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Archive for All About You

How to Stop from Getting Friend Zoned | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 19, 2021 

I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”

OUCH! 

Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity! 

Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!

  1. Avoid talking to much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.  
  2. Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love them. You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic.  I know it’s sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
  3. Avoid Over sharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn off but you’ve taking away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends

I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

Categories : All About You, Attraction, Confidence, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Connecting With Your Feminine Energy | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 7, 2021 

In today’s video I talk about the power of your feminine energy and why men respond so naturally to it. 

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Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

New Year, New You | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 5, 2021 

This isn’t going to be one of those posts that encourages you to throw out the old you and do something totally different. And it’s not to push you to do things that feel completely foreign and make you soooo uncomfortable.

What I want to suggest though, is that you look at the possibility of being a “new you” as adding to what’s already wonderful! You are amazing exactly as you are, and I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that everyone has something that they would like to change. And acknowledging that and working toward a change for the better is wonderful!

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

So, let’s start in that direction by looking at the one thing that you probably have had on your list for a long time: you want to build a strong, healthy relationship with the man you’ve been looking for. Great! Here are three ways that you can make changes for the better, small changes, that can help you call him into your life this year.

Practice gratitude. It’s amazing the difference practicing gratitude makes in your life! And I don’t just mean telling someone “thanks” for holding the door. Really sit in this feeling of gratitude. In the quiet moments, reflect on all the people and things in your life that you truly appreciate. Supportive friends, never-ending summer (hey, that’s real for some people!), your favorite food, even the way the sun shines through the windows of your living room. When you appreciate the little things, you call in more to be thankful for. Even the stuff that you may not appreciate normally like being caught in traffic are an opportunity for gratitude! If you’re in traffic, you have to slow down, and that’s a chance to take a deep breath and relax. Be thankful for new things this year!
Be spontaneous. If you always have to book things weeks in advance, then this is definitely for you! Leave a little space in your calendar for being spontaneous. If the mood seizes you, call some girlfriends for lunch, ask a friend to meet you for drinks, head to a new part of town with your cousin. And remember: you’re also leaving space for someone to ask you, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?”
Try one new thing. New things don’t stick if they are jarring and uncomfortable, so start small. Make a list of things that you would like to try or that you think you would enjoy, and just pick one to do. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish. It could be as simple as jogging on a new trail or stopping by an organic-only grocery store. Expanding your idea of what works in your life opens you up to stretch your comfort zone in new ways, which makes it easy to welcome in someone new.

When you feel like a whole new you full of gratitude, trying new things, and ready to be spontaneous, you’ll find yourself enjoying life more and more! And what’s more attractive than a woman having a blast just being herself?

I’d love to have the opportunity to get to support you and know you better this year. If you haven’t joined the Ladies Club, Click here to join. You’ll be embraced by our community of like-minded women, who like you, are on the Journey to their Soulmate.

Sending you so much love!

PS: Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

Categories : All About You, Confidence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

4 Quick Tips to Beat the Holiday Blues | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 24, 2020 

In today’s video, I talk about how hard the holidays can be when you are single and give you some tips to sidestep all the mental drama associated with being single over the holidays.

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Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!
Categories : All About You, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 22, 2020 

When you’re single, you sometimes have a feeling of deep loneliness, that feeling that there is something wrong with you. I’ve been there before, and I know exactly what that’s like! 

It seems like everywhere you look, EVERYONE is a couple. Old people, young people, birds, pets . . . Geesh. 

This is because your mind is focused on finding a partner, or rather your lack of a partner. What you focus on, you always see more of! 

Instead of letting that perpetual shoe-without-a-mate feeling make you lonely, let’s try something that will make you feel better. 

Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams. 

The next time you see a happy couple together, smile. Think about their happiness and mentally congratulate them. They are together, and that’s something you want too! This is a much better way of welcoming it into your life than letting it reflect negatively on you. 

Sending love and light to happy couples in love aligns you to the same frequency. It sounds crazy but it’s true. And better yet, it’s an EASY way to send out signals of attraction.  

Remember, there is nothing wrong with you, and there is also nothing wrong with being alone. You can be alone without being lonely. Appreciate your alone time while you wait to find someone who deserves you. Take a little extra time to work out, read a book, or hang out with friends. Love yourself in that time, and you will attract more love! This all about energy and doing simple things that raise your frequency, your vibe and your powerful feminine essence! 

You have everything else in your life together, and you will find someone who will appreciate that and love you for being you.   

Your state of being “alone” is temporary. Raise your vibe, send out love and love is exactly what you’ll get back! 

 Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams. 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

If You’re Post Divorce – Don’t Settle! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 15, 2020 

I work with a lot of women who are looking at a new beginning, many because they are divorced. 

Starting over after a divorce can be hard emotionally, plus getting back into dating isn’t always a task we want to tackle. Your heart might still be pretty raw! 

On top of that, we may have underlying thoughts that make it difficult to put ourselves out there due to the breakup. We can be left wondering if we will ever find someone who is ready for a real relationship. Someone who will treat us the way we want to be treated. Or maybe we are worried about making another mistake!  

All that combined can be enough to make you want to join a convent—I’ve heard A LOT of women joke about that—or swear off men—yep, I’ve heard that one too!—but let’s look at it a different way.  

