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Archive for Feminine Process

How to Shake Off a Rut! (And Get Your Feminine Power back!) | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 16, 2021 

Years ago, when I was newly divorced, I spent many nights sitting alone on my couch feeling despondent and sure that I would never find love again. In fact, there were many times I didn’t even think I WANTED to find love again! I had been so let down and it was hard for me to trust that there were men out there who wouldn’t break my heart.

 

Is that where you are right now? Maybe you’ve had one too many heartbreaks lately and are having a hard time believing in love. If this IS how you’re feeling, my heart goes out to you. It’s such a hard place to be.

 

But that’s why I’m writing this – I want to help you break free from this pattern of thinking. Your true love is out there trying to find you, but you have to help ease his path to your door.

 

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Some things you can do to get back to believing again:

  

  • Acknowledge what’s hurt you in the past. Whether it was cheating, or being talked down to, or feeling like you weren’t a priority, bring it out and think about it. But also think about other times when you met or dated some “good guys” with whom things didn’t ultimately click. Your goal is to remember that there are good ones out there…you just need to find the one who DOES click with you!

 

Also remind yourself that what happened to you is not a reflection of your worth but rather a reflection of the other person’s inability to love. Period! It was THEM, not YOU.

 

  • Change your mind. Plain and simple. You can choose to be miserable, or you can choose to be happy! 

 

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  • Romance yourself. Stop negative self-talk and tell yourself you’re worthy of everything you desire. Treat yourself to some beautiful flowers, delicious chocolates, a spa day…whatever is going to make you feel special. It’ll become a habit that will signal to yourself you’re someone who is deserving of good things.

 

  • Let go of your fear. When we’ve been on the losing end of a relationship, it HURTS! It hurts so much, in fact, that the next time we have a chance with someone that pain turns into something else – fear. Fear of being hurt again, of feeling a fool, of repeating the same mistakes. But do you want to keep your heart completely safe at the risk of never falling in love again? I would hope that thought scares you more than any of the other love-based fears you’re harboring!

 

  • Give someone a chance. In other words, be a little less picky (a little!). It’s virtually impossible to find a man who ticks off all the boxes, so to speak. Maybe you’ve met a quality guy who’s shorter than you are, and that doesn’t at first thought work for you. Does that have to be a deal breaker? Instead of dismissing him, why not get to know him? You might find other qualities in him that can’t be measured with a yardstick.

 

  • Recommit to why you want love in your life. Maybe you’ve been easing off on checking your dating profiles, or letting messages languish. It’s ok to take some time off to just be you, but if you’re sliding from “taking a break” into “it all just seems too complicated,” it’s time to rethink things! Take a stand that you’re still worthy of love, that you deserve to be happy, and get back in the game!

Your perfect man won’t be able to connect with you if you shut yourself off from the world. It’s time to get off the couch and go after the love you’ve been waiting for!

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Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Is Your Past Pain Sabotaging you? | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· March 2, 2021 

We all have instances in our lives in which we’re hurt by someone we care about. Even if they occurred long ago (even sometimes as far back as childhood!), these occurrences can impact our present, wreaking havoc on our happiness and our relationships. This ruminating on the past isn’t healthy, but I see so many women struggle with how to handle these emotions so that they can forgive, and most importantly, let go!

 

There are plenty of people walking around today who appear to have it all together, who are functioning very well in society, even “climbing up the ladder” towards career success. But if we look closer into their hearts, you’d see that even they have some kind of constant hurt and pain playing on a loop again and again. Does that sound like you? It likely does; it fits everyone at some point! But to truly live a life of joy and peace, these hurts MUST be finally banished to the past, where they have no power over you.

 

So the question becomes, “How can I move past this and leave it behind?” I know it sounds daunting. Maybe you’ve even tried and decided you weren’t up for it just yet. But please give yourself some credit – you’re stronger than you think! Here are some steps you can take to lessen the impact of those past slings and arrows:

 

  • Stop wondering why you were the target of the hurt. You likely may never know the reason, especially if the person is no longer in your life. Instead of rehashing these old questions with no answers, use that time to make NEW memories and experiences – happier ones that can be concrete reminders that you’re in a different and better place now.

