You’ve seen her. She’s walking down the street by herself. A swing in her step. A radiant smile on her face. Not a care in the world.

Everyone notices her because in a sea of people rushing to work while looking at their phones, this woman is HAPPY.

She’s enjoying the moment. She’s engaged with life. She’s present and grateful, and it shows!

The most attractive people on this earth are the ones who are madly in love with their LIFE! Everyone wants to be around someone who is positive, fun and passionate!

That characteristic stems from a healthy self-worth and a true appreciation of our CURRENT REALITY.

I remember a time when I was so sad. I had pretty much given up on love. All I could think about was the fact that I had failed at love and even though quite a bit of time had passed, I was STILL alone! My focus seemed to be on everything I didn’t have. And not surprisingly, that just made me feel worse. Gloomy. Not at all like the woman I described above!

Then I realized something. One night, as I sat outside by the ocean, I felt extreme gratitude for the beauty of that moment. And I realized how blessed I was. Alone for the moment, yes. But extraordinarily blessed.

I started LIVING. And it didn’t take long for a handsome, dashing man named Michael to take notice. He has always said that he noticed my spark and my energy first! Less than two years from that night at the ocean, we were married.

Love your life NOW, exactly as it is and you will find that people can’t take their eyes off of you!

Here are just a few ways you can squeeze joy out of life and flip your attraction switch to “ON!”

1. Be endlessly curious. Always keep learning. Ask questions. Engage in deep and interesting conversations!
2. Take a class. There has to be something that you’ve always wanted to try. Painting, sewing, mountain climbing, whatever! Get out there and test your limits with a group of like-minded people!
3. Learn a foreign language. You don’t have to become fluent. Just pick a language and learn to say “hello,” “goodbye,” “I love you,” and “wow, you’re handsome!”
4. Take a trip to somewhere you’ve never been. Go to a local map, close your eyes and point. Not only is this a great way to meet new people, but it will prove to you that you are an adventurer!
5. Make a blessings list. List everything in your life that you are grateful for. Your health, your clothes, the roof over your heard, your shiny hair, your genius IQ, etc. Gratitude is a POWERFUL catalyst for joy!
6. Make a list of all the things you can do now that you could NOT do in a relationship. What’s actually great about being single?

Here are just a few things that my clients have said:

I currently have full control over the TV remote!

I can spend a Sunday in sweat pants and not worry about anyone seeing me!

I miss sex, but for now, it’s nice to be able to take up the entire bed with NO pressure to perform!

Cooking for one! And sometimes it’s cereal for dinner!

I have NO schedule and no one to answer to. If I want to make last minute happy hour plans with the girls, or workout after work, I can!

Your turn! Take a minute to reflect on your day to day to life. What do you love to do now that might be tricky if you were in a relationship?

This exercise is just one more way to help you feel grateful and blessed and happy. And as you might remember, a happy, radiant, grateful woman is absolutely irresistible!

Congratulations. You’ve taken the 5-Week Summer Love Party Challenge. You’ve laid the fertile soil for love to grow. You have cleared your energy, opened your heart and built the foundation for a solid, committed, blissful relationship.

Practice these 5 things daily. Embody them. Live them! And soon, without even realizing how easy it was, you’ll fall madly in love.

Thank you for spending this time with me!

Much love,

Jaki

There’s one thing that none of us ever seem to have enough of.

And it’s the one thing we wish we had an endless supply of.

Time.

Time flies! No relationship is a waste of time (they all teach us something) but it can certainly save us time if we don’t fall into the trap of being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t actually meet most of our ideal man requirements!

Sure, we want to be a tad flexible. I know a lot of women who are happily married to people who weren’t necessarily their “type.”

But as a general rule, we want to have a clear picture of the exact man we want to attract for two reasons:

Knowing exactly who our ideal man is helps us recognize him when he walks through the door.

And clearly picturing him and feeling his energy sets the Law of Attraction in motion, magnetizing our love right to us!

You may have read my book Single to Committed, 7 Steps to Attract and Keep the Love of Your Life! In that book, I outline an exercise that guides you to mentally and emotionally creating your ideal man. It’s a blueprint for custom-designing your soul mate! It’s fun, and it’s necessary!

Fill in the blanks below as truthfully as you can.

Honesty is KEY here. If your ideal man is independently wealthy, write it down. If he has a full head of hair, write it down. Don’t worry about appearing shallow. NO one sees this but you, and you want to be honest so you don’t waste your time on someone who will never share the same values and goals that you hold dear!

Fill in the blanks:

• I want a man who is….
• My man enjoys…..
• The most important things to my man are….
• If I had to describe his looks I would say that he……
• His most attractive qualities are…..
• The values he holds dear are….
• People often say that he is….
• What I love most about him is that he makes me feel….

There you have it. Your custom-made haute couture man! Look at this list every single day or night. See him. Feel his energy around you and before you know it, he will be real!

