every week, receive advice and feedback you need to move forward on your love journey, and so much more! Go here to read about it and sign up!

Categories : All About You, Create the Life You Want, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

It’s morbid but true… – Jaki Sabourin – Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Addy 
· April 19, 2022 

I was reminded recently of something that none of us likes to think about but is also inevitable.

Time is flying by!

Time is the only resource that cannot be renewed, and the one flaw that all humans share is that we all assume we will have enough of it.

I recently ran into an old friend. She told me a story about how she had run into an old colleague. They had shared a mutual friend she hadn’t seen in years, and when she asked about her, her colleague very sadly told her that their mutual friend had died.

That woman was only in her 50’s and was full of life the last time my friend had seen her.

It got us talking about how abruptly our lives can be over and many times, without warning!

We started talking about how so many of us fall victim to “someday syndrome.”

We know exactly what we want, but we tell ourselves a million stories. We tell ourselves it isn’t the right time that we’ll do it “someday” but not now.

For thousands of people, there is no such thing as someday!

And I can tell you for sure that my only regret with Michael is that I didn’t meet him sooner. I would love to have even more time with him!

I’m not trying to sound morbid, but this is a truth we all have to face.

Time is always moving. Always burning up.

So what exactly do you want, and how long are you going to wait to get it?

If you’re clear on your desires, whether that desire is a new home, a new job, or a man who loves you, start moving!

“Someday syndrome” is a thief!

Give yourself the gift of MORE time with your heart’s desires by going after them NOW!

 

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Dating

The Ex Files – Jaki Sabourin – Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Addy 
· April 12, 2022 

Recently I talked about how many women struggle to get over their exes.

It doesn’t matter how dysfunctional a relationship is, a breakup can destabilize even the strongest women because it triggers our smaller, scared selves.

“What if he was the best I’ll ever get?”

“What if I am alone forever now?”

These are fear-based statements that leave you in a state of CLINGING to what no longer serves you or wants you or for that matter KNOWS you.

There is a wonderful book by author Sue Monk Kidd called “When the Heart Waits.”

In it, she describes the root of the word “clinging.” She explains that it’s from the Anglo-Saxon word “clingan” which means “to shrink.”

When you cling, you shrink! You are made smaller. You are sent backward to a version of yourself you are ready to outgrow!

Sure it’s unsettling, after all, none of us knows what the future holds.

But you DO know what the past holds! You DO know what that relationship was like and all of the factors that led to its unraveling. So why would you want to hold onto that?

The reality is, you aren’t clinging to your ex, you’re clinging to a vision you had that never materialized. But you’ve got to take off your blinders. That wasn’t reality, it was potential, and a man’s unrealized potential can steal YEARS from you.

My girlfriend always said, “Don’t marry potential, marry reality!” Good advice.

Now, it’s time to look forward. Love the unknown in the same way you love a beautifully wrapped present that you haven’t yet opened! You likely don’t get mad about not knowing what’s inside. You delight in the mystery!

So let go, move on, and instead of shrinking, RISE and EXPAND into a new and better love!

PS: I’m on a mission to coach as many women as possible into a meaningful relationship. That’s why I’ve opened my Inner Circle to help you navigate the journey from dating to SOULMATE LOVE! Go here now to read more and join. 

 

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Dating

My Birthday Gift to You! – Jaki Sabourin – Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Addy 
· April 6, 2022 

Today I’m celebrating my 58th birthday! It is my 9th birthday with Michael, and I am so grateful for the life we get to live together.

Time is flying!

Time is the only resource that cannot be renewed, and the one flaw that all humans share is that we all assume we will have enough of it. Because of this simple, profound fact, I’m holding a 24-hour FLASH SALE INNER CIRCLE BUNDLE so that you have extra tools and resources to call in your man! 

I’ve opened the cart for 24 hours to celebrate my birthday to fast-track you to your soulmate by adding TWO additional courses to my already ridiculous Inner Circle Program offer! Go here now to grab it before the cart closes at midnight tonight!

FOR 24 HOURS ONLY, when you join the Engaged at Any Age Inner Circle, you get FULL FREE access to the entire Soulmate Journey Course, Swipe Right course, and What Men Want!

Swipe Right Course
is a secret set of instructions for online dating that will get you over the hump and into feeling comfortable about MEETING MEN ONLINE, GETTING THEIR ATTENTION, AND KEEPING IT.

While What Men Want
series is an exclusive chat with an incredible panel of men, including the legendary author of Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus John Gray!

You’ll also get:

  • The Love Toolbox – ($497) FREE
  • Answers to Your Most Burning Questions cheat sheet ($297) FREE
  • Portable Online Dating Profiles 2 full 2 mini for apps ( $297) FREE
  • Gift of Gab keep your conversations mutually beneficial! ($297) FREE
Plus, everything inside The Engaged at Any Age Inner Circle…
  • Monday to Friday Q&A Access to Me and My Team to Ensure You’re Never Stuck and Always Moving Forward…
  • 1-on-1 Kick-Off coaching Call to Help Accelerate Your Results…
  • Live Coaching Calls Twice Per Month…
  • Monthly Bonus Training to keep you on track…
  • Access to entire Engaged at Any Age Courses…


But here’s the most exciting part!
Normally my team meets with new Inner Circle members for the Kick-off Coaching Call, but if you join within the next 24 HOURS, your 15-minute private kick-off call will be with ME!


I HOPE to see you soon on my calendar soon!

PS: I’ve opened the cart for 24 hours to celebrate my birthday to fast-track you to your soulmate by adding TWO additional courses to my already ridiculous Inner Circle Program offer! Go here now to grab it before the cart closes at midnight tonight!

 

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Dating

I can’t believe I used to do this… – Jaki Sabourin – Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Addy 
· March 31, 2022 

I was married to my first husband for years.

I’ll spare you the painful details, but there were a few incidents that made it crystal clear that our union needed to end.

I was heartbroken. My self-worth was damaged.

And yet…I went back.

Again and again. No matter how many times my intuition was begging me to let him go, I kept going back.

Why do we do this to ourselves??

I’ve come to learn that there are a couple of reasons women cling to men who are never going to be good for them and none of them are your fault!

The first reason is that society trains us as little girls to source our worth from external sources. The prince always comes to save the princess! We are taught to stay quiet and obedient and find a man who will take care of us.

We are TRAINED to NEED.

The second reason is that we are programmed at birth with an internal compass and every year after we are born life works to DE-program that compass. We are constantly distracted and tempted and reprogrammed to listen to everything BUT our gut and that results in us being completely unable to trust the guidance of our own hearts.

Because what if we are wrong? What if we can’t make it without him? What if the grass isn’t greener?
But what I came to realize is that those risks were worth it.

I was willing to risk all of those things in favor of saving and honoring myself.

I’m curious if you can relate to this. Have you ever had trouble letting go of an ex? Or maybe you’re in a situation right now that you know isn’t right, but you can’t bring yourself to leave? I’d like to hear about it.

P.S. I can’t be your therapist, but if you join us in the Engaged at any Age Inner Circle, I can give you a TON of resources to help you do this work, AND you’ll be part of a fantastic sisterhood of high vibe women who are READY to break generational silence, do the work and get the life and love they deserve! You can register right now and get the March Bonus “What Men Want” by clicking here!

 

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