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Archive for Attraction

How to Stop from Getting Friend Zoned | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 19, 2021 

I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”

OUCH! 

Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity! 

Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!

  1. Avoid talking to much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.  
  2. Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love them. You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic.  I know it’s sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
  3. Avoid Over sharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn off but you’ve taking away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends

I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

Categories : All About You, Attraction, Confidence, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Video Dating Ice Breakers | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 16, 2020 

Are you feeling discouraged and overwhelmed? There was a moment earlier this week that I was feeling that too, and I had to take STOP and take a spiritual time out. 

In this video, I give you a few tips on how to stay more present and avoid the “rabbit hole” thinking that typically ends with you feeling even worse!  

I also give you some tips on how to break the ice on video dates so make sure you click below to watch the video:

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed! 

Categories : Attraction, Dating
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Use the LOA to Attract Your Soulmate | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 12, 2020 

Everything you think say and do is being broadcast out to the universe and it comes back as pictures in your life.  Your life reflects what you’ve been thinking about!  

Most of your thoughts (until you become conscious of them) are very negative, for example,  “I’m not good enough”  There are no good men” “It’s not safe to open my heart.” 

Today’s video we examine the most predominate thoughts that may be sabotaging you and what to do about it! Click here to watch the video now.  

Click below to watch the video:

Take the CommittmentQuiz.com and discover what is keeping you from a committed relationship.
Categories : Attraction, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Become a Fantastic Lover… to YOURSELF! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 10, 2020 
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We’ve all had a lot of time this year to be alone with ourselves, haven’t we?  

It’s an uncomfortable place to be for many of us, for sure. However, when you’re trying to find a solid, lasting relationship with the man of your dreams, self-reflection is paramount.  

It takes courage but being authentic with potential partners is the only way to sustained happiness. You don’t want to be exhausted by trying to be someone you’re not just to keep a man! In fact, you won’t get a quality man by faking things! High-quality men are attracted to women who know their own value. There’s no better way to prove that you know your worth than by recognizing and celebrating your unique qualities and quirks!  Show you know your own value – recognize and celebrate your uniqueness and quirks and become the best version of yourself!
 

Solitude doesn’t have to feel lonely. The key is to use that time to get into an intimate relationship with YOURSELF!  

Some ways to do this: 

  • Take care of your mind and your body. No, you don’t have to be model thin. This is about feeling good through exercising, eating healthy food, getting enough sleep, and trying to be present and mindful. A healthy body and a healthy attitude are irresistible – your energy emanates from you effortlessly! 
  • Know your non-negotiable boundaries and don’t be afraid to use them! Set boundaries when you date. In other words, don’t be a doormat and don’t be afraid to speak up if you feel less than respected or uncomfortable with a situation. Quality men will admire you for knowing your limits and sticking with them. 
  • Even if you’re in the throes of new love, always maintain your own friends and interests. Continue to be your own person! Don’t apologize for taking time to pursue your own goals and hobbies or for spending time with the girls. If you bend and morph into someone who only does the things your man likes to do, before long he will find this boring and suffocating. More importantly so will YOU!!! Shared interests are wonderful, of course, but only if they happen organically. 
  • Surrender to the ever-changing flow of life. See it all as an adventure! Don’t push too hard. Relax into the flow of the universe and know things are working FOR you, always! If things don’t work out with a man, it’s ok. While it can be painful, it means only that he was not for you long-term, and you can take the lessons learned to move closer to finding the ONE.  
  • Be confident in YOU. When you approve of yourself (and if you live authentically, this is automatic!) you won’t need to seek external approval from a partner. This is so attractive to men! You aren’t a little girl looking for permission to live as you want – you are a fully formed woman who’s in charge, confident, wants a partner to compliment her life, not run it for her! 

Most of us have been conditioned over YEARS that we need to fit a certain mold, live a certain way, look a certain way, to land a man.  

I want you to break out of that thinking! The only person who’s ultimately responsible for your happiness is you. Follow my tips above and you’ll see a change in yourself and your relationships (AND the kind of men you’re attracting!). What changes are you going to make today to live more authentically? I’d love to hear about it!

Take the CommittmentQuiz.com and discover what is keeping you from a committed relationship.

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Categories : All About You, Attraction, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How to Stop from Getting Friend Zoned

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 28, 2020 
· No Comments

I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”

OUCH!

Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly, it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity!

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!

  1. Avoid talking too much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.
  2. Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend-zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic. I know it sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
  3. Avoid Oversharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn-off but you’ve taken away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends

I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!

Love,

Jaki

 

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

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Categories : All About You, Attraction, Dating, Feminine Essence, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, relationships

New Year, New You!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 31, 2019 
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This isn’t going to be one of those posts that encourages you to throw out the old you and do something totally different. And it’s not to push you to do things that feel completely foreign and make you soooo uncomfortable.

What I want to suggest though, is that you look at the possibility of being a “new you” as adding to what’s already wonderful! You are amazing exactly as you are, and I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that everyone has something that they would like to change. And acknowledging that and working toward a change for the better is wonderful!

So let’s start in that direction by looking at the one thing that you probably have had on your list for a long time: you want to build a strong, healthy relationship with the man you’ve been looking for. Great! Here are three ways that you can make changes for the better, small changes, that can help you call him into your life this year.