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  • Don’t take things personally. Sometimes – most times! – it isn’t even about you. As I said before, we ALL have painful baggage. Sometimes we just find ourselves in the crosshairs of someone else’s pain, nothing but a convenient target for harmful words or betrayals to be unleashed. No, it doesn’t feel good! But reminding yourself that the act that caused you pain reflects more on the person who caused it than it does on you, can help a lot. 

 

  • Let go of the victim mentality. Continually remembering yourself in victim mode only steals your strength and gives it right back to the person who caused you the pain. You may have been knocked down, but it’s just a part of your life tapestry. You’ve also gotten back up! Be proud of that and remember that you are stronger than you may think.

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  • Forgive. I know, this is a toughie. I’ve been there myself many, many times! Please believe me though, forgiveness not only allows you to finally move on, it is a self-protection mechanism. When you don’t forgive, the anger and resentment eats away at YOUR peace.  It’s like swallowing poison yourself then and asking the other person to die! Forgiveness doesn’t excuse or justify the bad behavior, but it releases us from the toxicity of the wound.

 

This isn’t easy work, but it’s absolutely vital if you want to call in a new relationship and grow it from clean and pure ground!

 

Forgiving the past sends a powerful message to the universe that you have made space to receive a bright and beautiful future! 

Go here to read about joining my Inner Circle Program. Get coaching and get the man!

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How Women Ruin Valentine’s Day | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· February 9, 2021 

With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I’ve been hearing from many ladies that they’re unsure of how to navigate the day. 

Maybe you’re wondering the same!

You know how you’d like to celebrate and may even have some bling in mind for your guy to give you as a gift. Yet, the ghosts of Valentine’s past spring up and you don’t know if you should just keep quiet and let him take the lead or give a subtle hint about what you’re hoping for. 

One woman I know is already feeling disappointed because he hasn’t said anything – but neither has she! 

You don’t have to stay silent, ladies! Men are not mind readers, and while Valentine’s Day can be full of love and fun, it’s also a holiday that puts a LOT of pressure on men. If they don’t do enough, they’re in trouble. If they go overboard, they can also be in trouble (if it scares their partner off!). 

Do them a favor and speak up so there’s little chance for confusion or disappointment on either of your parts. As we know, men are not known for their mind-reading abilities. This isn’t the time to hint around. They either won’t notice or worse, will find it annoying! Use a Valentine’s ad on tv as a springboard if you want, but from there nothing beats the direct approach. What would feel best to you? A night out? A sparkly new necklace? A weekend away? Go over in your mind the possibilities and see what your gut tells you. You’ll know what the sweet spot is, where you get what you want, and he feels appreciated by giving it to you. 

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It’s important, however, to not use a hammer to drive home your expectations! Instead, use your feather. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – gentle guidance wins the day. Your current man isn’t to blame for your past Valentine’s Day disappointments so don’t go into complaining mode and give him the impression that he better deliver – or else! Better to give him some ideas of some special gifts you’d love, or the name of a new restaurant you’d like to try, or…well, use your imagination! If you wrap your request around words of excitement and joy that you’re so happy to have him to celebrate the day with, he will want to come through for you. 

Isn’t this a much better scenario than finding out on February 13th he got a reservation somewhere you hate, on the 15th, because the place was full for Valentine’s Day? Or receiving a bouquet of flowers when you’re allergic? Or a gold necklace when you’re partial to silver? 

Don’t be afraid, to be honest, and get your needs met this Valentine’s Day! May it be a day full of love and light for you this year. 

Don’t let another Valentine’s Day go by without beginning your Soulmate Journey – go here to find out how to make your next Valentine’s your best!

 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Connecting With Your Feminine Energy | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 7, 2021 

In today’s video, I talk about the power of your feminine energy and why men respond so naturally to it. 

Click below to watch the video:

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Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Combat the Holiday Blues! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 24, 2020 

The holidays might look different, but the desire to share them is the same!

Pandemic or no pandemic, the holidays are coming!

And even though the celebratory social whirl that comes along with that might not be the same this year, the messages we receive are the same – among them, that the holidays are a time of romantic and joyful togetherness. It’s in our social media feeds, Hallmark movies, and commercials. And it can be relentless. I’d say that this is the hardest time of the year to be single.

