You should only date men who lift you up, build your self-esteem, and make you a better person. Period.  

If you are constantly feeling like he is jealous, is intimidating you, or making you feel like you need to change who you are, then he is not who you want to build a relationship with.  

Here are 4 red flags you’re dating a jealous man… 

1. Feeling the need to change yourself. If you feel you are dimming your own light to make him feel better about himself, this is a red flag. Don’t ever change who you are, and especially don’t dim your light to make him feel brighter and happier.   

2. Constant overexplaining. You shouldn’t be questioned about every situation and you definitely shouldn’t find yourself constantly overexplaining unnecessary things. There should be a deep level of trust and understanding between both parties, so you don’t have to explain yourself when it’s not necessary.   

3. Comparison. You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to other people, and he shouldn’t be comparing you to anyone either. No ex, no visionary “dream” woman, no one! He should love you for who you are. 

4. Too Nosy. A tell-tale sign of a jealous man is one that is nosy. A man who digs through your things out of suspicion and wants in on every detail of your life is jealous. You deserve your privacy and deserve to be trusted when you are dating someone. 

If you find that you are dating a jealous man, then here’s my advice and solution for you today: vote with your feet and leave the relationship! 

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We all know women who seem to just have a “way” with men. 

Yes, some of us are just born with it.  

The good news is, you can LEARN it…and once you do, you’ll surprise yourself with how fast you catch on! You can be one of “those” women who always seems comfortable and always seems to have the attention of every man in the room!   

Women who attract and keep men know that it’s all about these four principles of seduction: 

• Appreciation: 

You can’t lay this on thick enough. Men love to play the hero, even when the heroic act is something as simple as vacuuming or picking up dinner. Treating these everyday actions like he just carried you up Mt. Everest will do wonders for his mood…and make him a shoo-in to keep WANTING to do more for you! 

• Admiration:

Tell him you admire something he’s doing. Example: “I really admire how attentive you are to your kids.” This will make him feel like a man – something they all crave – and he will connect that to you. Besides, who doesn’t adore someone who tells them they’re doing something well?  

• Acceptance:

You need to remember that it’s important to convey to a man that you accept him for who he is, not what he can do for you. In fact, the more accepted he feels, the more likely it is that he will want to do more for you! You won’t even have to ask!  

• Affection: 

I don’t know a man in the world that doesn’t want a woman to touch him. Think of ways to introduce more incidental but meaningful physical contact into your days. Stroke his arm as you walk by, steal a quick kiss, tousle his hair gently…whatever feels right to you. We all need to be touched and embraced, and the more you do it, the more connected you’ll both feel. 

It’s ok to start slowly with these! Try one at a time and see the changes…you’ll be excited to build from there, I promise!  

Before you know it, other women will be looking at YOU and thinking “Wow, how does she DO that?” 

xo,  

Jaki 

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Oh my. I have so much to share with you about my anniversary date with Michael! 

It began with dessert first! I made our favorite a “Lilikoi Cake” a.k.a., passionfruit, which we served at our wedding. Then we headed out to a wildly romantic dinner at a new restaurant called Del Friscos, on the San Diego Harbor. As we dined, we reminisced about our honeymoon to Lake Louise, and our other trips to far-flung places like Greece, Italy, New York, and Montana. I was struck by the realization that our relationship has just been so easy. We get along so well. Michael continues to go out of his way to make me happy. I couldn’t stop gazing at my handsome husband across the table.  

 You may wonder, how did I get so lucky?

Luck had nothing to do with it!   

I was brave and jumped into internet dating even though it made me nervous. And once Michael and I started seeing more of each other, I took the right steps all along the way by speaking my truth, practicing the tools I teach, staying grounded in who I am and not turning myself inside out during our courtship. I still don’t! 

It’s not luck, it’s work, to be the happiest couple I know and lead a wonderful life. It’s the work of listening to each other, being kind, allowing each other space, communication – but none of this is a chore. When you’re with your soulmate, you know that even the tough stuff is for the greater good of your relationship, and that is a priceless feeling. 

I’m telling you all this in the hope that it will inspire you to take that leap, that step that can ultimately lead you to your own Michael. 

Tonight, I am coming to you from “boudoir!”  I am putting on some makeup and anticipating a romantic dinner out with my husband, and my thoughts started to wander. 

I began to think about how my life has changed for the better over the years…and how different things could have been if I hadn’t been brave enough to vanquish my fears of meeting men online! 

I remembered the butterflies in my stomach as I approached Eddie V.’s, knowing that Michael was waiting inside. We had had such an electric first conversation the night before that I was nervous that we couldn’t sustain it. The minute I saw him sitting in the restaurant window, my anxiety overtook me, and I almost turned and ran…but I didn’t. Instead, I took a deep breath, put a smile on my face, and walked to the table. And THANK GOODNESS FOR THAT!!! 

I was overjoyed to find that the man I “knew” virtually was even better live and in person. He was a perfect gentleman and we had a wonderful time! A little–known fact about me is that when I’m nervous, or when my intuition is speaking to me my lower lip twitches a LOT. That night my lip was going crazy, and I knew why. I had a good feeling about Michael, and my intuition was confirming how I felt. My lip was going so crazy, in fact, that I was afraid that Michael could see it! That date ended with a promise for another, which led to another…and, well, you know how this story ends…and here we are happier than ever and ready to celebrate our anniversary.

Celebrating is important. It’s a time to pause and reflect on what has been with appreciation and gratitude. I reflect in wonder at the last 8 years with Michael. Being with him has changed my life. He’s been my rock, steadfast and dependable, and because of this I’ve been able to blossom in ways that I hadn’t experienced before – and you are benefiting from that!  

Michael is totally supportive of me and my dedication to helping women and that means the world to me! My appreciation and respect for him deepens each day as our love for each other grows.   

 And it’s all because we both took a chance at finding love on the internet. It DOES work!