Today is my 57th birthday, and I’m on a plane heading to Maui, Hawaii. It’s been two years since I’ve been there, and I’m excited beyond words.
I made a video for you before I left about How to be classy on dates.
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Online dating is the best way to meet men, and it’s only getting better. Since covid, there’s been a 78% increase in memberships on online dating platforms. Online dating is different than dating in real, and the key to be successful online is to hone in on the good guys and ignore and delete the bad ones. This video is about reminding you of my four top tips for online dating that I feel will give you an edge and smooth the path and speed up the process! Go here to watch my latest video
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“Oh, I am so busy!”
We all say it, and often even mean it…but being super busy isn’t necessarily healthy!
That’s because when we are “busy” – with work or hobbies or whatever is taking up the bulk of our time – it allows us to avoid things that we don’t want to face. Things like starting to date, or unpacking our inner baggage, or problems nagging us in the back of our minds.
When you’re busy, you don’t have time to dwell on what’s missing in your life. You can’t sit quietly with your thoughts and think about the consequences of choices you’ve made or recent triggers you’ve faced.
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You can “hide” in the energy of being busy!
The problem with this is, eventually the things from which you’re hiding WILL get your attention. Maybe it will be in the form of an uncomfortable phone call, or a forgotten appointment, or even a migraine! And if that happens, you’re in a position of defensiveness, of reacting to the issue instead of proactively handling things.
A healthier thing to do is slow down and check-in with yourself. Even the busiest among us can take ten minutes to breathe and concentrate on ourselves! You may surprise yourself with the results.
Just recently in my own life, I was really busy with the launch of a new program when I experienced a “trigger moment.” I wanted to just avoid it and made myself even busier as a distraction. But deep down I knew that I needed to lean into that trigger and get curious about it. I needed to spend some time dealing with it in a healthier way than just ignoring the issue. And in fact, if I had kept ignoring it, I would have missed the benefits of the wisdom that arose when I finally faced how I was feeling.
The next time you tell yourself you’re “too busy to” date, do some inner work, confront an uncomfortable situation, pause for a minute and really think about what you’re telling yourself. Are you really too busy? Or are you hiding? The answer may surprise you!
And I get it. This level of awareness is not for the faint of heart. But it is the mark of a fully actualized, super-empowered, totally captivating WOMAN!
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One of the many things I’ve learned in my career over the years is that playfulness is a feminine quality that men love. They appreciate a woman who can be carefree and spontaneous, ready to take on a fun new adventure! I know my husband Michael loves that side of me.
It probably won’t surprise you to learn, however, that lately I just haven’t felt very playful. and I realize I’ve been more serious and somber than usual. And no matter how much I try to balance the stress of current events with good things and joy, it’s been taking a toll on me. Are you in the same boat? I know MANY women who are.
I’m focusing on amping up my playfulness factor this month, both for my well-being and for my family’s. I invite you to do the same! Think of how happy you were as a kid after a day spent running around outside, playing in a sprinkler, bike riding, even reading under a shady tree. You can recapture that feeling even now.
There are plenty of little things your can build into your days that can bring a lighter mood and a smile to your face. You need that – we are living through an incredibly stressful time.
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Here are a few things I’m planning to do to bring back my sense of play! They’re easy and can make a big impact on your mood and outlook.
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This is just a starting point, and I’m sure you have some ideas of your own. If you have a minute, drop me a line and let me know how YOU are going to recover your sense of playfulness. I want to know!
Remember- you landed here because a loving relationship with a man who adores you is one of your most important life goals.
When you awaken your sense of play, you become irresistible! He is navigating this crazy world too! Men don’t talk about it as much, but they are feeling the heaviness just as much as we are.
And when he sees you, light, carefree and reveling in feminine playfulness, you will be the exact breath of fresh air he’s craving right now!
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Years ago, when I was newly divorced, I spent many nights sitting alone on my couch feeling despondent and sure that I would never find love again. In fact, there were many times I didn’t even think I WANTED to find love again! I had been so let down and it was hard for me to trust that there were men out there who wouldn’t break my heart.
Is that where you are right now? Maybe you’ve had one too many heartbreaks lately and are having a hard time believing in love. If this IS how you’re feeling, my heart goes out to you. It’s such a hard place to be.
But that’s why I’m writing this – I want to help you break free from this pattern of thinking. Your true love is out there trying to find you, but you have to help ease his path to your door.
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Some things you can do to get back to believing again:
Also remind yourself that what happened to you is not a reflection of your worth but rather a reflection of the other person’s inability to love. Period! It was THEM, not YOU.
You can take The Commitment Quiz right here, right now. I think you’ll be excited about the insight it gives you into what’s blocking you from the committed relationship you desire.
You can take The Commitment Quiz right here, right now. I think you’ll be excited about the insight it gives you into what’s blocking you from the committed relationship you desire.
Your perfect man won’t be able to connect with you if you shut yourself off from the world. It’s time to get off the couch and go after the love you’ve been waiting for!
