I was reminded recently of something that none of us likes to think about but is also inevitable.

Time is flying by!

Time is the only resource that cannot be renewed, and the one flaw that all humans share is that we all assume we will have enough of it.

I recently ran into an old friend. She told me a story about how she had run into an old colleague. They had shared a mutual friend she hadn’t seen in years, and when she asked about her, her colleague very sadly told her that their mutual friend had died.

That woman was only in her 50’s and was full of life the last time my friend had seen her.

It got us talking about how abruptly our lives can be over and many times, without warning!

We started talking about how so many of us fall victim to “someday syndrome.”

We know exactly what we want, but we tell ourselves a million stories. We tell ourselves it isn’t the right time that we’ll do it “someday” but not now.

For thousands of people, there is no such thing as someday!

And I can tell you for sure that my only regret with Michael is that I didn’t meet him sooner. I would love to have even more time with him!

I’m not trying to sound morbid, but this is a truth we all have to face.

Time is always moving. Always burning up.

So what exactly do you want, and how long are you going to wait to get it?

If you’re clear on your desires, whether that desire is a new home, a new job, or a man who loves you, start moving!

“Someday syndrome” is a thief!

Give yourself the gift of MORE time with your heart’s desires by going after them NOW!

Recently I talked about how many women struggle to get over their exes.

It doesn’t matter how dysfunctional a relationship is, a breakup can destabilize even the strongest women because it triggers our smaller, scared selves.

“What if he was the best I’ll ever get?”

“What if I am alone forever now?”

These are fear-based statements that leave you in a state of CLINGING to what no longer serves you or wants you or for that matter KNOWS you.

There is a wonderful book by author Sue Monk Kidd called “When the Heart Waits.”

In it, she describes the root of the word “clinging.” She explains that it’s from the Anglo-Saxon word “clingan” which means “to shrink.”

When you cling, you shrink! You are made smaller. You are sent backward to a version of yourself you are ready to outgrow!

Sure it’s unsettling, after all, none of us knows what the future holds.

But you DO know what the past holds! You DO know what that relationship was like and all of the factors that led to its unraveling. So why would you want to hold onto that?

The reality is, you aren’t clinging to your ex, you’re clinging to a vision you had that never materialized. But you’ve got to take off your blinders. That wasn’t reality, it was potential, and a man’s unrealized potential can steal YEARS from you.

My girlfriend always said, “Don’t marry potential, marry reality!” Good advice.

Now, it’s time to look forward. Love the unknown in the same way you love a beautifully wrapped present that you haven’t yet opened! You likely don’t get mad about not knowing what’s inside. You delight in the mystery!

So let go, move on, and instead of shrinking, RISE and EXPAND into a new and better love!

PS: I’m on a mission to coach as many women as possible into a meaningful relationship. That’s why I’ve opened my Inner Circle to help you navigate the journey from dating to SOULMATE LOVE! Go here now to read more and join. 

Today I’m celebrating my 58th birthday! It is my 9th birthday with Michael, and I am so grateful for the life we get to live together.

Time is flying!

Time is the only resource that cannot be renewed, and the one flaw that all humans share is that we all assume we will have enough of it. Because of this simple, profound fact, I’m holding a 24-hour FLASH SALE INNER CIRCLE BUNDLE so that you have extra tools and resources to call in your man! 

I’ve opened the cart for 24 hours to celebrate my birthday to fast-track you to your soulmate by adding TWO additional courses to my already ridiculous Inner Circle Program offer! Go here now to grab it before the cart closes at midnight tonight!

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But here’s the most exciting part!
Normally my team meets with new Inner Circle members for the Kick-off Coaching Call, but if you join within the next 24 HOURS, your 15-minute private kick-off call will be with ME!

I HOPE to see you soon on my calendar soon!

PS: I’ve opened the cart for 24 hours to celebrate my birthday to fast-track you to your soulmate by adding TWO additional courses to my already ridiculous Inner Circle Program offer! Go here now to grab it before the cart closes at midnight tonight!

I was married to my first husband for years.

I’ll spare you the painful details, but there were a few incidents that made it crystal clear that our union needed to end.

I was heartbroken. My self-worth was damaged.

And yet…I went back.