See you next week for our final party!

Jaki

Love is a funny thing. It quickens the heart and makes our palms sweat. Love can turn even the most confident, self-assured people into puddles of nervous mush! Love asks us to be vulnerable and open and yet it offers no guarantees!

Love asks us to bare our hearts and souls, to leap without a net and to walk through a door that leads to a place we cannot yet see.

And the only promise it makes us is that it COULD be the pathway to the love of our lives.

Isn’t that amazing??! Love MAKES us courageous. Sure the door might slam shut. But then again, it might not. It might lead us to our soulmate and to our happily ever after.

We are willing to take a chance because the “maybe” being offered to us is worth the risk.

My friends who are actors learn that even the auditions that are total flops are NOT failures. The actors learn something about themselves. They learn what to do differently. And perhaps this is most important.

Remember, there is no such thing as failure. Even if we take a risk and things don’t work out, we have gathered valuable information and the benefit of a practice run!

I have a challenge for you. I want you to take a little step just outside of your comfort zone; just left of what you would normally do!

Below are a few things you can try to prove to yourself that it’s ok to take risks! The world won’t end and you just might surprise yourself.

Here goes:

1. Call someone you don’t know. It can be someone you have been wanting to connect with for your business or a random name from the phone book. (Assuming some people out there still have a good old fashioned phone-book.) Even if you just end up saying that you have the wrong number, just call!
2. Hold eye contact. When you see a man in public, hold his gaze and smile for a FULL 5 seconds. Eye contact doesn’t have to be uncomfortable. It can be incredibly intimate. In fact, make sure you find your target attractive because this is a powerful attraction method.
3. Pay for the dinner of someone you don’t know. Next time you are in a restaurant, while you are still sitting there (as opposed to when you are leaving!) pay for the dinner or dessert of someone else sitting near you. They will likely come over to thank you, which allows you to have a nice conversation with a complete stranger. Just tell them that someone did something nice for you, and you were simply paying it forward.
4. Ask for something for free. Doesn’t matter if you don’t get it! Buying something from the farmer’s market? Say, “Will you throw in a free apple?” Bartering with credit card company? Say, “Any chance I could get one month interest free?” Again it doesn’t matter if they say “no,” but they just might say “yes”!
5. Eat out alone. Awesome, gutsy people have no problem eating alone. And it just might open the door for someone to fill the empty chair beside you.
6. Publicly declare your hidden dream! Tell your friends, tell your co-workers, post it on Facebook. Let the world know what your biggest, juiciest daydream really is!
7. Say “hi” and smile at every person you pass on the street. Not only does this stretch your comfort zone a bit, but it puts you in a position of BECOMING love. And you might just make someone else’s day! You never know who might have needed that simple kindness from you.

That’s it! Simple tricks for unlocking the feminine essence of courage! Love is quite possibly the riskiest adventure we will ever take. It is also, without a doubt, the most rewarding!

See you next time,

Jaki

I am SO happy that you are here with me, on a shared mission to fall madly in love.

Today’s Topic? Gardening! Sort of…

On this day we are planting the fertile ground from which love can grow. You cannot attract love into your life until you pull the lingering weeds—the negativity. If there is any part of you that feels a little cynical, any part of you that’s holding onto old programming or resentment, I am going to show you how to purge that so that you can send the message out to men that you are READY!

You might be wondering how you know if there’s any lingering weeds. It’s easy. If you’ve ever said or thought any of the following sentences, you are in need of a good gardener!

• “I’m just too old to fall in love”
• “All men are jerks.”
• “I only attract unavailable men.”
• “There’s no such thing as true love.”

Stop right there! There are MILLIONS of happily committed couples in the world. There is no reason you can’t be one of them!

Any thoughts like the ones above are just products of past pain. PAST pain. Pain that has no place in your life anymore. Pain that was born out of the shortcomings of someone ELSE, not you; someone who couldn’t process, give or receive love.

That sounds a lot like the OPPOSITE of what you are looking for, so why spend another minute renting space to thoughts that are not aligned with your CURRENT goals?

Here is my all- time FAVORITE way to clear my energy and BECOME love.

It’s an ancient Hawaiian practice of forgiveness called Ho’oponopono. It literally means “to correct and set right.”

Here’s how you do it:

1. Find a place where you can sit or lay down quietly
2. Take a few deep cleansing breaths and close your eyes
3. State with all your heart “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as LOVE!

It might feel strange to be asking for forgiveness. After all, YOU may have been wronged. But we aren’t just forgiving those who have hurt us here. We are forgiving ourselves for any part we had in it, for anything we carried and held onto, for anything we allowed.

Practice this for as many people or situations that come to mind. You may find you are forgiving people who wronged you in grade school!

It’s a beautiful process that wipes your slate clean and opens the door to your heart.

See you next week!

Love,

Jaki