You can take The Commitment Quiz right here, right now. I think you’ll be excited about the insight it gives you into what’s blocking you from the committed relationship you desire.
We all have instances in our lives in which we’re hurt by someone we care about. Even if they occurred long ago (even sometimes as far back as childhood!), these occurrences can impact our present, wreaking havoc on our happiness and our relationships. This ruminating on the past isn’t healthy, but I see so many women struggle with how to handle these emotions so that they can forgive, and most importantly, let go!
There are plenty of people walking around today who appear to have it all together, who are functioning very well in society, even “climbing up the ladder” towards career success. But if we look closer into their hearts, you’d see that even they have some kind of constant hurt and pain playing on a loop again and again. Does that sound like you? It likely does; it fits everyone at some point! But to truly live a life of joy and peace, these hurts MUST be finally banished to the past, where they have no power over you.
So the question becomes, “How can I move past this and leave it behind?” I know it sounds daunting. Maybe you’ve even tried and decided you weren’t up for it just yet. But please give yourself some credit – you’re stronger than you think! Here are some steps you can take to lessen the impact of those past slings and arrows:
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This isn’t easy work, but it’s absolutely vital if you want to call in a new relationship and grow it from clean and pure ground!
Forgiving the past sends a powerful message to the universe that you have made space to receive a bright and beautiful future!
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Something has been puzzling me. Why do I know so many women who won’t settle for less than the best in everything they do – caring for their family, their career, how they present themselves to the world – yet will continue to make excuses for the men they date who continually disappoint them?
I had a friend who, in her 20’s, had a boyfriend who would call her on the spur of the moment, and she would jump at the chance to spend time with him even though he hadn’t given her any notice. His birthday gift to her one year was a collection of stuffed animals from a smoky bar’s “claw machine,” and they smelled like it too. She explained away this kind of thoughtlessness by saying he was so busy, he was saving his money for a house, etc. etc. etc. Mind you, this was a woman who had a graduate degree, a good job, great looks – the whole package. She was (is!) thoughtful and kind and would never treat anyone the way this guy treated her. Yet she hung on for several years, thinking she would be the one to change his behavior. Spoiler alert – she didn’t.
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No matter how many times her friends and family told her he was not good for her, it wasn’t until she finally realized she was worth more than that she finally cut him loose.
It’s one thing to put up with that kind of behavior from a man when you’re young and naïve. Quite another to be in your 40’s or beyond, mature, successful and accomplished!
I want to challenge you this year to honor the woman you are today!
Raise both your standards and your self-esteem by refusing to spend your precious time on men who clearly aren’t interested in a long-term, mutually beneficial and authentic relationship. Look closely at your dating pattern. Does any of this behavior sound familiar in your partners, past or present? If so…time to re-examine!
If you saw a friend dealing with this kind of garbage in her relationship, wouldn’t you be fed up for her? Wouldn’t you tell her to move on? Of course you would.
Be a friend to yourself and repeat that you deserve nothing less than the best. Then start working on finding it!
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With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I’ve been hearing from many ladies that they’re unsure of how to navigate the day.
Maybe you’re wondering the same!
You know how you’d like to celebrate and may even have some bling in mind for your guy to give you as a gift. Yet, the ghosts of Valentine’s past spring up and you don’t know if you should just keep quiet and let him take the lead or give a subtle hint about what you’re hoping for.
One woman I know is already feeling disappointed because he hasn’t said anything – but neither has she!
You don’t have to stay silent, ladies! Men are not mind readers, and while Valentine’s Day can be full of love and fun, it’s also a holiday that puts a LOT of pressure on men. If they don’t do enough, they’re in trouble. If they go overboard, they can also be in trouble (if it scares their partner off!).
Do them a favor and speak up so there’s little chance for confusion or disappointment on either of your parts. As we know, men are not known for their mind-reading abilities. This isn’t the time to hint around. They either won’t notice or worse, will find it annoying! Use a Valentine’s ad on tv as a springboard if you want, but from there nothing beats the direct approach. What would feel best to you? A night out? A sparkly new necklace? A weekend away? Go over in your mind the possibilities and see what your gut tells you. You’ll know what the sweet spot is, where you get what you want, and he feels appreciated by giving it to you.
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It’s important, however, to not use a hammer to drive home your expectations! Instead, use your feather. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – gentle guidance wins the day. Your current man isn’t to blame for your past Valentine’s Day disappointments so don’t go into complaining mode and give him the impression that he better deliver – or else! Better to give him some ideas of some special gifts you’d love, or the name of a new restaurant you’d like to try, or…well, use your imagination! If you wrap your request around words of excitement and joy that you’re so happy to have him to celebrate the day with, he will want to come through for you.
Isn’t this a much better scenario than finding out on February 13th he got a reservation somewhere you hate, on the 15th, because the place was full for Valentine’s Day? Or receiving a bouquet of flowers when you’re allergic? Or a gold necklace when you’re partial to silver?
Don’t be afraid, to be honest, and get your needs met this Valentine’s Day! May it be a day full of love and light for you this year.
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