You already know what doesn’t work, and you have a better idea of what you’re looking for now that you’ve been through the battle! And we both know that money is a BIG issue after a divorce. Finding a man who is financially secure is important because, let’s face it, as a successful woman who has it all together, we want someone who is right there with us. 

One of the biggest issues in relationships can be finances. So if you feel a little nervous about looking for someone who has all their stuff together financially, don’t be! You’re not greedy. You’re not a princess. You just want someone who is your equal. And that’s awesome! 

Someone who doesn’t have direction or is always struggling to pay off credit cards or hasn’t bothered to save any money for the future isn’t someone you want as a partner, so don’t believe for a second that it’s ok to accept that. You know what you deserve, and that’s someone who has their finances together, just like you do! The total package is out there <name> so you don’t have to choose between desires!  

Don’t accept a date from a guy who isn’t on par with you just because a friend told you it’s time to get back in the game or because he has the most beautiful blue eyes or whatever! Know what you want, and don’t accept anything less! 

You’re amazing, and he should be too! 

Categories : All About You, Beliefs, Create the Life You Want, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

2021 – It’s All About Authenticity! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 1, 2020 

Can you believe this year is almost behind us?

I admit, at times it has felt more like a decade, than a year! But we all have persevered, and there are still good times ahead.

One thing 2020 has taught us is that our lives are unpredictable. One thing you can always have to fall back on when the world is going crazy is your own sense of self. I can’t tell you how important being true to yourself is, both for your own mental health AND in the pursuit of finding the ONE.

When you are comfortable deep down with you who are, that shines through every fiber of your being! It becomes almost effortless to show the world that you are a high-value woman who is full of unshakeable confidence. Do you have any idea how attractive that is to quality men? Spoiler alert – it’s through the roof!

Good men are looking for an equal. A quality man wants a woman who is excited about things in her own life, not just in his. He wants to be proud of the radiant light that shines from WITHIN you.

2020 took us all to the edge, but there is a gift in that. When life turned upside down, we were given an opportunity to really think about what’s important to us, what we want, what we no longer have room for, what we refuse to live without!

So really think about that!

If 2020 shut down life and wiped the slate clean, what do you want to create next year? Who do you want to be? What will you no longer tolerate? What will now get your focus?

I urge you to look within in the coming weeks and see if you’re living a life that feels authentic to you. If there are areas where you feel like you’re just keeping up appearances, it’s time to think about ditching them! Life is just too short (and too complicated!) to spend it juggling a bunch of things that just don’t serve who you really are.

The goal isn’t perfection. Rather, it’s about being proud of your values, your work, your hobbies, your interests…and not apologizing for any of it.

Try it! You may find yourself with not only a fabulous new attitude, but a fabulous new man, as well!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Essence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Combat the Holiday Blues! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 24, 2020 

The holidays might look different, but the desire to share them is the same!

Pandemic or no pandemic, the holidays are coming!

And even though the celebratory social whirl that comes along with that might not be the same this year, the messages we receive are the same – among them, that the holidays are a time of romantic and joyful togetherness. It’s in our social media feeds, Hallmark movies, and commercials. And it can be relentless. I’d say that this is the hardest time of the year to be single.

I remember many Decembers myself where I longed for someone special to curl up with me and watch cozy holiday specials by the fire or meet me under the mistletoe.

That’s why I’m using this space today to share some ways to beat the holiday blues and enjoy the season. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in your mindset to change things around!

You can use this special time of the year, in fact, to practice extra self-care and give yourself extra love. Relax, recharge, and share your joy with others (even if it’s through Zoom!).

To avoid feelings of loneliness:

1. Stay in touch with potential quality men you meet online. The holidays themselves are a great source of conversation topics! Special childhood memories, crazy traditions, hopes for 2021, favorite holiday treats…the list is endless. With COVID limiting dating, it’s actually less pressure on a budding relationship through this time of year! You can enjoy someone’s virtual company without the added stress of “do I buy him a gift?” or “do I ask him to dinner with my family,” etc. etc.! Put on a gorgeous top, have a glass of eggnog, and continue getting to know some people! You may be busier in the new year than you can even handle!

  • (An addendum to this is, show up for any Zoom “parties” you might be invited to. You just never know when a great guy will be in one of those little squares! And if not, it’s so easy to sign off.)

2. Take advantage of the free time you may now have in your schedule to cater to one person – you. It’s natural to be disappointed when long-anticipated parties or events are canceled but maybe you’re also a little relieved! Read that novel on your nightstand. Cook yourself your favorite meal. Nap. Work out. Meditate. Clean your closet. Ask yourself what would make you feel happiest – and do those things!

3. Remember that this too shall pass. Meaning both the pandemic and your single state. It’s hard to be patient in the face of the unknown, when there is no firm answer to the age-old question of “WHEN???” Keep your eyes focused forward and keep working towards your goal of finding that special someone. Remember, he’s out there somewhere in the same boat as you, wondering when you will arrive, and how, and hoping that next year he will be kissing you at midnight on New Year’s Eve!

You can be by yourself without feeling totally alone or full of self-pity. It’s ok to have some moments of doubt, of course, but try to limit them! You are so very special, and there IS a man out there who deserves you.

BONUS TIP-

Wanting is the opposite of HAVING.

So, focus on gratitude for what you DO have this holiday season and you will raise your manifesting ability sky high!

Cheers!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy
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