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How Women Ruin Valentine’s Day | Engaged at Any Age

· February 9, 2021

With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I’ve been hearing from many ladies that they’re unsure of how to navigate the day.

Maybe you’re wondering the same!

You know how you’d like to celebrate and may even have some bling in mind for your guy to give you as a gift. Yet, the ghosts of Valentine’s past spring up and you don’t know if you should just keep quiet and let him take the lead or give a subtle hint about what you’re hoping for.

One woman I know is already feeling disappointed because he hasn’t said anything – but neither has she!

You don’t have to stay silent, ladies! Men are not mind readers, and while Valentine’s Day can be full of love and fun, it’s also a holiday that puts a LOT of pressure on men. If they don’t do enough, they’re in trouble. If they go overboard, they can also be in trouble (if it scares their partner off!).

Do them a favor and speak up so there’s little chance for confusion or disappointment on either of your parts. As we know, men are not known for their mind-reading abilities. This isn’t the time to hint around. They either won’t notice or worse, will find it annoying! Use a Valentine’s ad on tv as a springboard if you want, but from there nothing beats the direct approach. What would feel best to you? A night out? A sparkly new necklace? A weekend away? Go over in your mind the possibilities and see what your gut tells you. You’ll know what the sweet spot is, where you get what you want, and he feels appreciated by giving it to you.

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It’s important, however, to not use a hammer to drive home your expectations! Instead, use your feather. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – gentle guidance wins the day. Your current man isn’t to blame for your past Valentine’s Day disappointments so don’t go into complaining mode and give him the impression that he better deliver – or else! Better to give him some ideas of some special gifts you’d love, or the name of a new restaurant you’d like to try, or…well, use your imagination! If you wrap your request around words of excitement and joy that you’re so happy to have him to celebrate the day with, he will want to come through for you.

Isn’t this a much better scenario than finding out on February 13th he got a reservation somewhere you hate, on the 15th, because the place was full for Valentine’s Day? Or receiving a bouquet of flowers when you’re allergic? Or a gold necklace when you’re partial to silver?

Don’t be afraid, to be honest, and get your needs met this Valentine’s Day! May it be a day full of love and light for you this year.

Don’t let another Valentine’s Day go by without beginning your Soulmate Journey – go here to find out how to make your next Valentine’s your best!

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process

Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Connecting With Your Feminine Energy | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· January 7, 2021

In today’s video I talk about the power of your feminine energy and why men respond so naturally to it.

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Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process

Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· December 22, 2020

When you’re single, you sometimes have a feeling of deep loneliness, that feeling that there is something wrong with you. I’ve been there before, and I know exactly what that’s like!

It seems like everywhere you look, EVERYONE is a couple. Old people, young people, birds, pets . . . Geesh.

This is because your mind is focused on finding a partner, or rather your lack of a partner. What you focus on, you always see more of!

Instead of letting that perpetual shoe-without-a-mate feeling make you lonely, let’s try something that will make you feel better.

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The next time you see a happy couple together, smile. Think about their happiness and mentally congratulate them. They are together, and that’s something you want too! This is a much better way of welcoming it into your life than letting it reflect negatively on you.

Sending love and light to happy couples in love aligns you to the same frequency. It sounds crazy but it’s true. And better yet, it’s an EASY way to send out signals of attraction.

Remember, there is nothing wrong with you, and there is also nothing wrong with being alone. You can be alone without being lonely. Appreciate your alone time while you wait to find someone who deserves you. Take a little extra time to work out, read a book, or hang out with friends. Love yourself in that time, and you will attract more love! This all about energy and doing simple things that raise your frequency, your vibe and your powerful feminine essence!

You have everything else in your life together, and you will find someone who will appreciate that and love you for being you.

Your state of being “alone” is temporary. Raise your vibe, send out love and love is exactly what you’ll get back!

Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams.