  • Practice gratitude. It’s amazing the difference practicing gratitude makes in your life! And I don’t just mean telling someone “thanks” for holding the door. Really sit in this feeling of gratitude. In the quiet moments, reflect on all the people and things in your life that you truly appreciate. Supportive friends, never-ending summer (hey, that’s real for some people!), your favorite food, even the way the sun shines through the windows of your living room. When you appreciate the little things, you call in more to be thankful for. Even the stuff that you may not appreciate normally like being caught in traffic are an opportunity for gratitude! If you’re in traffic, you have to slow down, and that’s a chance to take a deep breath and relax. Be thankful for new things this year!
  • Be spontaneous. If you always have to book things weeks in advance, then this is definitely for you! Leave a little space in your calendar for being spontaneous. If the mood seizes you, call some girlfriends for lunch, ask a friend to meet you for drinks, head to a new part of town with your cousin. And remember: you’re also leaving space for someone to ask you, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?”
  • Try one new thing. New things don’t stick if they are jarring and uncomfortable, so start small. Make a list of things that you would like to try or that you think you would enjoy, and just pick one to do. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish. It could be as simple as jogging on a new trail or stopping by an organic-only grocery store. Expanding your idea of what works in your life opens you up to stretch your comfort zone in new ways, which makes it easy to welcome in someone new.

When you feel like a whole new you full of gratitude, trying new things, and ready to be spontaneous, you’ll find yourself enjoying life more and more! And what’s more attractive than a woman having a blast just being herself?

I have something exciting coming up that I can’t wait to share it with you. Join my email list to make sure you get the notification because you won’t want to miss it!

Love,

Jaki

 

 

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Categories : All About You, Attraction, Confidence, Create the Life You Want, Feminine Essence
Tags : confidence, dating, feminine energy, happiness is attractive

That Secret to Get a Man to Commit

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· June 17, 2019 
· No Comments

 

I want to offer you a two-part “love hack”!

Sometimes, we get so stuck in our heads when we’re worried about making the right impression in a new relationship. It can make us feel stiff and uncertain. And that can make us come across as cold.

Since that’s exactly what you DON’T want, I’d like you to go into your next date remembering that you are a high-value woman. You are confident. You are passionate about things you enjoy. And you are worthy of being with someone who appreciates all that!

You truly have to believe in your value so it shines through. THIS is what a man needs to see to commit. You need to show him that you have something to offer that other women don’t. Talk about what is really important to you and let him into your world. You want to be with someone who respects your interests, so don’t worry about being judged.

The second part of this is being vulnerable. Vulnerability is NOT weakness. It’s about having the strength and courage to be open and honest, with no guarantee of a result. That is FAR from weak!

Vulnerability helps you connect on a deep level. Open up and show him your true self. Men innately want to help and, honestly, take care of a woman, even if it’s just a few little things—we’re not talking about a 1950s housewife, by the way. Let him see that you’re a real person, not just your Facebook profile (come on, we all know those are everyone’s highlight reels).

When you show him that you have frustration or uncertainty—just like everyone else—it opens up that beautiful space of love so you can have deep conversations. Be real. Let him be there for you.

Sometimes a man will offer to help you with something because it makes them feel like they are taking care of you, so be open to receiving. If he offers to do something for you, take him up on it. Be appreciative! If he’s trying to do something that will make your life easier, even if it’s picking up Mexican to go for dinner, that’s a step in the right direction!

Love,

Jaki

PS: Take the Swipe Right Quiz! Find out what’s Blocking Your Dream Man from Finding You Online?

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Categories : Attraction, Confidence, Create the Life You Want, Episodes, Feminine Essence, Relationships
Tags : Affection, Commitment, dating, Emotionally Connect, Men, relationship

I Used to Hate Myself

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· June 7, 2019 
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You’re probably pretty surprised to hear me say that. But it’s true. I used to hate myself. I suffered so much abuse as a child that I grew up feeling shame, unworthiness, and a lot of self-loathing. Not only did I hate myself, but I also blamed myself for what happened to me. I tried for years to love myself, but for various reasons, I couldn’t figure out how!

That’s when I knew I had to figure out the “self-love” thing. Once I did, I had to share it with women all over the world so they too could experience how much different life can be when there is love in it.

Elizabeth found herself in a similar situation, and here’s what she’s has to say to you about her journey.

Also, I want to remind you that I’m hosting a LIVE COACHING CALL tomorrow morning (Saturday) at 8 AM Pacific – 11 AM Eastern, where I’m going to talk to you about Block, Beliefs, and Behaviors that Sabotage YOU in Love and tell you about the program and answer your questions and offer you coaching. No sign up required! 

Here are your access details:

Date & Time: Saturday, June 8th at 8:00 AM Pacific / 11:00 AM Eastern

To attend this event, click here 15 minutes before the event time:

https://InstantTeleseminar.com/Events/115904595

If you don’t have access to the web, you can listen in by dialing (425) 440-5010, and using the following conference pin: 619300#

If that number doesn’t work for some reason, here is a list of alternative numbers, including international numbers:

https://InstantTeleseminar.com/Local/?eventid=115904595

Be on this call if you want to be engaged or in a committed relationship this year!

It’s your turn now.

Your turn to put yourself and your heart’s wishes FIRST!

Take that first step into a new and happier future. Get your man, get the ring!

xo.

Jaki

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Categories : All About You, Attraction
Tags : Affection, Commitment, dating, Emotionally Connect, Men, relationship
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