Again and again. No matter how many times my intuition was begging me to let him go, I kept going back.

Why do we do this to ourselves??

I’ve come to learn that there are a couple of reasons women cling to men who are never going to be good for them and none of them are your fault!

The first reason is that society trains us as little girls to source our worth from external sources. The prince always comes to save the princess! We are taught to stay quiet and obedient and find a man who will take care of us.

We are TRAINED to NEED.

The second reason is that we are programmed at birth with an internal compass and every year after we are born life works to DE-program that compass. We are constantly distracted and tempted and reprogrammed to listen to everything BUT our gut and that results in us being completely unable to trust the guidance of our own hearts.

Because what if we are wrong? What if we can’t make it without him? What if the grass isn’t greener?
But what I came to realize is that those risks were worth it.

I was willing to risk all of those things in favor of saving and honoring myself.

I’m curious if you can relate to this. Have you ever had trouble letting go of an ex? Or maybe you’re in a situation right now that you know isn’t right, but you can’t bring yourself to leave? I’d like to hear about it.

P.S. I can’t be your therapist, but if you join us in the Engaged at any Age Inner Circle, I can give you a TON of resources to help you do this work, AND you’ll be part of a fantastic sisterhood of high vibe women who are READY to break generational silence, do the work and get the life and love they deserve! You can register right now and get the March Bonus “What Men Want” by clicking here!

We need to talk…

For the last couple of years, the global conversation has been centered on the COVID pandemic.

But there is another pandemic that affects primarily women our age, and we need to talk about it.

It’s AVOIDANCE.

Here’s what I’m talking about.

Most of us did not grow up with parents who were open, communicative, emotionally available, and willing to talk about the hard stuff.

Now that’s not their fault. More than likely, they grew up with parents who felt it better or more appropriate to push difficult things under the rug. Denial was how they dealt with things.

But here we are now, a generation of women who are caught between two worlds- the world we were raised in with all its repression and denial—and the world we live in now where conversations around spirituality and mental health are encouraged and (finally) NORMAL!

But you’ve got to be willing to do the work. You’ve got to be willing to reach a level of self-awareness that most of our parents would completely shy away from.

Is it easy? No.

Is it worth it? You bet!

It was only when I committed to letting go of my past programming and doing the spiritual work I needed to do that I was able to open up to a great love. Admittedly, I wasn’t a very deep person before that. I got by on my bubbly personality and my smile!

But when life shakes your foundation and takes you to your knees, you’ve got to tap into resources you never needed before.

You’ve got to heal in ways you never thought you’d need to.

You’ve got to finally deal with the inner child wounds that landed you in the muck in the first place!

How?

Read books, journal, go to therapy and surround yourself with like-minded friends and acquaintances who are determined to HEAL and RISE just like you are!

You can be a victim of your past and your upbringing, or you can be the one who breaks the pattern and sets a new precedent with an extraordinary life of YOUR making!

P.S. I can’t be your therapist, but if you join us in the Engaged at any Age Inner Circle, I can give you a TON of resources to help you do this work, AND you’ll be part of a fantastic sisterhood of high vibe women who are READY to break generational silence, do the work and get the life and love they deserve! You can register right now and get the March Bonus “What Men Want” by clicking here!

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This is so important. I pay attention to the conversations women have, and so often, I want to jump in and yell, “Don’t you see!?!?!?! You are trying to attract a BOY, not a MAN!!”

So often, women our age have been out of the dating game for quite some time. So, when they jump back in, they start looking for men who meet the “must-have” list of their youth.

They look for instant spark, passion, and perfect teeth when what they should be looking for is a grounded, masculine energy, compatibility, and quick wit!

You have EVOLVED. And this master class is going to help you grow up to your desire frequency so that you meet a man who is aligned with the WOMAN you are today, not the girl you were 20 years ago!

I’m going to be covering:

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·      What men our age really want even if they aren’t saying it.

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This is such an important topic, and it’s going to completely change the way you relate to men AND the results you get!

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Well, it’s that time of year! 

It is time for most of the world to make New Year’s Resolutions that they totally abandon by February. 

(Gyms packed right now will be empty in a few weeks.) 