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence

Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

2021 – It’s All About Authenticity! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· December 1, 2020

Can you believe this year is almost behind us?

I admit, at times it has felt more like a decade, than a year! But we all have persevered, and there are still good times ahead.

One thing 2020 has taught us is that our lives are unpredictable. One thing you can always have to fall back on when the world is going crazy is your own sense of self. I can’t tell you how important being true to yourself is, both for your own mental health AND in the pursuit of finding the ONE.

When you are comfortable deep down with you who are, that shines through every fiber of your being! It becomes almost effortless to show the world that you are a high-value woman who is full of unshakeable confidence. Do you have any idea how attractive that is to quality men? Spoiler alert – it’s through the roof!

Good men are looking for an equal. A quality man wants a woman who is excited about things in her own life, not just in his. He wants to be proud of the radiant light that shines from WITHIN you.

2020 took us all to the edge, but there is a gift in that. When life turned upside down, we were given an opportunity to really think about what’s important to us, what we want, what we no longer have room for, what we refuse to live without!

So really think about that!

If 2020 shut down life and wiped the slate clean, what do you want to create next year? Who do you want to be? What will you no longer tolerate? What will now get your focus?

I urge you to look within in the coming weeks and see if you’re living a life that feels authentic to you. If there are areas where you feel like you’re just keeping up appearances, it’s time to think about ditching them! Life is just too short (and too complicated!) to spend it juggling a bunch of things that just don’t serve who you really are.

The goal isn’t perfection. Rather, it’s about being proud of your values, your work, your hobbies, your interests…and not apologizing for any of it.

Try it! You may find yourself with not only a fabulous new attitude, but a fabulous new man, as well!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Essence

Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

5 Secret Things Men Need from Women | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· November 17, 2020

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I admit it. I feel a little sorry for men sometimes.

Let me explain.

Even now, in the 21st century, cultural conditioning has led them to believe that they must fit into certain boxes of masculinity. Boxes that tell them things like

“Be a man”

And

“Women like tough guys”

And

“Suck it up”

In other words, men are taught to suppress their feelings, never be insecure, walk with confidence and swagger, and not EVER cry.

Doesn’t that sound a bit harsh? Not to mention unfair.

I think so. I also think that that’s why men NEED our feminine energy now more than ever! Our openness and empathy can help them let down their guard and release everything they have bottled up inside – and they need that! You can use this knowledge to make yourself irresistible. Here’s what you need to know.

Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block!

1. He wants you to like him for everything he IS, not everything he HAS. Acknowledge that you understand the pressure he’s under to provide. Know that he has a deep desire to be loved for things other than the material, and make sure you mention to him the non-material ways he fulfills you, emotionally, sexually, romantically – the list is vast. Remember, men want you to validate that their efforts are seen and appreciated. Just like women, they like compliments too. Just like women, they want to know that they are satisfying you. They won’t ask for this reinforcement, but if you give it, it will be returned to you a hundred times over. He will do more and give more of himself when he knows it makes a difference.

2. Men have a natural need to PLEASE you. The stumbling block comes because men and women tend to value different things. Sometimes, what men do for women goes unnoticed or not commented upon because the action isn’t something women value. For instance, when was the last time you went gaga over your man cleaning your car? Take note of the things he does for you, even if you don’t think it’s a big deal. Even something as simple as commenting positively on their choice of restaurants is enough. Men LOVE to hear that they did a great job!

3. Let him lead as often as you can. When a decision needs to be made, but the outcome isn’t really important to you, this is the perfect time to say yes to whatever he decides. Learn to surrender to his masculine side. I know this sounds wrong, but it’s actually a way to lean MORE into your feminine side, giving him a chance to take care of you the best way he knows how. A great example is if you’re planning a romantic getaway. All you care about is being with him and that there is a quiet beach. After that, let his imagination run wild! This is a fun and healthy way to let his masculinity take charge. (An unhealthy version of this is, for instance, letting him decide who your friends are, or when you can see your family or other things of that nature. Your gut will know the difference!)