I remember many Decembers myself where I longed for someone special to curl up with me and watch cozy holiday specials by the fire or meet me under the mistletoe.

That’s why I’m using this space today to share some ways to beat the holiday blues and enjoy the season. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in your mindset to change things around!

You can use this special time of the year, in fact, to practice extra self-care and give yourself extra love. Relax, recharge, and share your joy with others (even if it’s through Zoom!).

To avoid feelings of loneliness:

1. Stay in touch with potential quality men you meet online. The holidays themselves are a great source of conversation topics! Special childhood memories, crazy traditions, hopes for 2021, favorite holiday treats…the list is endless. With COVID limiting dating, it’s actually less pressure on a budding relationship through this time of year! You can enjoy someone’s virtual company without the added stress of “do I buy him a gift?” or “do I ask him to dinner with my family,” etc. etc.! Put on a gorgeous top, have a glass of eggnog, and continue getting to know some people! You may be busier in the new year than you can even handle!

  • (An addendum to this is, show up for any Zoom “parties” you might be invited to. You just never know when a great guy will be in one of those little squares! And if not, it’s so easy to sign off.)

2. Take advantage of the free time you may now have in your schedule to cater to one person – you. It’s natural to be disappointed when long-anticipated parties or events are canceled but maybe you’re also a little relieved! Read that novel on your nightstand. Cook yourself your favorite meal. Nap. Work out. Meditate. Clean your closet. Ask yourself what would make you feel happiest – and do those things!

3. Remember that this too shall pass. Meaning both the pandemic and your single state. It’s hard to be patient in the face of the unknown, when there is no firm answer to the age-old question of “WHEN???” Keep your eyes focused forward and keep working towards your goal of finding that special someone. Remember, he’s out there somewhere in the same boat as you, wondering when you will arrive, and how, and hoping that next year he will be kissing you at midnight on New Year’s Eve!

You can be by yourself without feeling totally alone or full of self-pity. It’s ok to have some moments of doubt, of course, but try to limit them! You are so very special, and there IS a man out there who deserves you.

BONUS TIP-

Wanting is the opposite of HAVING.

So, focus on gratitude for what you DO have this holiday season and you will raise your manifesting ability sky high!

Cheers!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How to Get a Second Date

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· May 10, 2019 
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In this video I talk to you about:

How to Get a Second Date

Can you relate to feeling the tension, uncertainty, desire, and even the fear that comes up before a first date? Well how do you harness that so you get on a second date? I know your intention is to enjoy yourself and his company and to have fun. But it doesn’t always turn out like you hope. I want to share the common pitfalls that keep you from getting asked our again during my live coaching.

I will teach you how to overcome your fears and empower yourself so you can connect with men with grace and ease. This allows you to create a deep emotional connection that leads to a commitment!

These are some of the concepts I teach in my signature program Engaged at Any Age®. Just click here to schedule a call with me and discover if Engaged at Any Age® is right for you!

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Categories : Attraction, Beliefs, Confidence, Dating, Feminine Process, Relationships

What to Do When He Acts Distant

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· May 3, 2019 
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In this video I talk to you about:

What to Do When He Acts Distant

It’s a situation that is all too common. You’re seeing a guy, it could be casual or serious, and then he starts acting distant. At first, you think maybe you’re being paranoid, so you try to ignore the signs. But denial can only take you so far and soon enough you have to admit that it’s not your imagination!! 

I will teach you how to overcome your fears and empower yourself so you can connect with men with grace and ease. This allows you to create a deep emotional connection that leads to a commitment!

These are some of the concepts I teach in my signature program Engaged at Any Age®. Just click here to schedule a call with me and discover if Engaged at Any Age® is right for you!

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Categories : Attraction, Beliefs, Confidence, Dating, Feminine Process, Relationships

Three Mistakes Women Make in Relationships

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· April 26, 2019 
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In this video I talk to you about:

Three Mistakes Women Make in Relationships!

If you want a harmonious relationship you need to avoid these three mistakes that can sabotage your relationship.

I will teach you how to overcome your fears and empower yourself so you can connect with men with grace and ease. This allows you to create a deep emotional connection that leads to a commitment!

These are some of the concepts I teach in my signature program Engaged at Any Age®. Just click here to schedule a call with me and discover if Engaged at Any Age® is right for you!

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