What about you? Did you resolve that this would be the year you lose the weight? Or leave your job to start your own business? Or maybe THIS was going to be the year you FIND YOUR MAN! 

 I hope you’ve got some BIG plans for yourself, and I want to make sure you get what you want. 

So why is it so hard to stay positive and motivated? Why do we start a new year so excited, so fired up, only to go back to business as usual so quickly?

There are a couple of reasons for that. 

The first is that most of the world misunderstands what a “resolution” really is. They treat it like a hope or a wish or an intention, and it’s none of those things! 

A resolution is defined as “a firm decision to do or not do something.”

It is a FIRM DECISION to lose weight once and for all. A FIRM DECISION to put yourself out there and create a dating profile. 

A resolution is about deciding to finally take a stand for your deepest desires and playing all in even when things get tough. This brings me to the second reason resolutions fail.

Now stay with me because this goes against conventional wisdom, but I promise you if you embody what I’m saying here, your life will be better for it. 

The second reason resolutions don’t work is because we are trained to act based on how we feel. Now I am not saying to ignore your intuition by any means. What I’m saying is that so often, when we have goals, we are told to “check-in with our feelings.” 

And too often, women take that as permission to ease up and let themselves off the hook. 

BIG MISTAKE.

You see, feelings are transient. They can change minute by minute. So it’s dangerous to make decisions based on how you feel. You’ve got to make decisions, instead, based on what you WANT! 

If you’re putting yourself out there in the online dating world, and you have a bad day or feel tired, you might be tempted to cancel the first date. But what if, instead, you remind yourself of your desired outcome? Is your desire to find love GREATER than your desire to give in to fatigue or negativity?

Who will you let run your show? Your moods or your DESIRES?!

Anytime you feel like giving up, picture yourself with the desired outcome and keep going.

PS: I’m on a mission to coach as many women as possible into a meaningful relationship. That’s why I’ve opened my Inner Circle to help you navigate the journey from dating to SOULMATE LOVE! Go here now to read more and join. 

Wow! Another year has flown by, and before we usher in 2022, I urge you to take some time for yourself, with yourself, and really think about what you want the coming year to look like. What hopes and dreams do you have for yourself? And how are you going to obtain them?

I’m not talking about mere resolutions here. This isn’t about losing those last ten pounds or quitting your caffeine habit.

I’m talking about a whole new beginning for you! 

The key is that this year, you’ll set the stage for new and wonderful things to enter your life instead of just wishing and hoping that change will happen. Wishing and hoping are not strategies! 

Make 2022 the year of DOING. 

You can’t expect exciting new results if you keep maintaining the status quo – settling for what is instead of what could be. Remember, you are nothing less than a Queen – and the energy of the queen is one of worthiness and receptivity, but also decisiveness and action.

Now, take a deep breath. Don’t feel overwhelmed. 

You can do this!

Focus on one or two things you want in the new year.

If you’re reading this blog, I can guess that one thing you likely want is LOVE – a true meaningful love.

So it’s time to plan! You can start small. For instance, you could say yes to a party invitation instead of going home and watching other people find romance in a Hallmark movie.

You must put yourself out there and signal the universe that you are, indeed, ready for that special love that has been missing from your life. Putting on a gorgeous outfit that makes you feel confident and beautiful and meeting some new people is a great first step for your action plan! You may not meet the ONE at the party, but a new acquaintance may have an awesome brother, cousin, or friend they’d love to introduce you to. 

You could also try responding to someone you find interesting in your online dating inbox. This is a super low-stress way to connect with someone new. Even if a love match doesn’t ensue, you’ve now practiced the art of online communication which will help propel you onward in your search for Mr. Right!

Just by making small, consistent changes you can make inroads towards truly changing your life in 2022. With every small victory and goal met, you’ll be inspired to take more risks and set bigger goals, and doesn’t that sound amazing?

Now if you’re feeling SUPER brave, write a list of things you want to manifest in 2022 and share it on Facebook. Invite people to post THEIR lists in the comments. This is an amazing way to start a conversation and get to know people a little better.

I hope you’re noticing a theme here…put yourself out there more than you ever have before!

As always, I am here to support you every step of the way. May the new year bring you all the happiness you deserve!

Hope this helped! Love you!

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