4. Give him permission to express how he’s feeling. You are his safe place to fall. When something bad happens in his life that makes him cry, it’s imperative that you let him experience these emotions. The best thing you can do for him is to hold him, and afterward kiss him passionately to let him know that he’s still your man, attractive and masculine.

5. He wants you to meet him where he is, even if you’re not totally into it. This isn’t about subjects like marriage or children if you’re not ready. Think instead of a guy who loves golf. He comes home with a new, super-expensive driver that is supposed to improve his game dramatically. Instead of lecturing him about the expense and what will happen if his game DOESN’T improve, etc., you want to be excited with him and tell him you can’t wait to see his next scorecard! Please note, this tip doesn’t mean you lose yourself in HIS hobbies…you can be supportive of his interests while still tending to your own (men find this attractive, too).

When it comes down to it, men and women are not really that different. We all have the same basic human needs to feel loved and appreciated, to express ourselves and our feelings.

Give your man the space to do just that and he will give you his love and loyalty in return. And maybe a 3-carat diamond. 😉

Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block!

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Categories : Beliefs, Feminine Essence, Relationships

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How to Stop from Getting Friend Zoned

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· January 28, 2020

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I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”

OUCH!

Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly, it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity!

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!

Avoid talking too much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.
Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend-zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic. I know it sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
Avoid Oversharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn-off but you’ve taken away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends

I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!

Love,

Jaki

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

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Categories : All About You, Attraction, Dating, Feminine Essence, Relationships

Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, relationships

Are you a Debbie Downer?

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· January 14, 2020

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You know “Debbie Downer” the Saturday Night Live character that frequently adds bad news and negative feelings to a gathering thus bringing down the mood of everyone around them?

Do you find yourself getting discouraged from time to time and guilty of being a Debbie Downer? Or perhaps you know a friend like this?

Do any of these thoughts ever cross your mind?

“There are no good men left.”

“There are only scammers online.”

“I’m I’ve been online for five months and only been on one date, what’s wrong with me?”

“My situation is complex because I’ve been on my own. I left my dream home and businesses and got almost nothing.”

“Things will never change, so why bother?”

“I’m probably going to be alone.”

“Men are only interested in one thing.”

“How will a high-quality man find value in me.”

What do all of these statements have in common?

They are coming from a place of scarcity, lack, fear, and victimhood.

They suggest that you don’t believe you are the creator of your life, but rather the victim of circumstances. But the reverse is actually true.

You are the creator of your love life.

(Click here to take the Love Forecast and find out what’s in store for your love life and who your celebrity Soul Sisters are! )

I want you to know being stuck in a victim frequency is a REALLY easy trap to fall into! You have suffered, and because of that, have come to believe that there are no good men out there or that if there ARE, they won’t notice you or want you.

When you are stuck in this victim frequency, it’s hard to think about taking risks and playing bigger in life. Heck, you can hardly get out of bed when you are stuck like this!

And, it’s so easy to fall prey to all the negative thinking because everyone around you seems to be getting what they want but you! Which just reinforces “you are not good enough.”

It’s exhausting, and eventually, you start believing that you are better off alone. But, you know down, that you are longing to share your life with someone.

And you will!

(Click here to take the Love Forecast and find out what’s in store for your love life and who your celebrity Soul Sisters are! )

As soon as you start to focus on yourself and stop beating the drum of what you don’t want!

Your journey is of personal growth and begins with focusing on yourself and what you do want. Loving yourself is vital. You’ve got to stop looking for someone else to fill the space in you.

You are already complete. The man isn’t the answer; he’s the compliment. A bonus. The icing on the cake. When you are in victim mode, you send the message that the man is the answer and that’s a heavy burden that most men run from!

If you’re serious about a real Soulmate connection, your main goal is self-work, self-love, and self-acceptance. You will need to heal the hurt from the past and release its hold on you. This will help you hold healthy physical and emotional boundaries.

(Click here to take the Love Forecast and find out what’s in store for your love life and who your celebrity Soul Sisters are! )

When you have good boundaries, you will start to put your needs and wants above everyone else’s, and that will raise your self-esteem and self-respect!

Men will start noticing you and treating your different.

You here the negative put down swirling around in your head, Think about what you say to your best friend or sister or daughter if she were telling you these things about herself. Then rewrite the script would love

Cultivating a positive relationship with yourself is the building block for attracting your soulmate.

(Click here to take the Love Forecast and find out what’s in store for your love life and who your celebrity Soul Sisters are! )

Look at your life for ways you already feel love. Appreciate what is already there.

You don’t NEED to become a “whole new you” to attract a soulmate. Rather, it is time examine your individual patterns and discover what vibrational frequency you’re putting into the universe. It’s adjusting this frequency that can make the difference between attracting Mr. Right…or Mr. Ugh-I-Can’t-Believe-I’m-HERE-Again!

Start by using this forgiveness and gratitude exercise. It’s simple and only takes a few minutes. Repeat this sequence until you run out of things to fill in those blanks!

I forgive______________for____________________
I forgive myself for_________________________
I am so grateful for_________________________
I love________________________________________

In doing so, you’re releasing pain; inviting pleasure and sending a powerful message to the university you’re READY for love!

Love,

Jaki

PS: Click here to take the Love Forecast and find out what’s in store for your love life and who your celebrity Soul Sisters are!

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New Year, New You!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· December 31, 2019

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This isn’t going to be one of those posts that encourages you to throw out the old you and do something totally different. And it’s not to push you to do things that feel completely foreign and make you soooo uncomfortable.

What I want to suggest though, is that you look at the possibility of being a “new you” as adding to what’s already wonderful! You are amazing exactly as you are, and I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that everyone has something that they would like to change. And acknowledging that and working toward a change for the better is wonderful!

So let’s start in that direction by looking at the one thing that you probably have had on your list for a long time: you want to build a strong, healthy relationship with the man you’ve been looking for. Great! Here are three ways that you can make changes for the better, small changes, that can help you call him into your life this year.

Practice gratitude. It’s amazing the difference practicing gratitude makes in your life! And I don’t just mean telling someone “thanks” for holding the door. Really sit in this feeling of gratitude. In the quiet moments, reflect on all the people and things in your life that you truly appreciate. Supportive friends, never-ending summer (hey, that’s real for some people!), your favorite food, even the way the sun shines through the windows of your living room. When you appreciate the little things, you call in more to be thankful for. Even the stuff that you may not appreciate normally like being caught in traffic are an opportunity for gratitude! If you’re in traffic, you have to slow down, and that’s a chance to take a deep breath and relax. Be thankful for new things this year!
Be spontaneous. If you always have to book things weeks in advance, then this is definitely for you! Leave a little space in your calendar for being spontaneous. If the mood seizes you, call some girlfriends for lunch, ask a friend to meet you for drinks, head to a new part of town with your cousin. And remember: you’re also leaving space for someone to ask you, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?”
Try one new thing. New things don’t stick if they are jarring and uncomfortable, so start small. Make a list of things that you would like to try or that you think you would enjoy, and just pick one to do. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish. It could be as simple as jogging on a new trail or stopping by an organic-only grocery store. Expanding your idea of what works in your life opens you up to stretch your comfort zone in new ways, which makes it easy to welcome in someone new.

When you feel like a whole new you full of gratitude, trying new things, and ready to be spontaneous, you’ll find yourself enjoying life more and more! And what’s more attractive than a woman having a blast just being herself?

I have something exciting coming up that I can’t wait to share it with you. Join my email list to make sure you get the notification because you won’t want to miss it!

Love,

Jaki

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