The quest to find our one true “person” is always on the forefront of our minds. It’s almost impossible to escape the desire to find our soulmates when rom-coms are flooding our television screens, adorable couples are taking over our Instagram pages and most of our friends are coupled up or getting engaged and married.
Your one true love will affect your life in more ways than just putting a smile on your face or giving you butterflies. Click below to watch the video:
I admit it. I feel a little sorry for men sometimes.
Let me explain.
Even now, in the 21st century, cultural conditioning has led them to believe that they must fit into certain boxes of masculinity. Boxes that tell them things like
“Be a man”
And
“Women like tough guys”
And
“Suck it up”
In other words, men are taught to suppress their feelings, never be insecure, walk with confidence and swagger, and not EVER cry.
Doesn’t that sound a bit harsh? Not to mention unfair.
I think so. I also think that that’s why men NEED our feminine energy now more than ever! Our openness and empathy can help them let down their guard and release everything they have bottled up inside – and they need that! You can use this knowledge to make yourself irresistible. Here’s what you need to know.
Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block!
1. He wants you to like him for everything he IS, not everything he HAS. Acknowledge that you understand the pressure he’s under to provide. Know that he has a deep desire to be loved for things other than the material, and make sure you mention to him the non-material ways he fulfills you, emotionally, sexually, romantically – the list is vast. Remember, men want you to validate that their efforts are seen and appreciated. Just like women, they like compliments too. Just like women, they want to know that they are satisfying you. They won’t ask for this reinforcement, but if you give it, it will be returned to you a hundred times over. He will do more and give more of himself when he knows it makes a difference.
2. Men have a natural need to PLEASE you. The stumbling block comes because men and women tend to value different things. Sometimes, what men do for women goes unnoticed or not commented upon because the action isn’t something women value. For instance, when was the last time you went gaga over your man cleaning your car? Take note of the things he does for you, even if you don’t think it’s a big deal. Even something as simple as commenting positively on their choice of restaurants is enough. Men LOVE to hear that they did a great job!
3. Let him lead as often as you can. When a decision needs to be made, but the outcome isn’t really important to you, this is the perfect time to say yes to whatever he decides. Learn to surrender to his masculine side. I know this sounds wrong, but it’s actually a way to lean MORE into your feminine side, giving him a chance to take care of you the best way he knows how. A great example is if you’re planning a romantic getaway. All you care about is being with him and that there is a quiet beach. After that, let his imagination run wild! This is a fun and healthy way to let his masculinity take charge. (An unhealthy version of this is, for instance, letting him decide who your friends are, or when you can see your family or other things of that nature. Your gut will know the difference!)
4. Give him permission to express how he’s feeling. You are his safe place to fall. When something bad happens in his life that makes him cry, it’s imperative that you let him experience these emotions. The best thing you can do for him is to hold him, and afterward kiss him passionately to let him know that he’s still your man, attractive and masculine.
5. He wants you to meet him where he is, even if you’re not totally into it. This isn’t about subjects like marriage or children if you’re not ready. Think instead of a guy who loves golf. He comes home with a new, super-expensive driver that is supposed to improve his game dramatically. Instead of lecturing him about the expense and what will happen if his game DOESN’T improve, etc., you want to be excited with him and tell him you can’t wait to see his next scorecard! Please note, this tip doesn’t mean you lose yourself in HIS hobbies…you can be supportive of his interests while still tending to your own (men find this attractive, too).
When it comes down to it, men and women are not really that different. We all have the same basic human needs to feel loved and appreciated, to express ourselves and our feelings.
Give your man the space to do just that and he will give you his love and loyalty in return. And maybe a 3-carat diamond. 😉
Take the Commitment Quiz to discover your number one relationship block!
Everything you think say and do is being broadcast out to the universe and it comes back as pictures in your life. Your life reflects what you’ve been thinking about!
Most of your thoughts (until you become conscious of them) are very negative, for example, “I’m not good enough” There are no good men” “It’s not safe to open my heart.”
Today’s video we examine the most predominate thoughts that may be sabotaging you and what to do about it! Click here to watch the video now.
Click below to watch the video:
We’ve all had a lot of time this year to be alone with ourselves, haven’t we?
It’s an uncomfortable place to be for many of us, for sure. However, when you’re trying to find a solid, lasting relationship with the man of your dreams, self-reflection is paramount.
It takes courage but being authentic with potential partners is the only way to sustained happiness. You don’t want to be exhausted by trying to be someone you’re not just to keep a man! In fact, you won’t get a quality man by faking things! High-quality men are attracted to women who know their own value. There’s no better way to prove that you know your worth than by recognizing and celebrating your unique qualities and quirks! Show you know your own value – recognize and celebrate your uniqueness and quirks and become the best version of yourself!
Solitude doesn’t have to feel lonely. The key is to use that time to get into an intimate relationship with YOURSELF!
Some ways to do this:
Most of us have been conditioned over YEARS that we need to fit a certain mold, live a certain way, look a certain way, to land a man.
I want you to break out of that thinking! The only person who’s ultimately responsible for your happiness is you. Follow my tips above and you’ll see a change in yourself and your relationships (AND the kind of men you’re attracting!). What changes are you going to make today to live more authentically? I’d love to hear about it!
Take the CommittmentQuiz.com and discover what is keeping you from a committed relationship.
We enter relationships because we naturally yearn to share our lives with another. Still, something fascinating happens the minute we cross the threshold of commitment. We can sabotage the relationship unless we are prepared for what may surface once you’ve established you’re exclusive!
Now how do you cope with these common fears? Click below to watch the video now:
One of the most frustrating things about dating is when you end up wasting time. It happens a lot when we are younger because we just don’t spot the red flags early on. We don’t have the important discussions upfront. Or maybe we let things slide that aren’t as easy to ignore when we get older.
But even a seasoned dater may not know exactly how to fast-track commitment, so I wanted to give you some of my favorite tips to keep you from wasting your time and really get to where you want to be in a relationship.
1. Be clear about what you’re looking for from the beginning.
I don’t want you to feel awkward about doing this because it’s really an important step. When you’re honest upfront, it gives him the chance to be honest, too. And frankly, it can keep both of you from wasting time.
When you initially talk on the phone, let him know what you’re looking for when you’re dating. Say, “I’m excited about starting a family someday” or “” I’m excited to find someone to spend my life with.” Then ask, “What about you?” Most men will be honest here and let you know what they want from dating. If your answers aren’t the same, then you know right off the bat that you aren’t a match. Be polite and wish him luck.
2. Believe what you hear.
If he says he’s looking for casual dating, then don’t try to convert him. There is a very slim chance that he will decide he wants more from you, and you don’t want to waste your time. You want what you want. So don’t settle. You’ll just be disappointed in the end.
3. Observe his actions.
When you’re dating, sometimes fear of commitment or other hang-ups will show up when you get closer to someone. Make sure his actions match the words. You deserve someone who follows through, and you want someone you can depend on. If he’s making plans for several months down the road—“We should go to that concert together this summer”—then see what he does to follow through on that idea.
4. Consider a reasonable time frame for moving forward, and stick with it.
So many women ask me what is an acceptable amount of time to go from dating to being exclusive to getting engaged to getting married. It’s whatever you feel comfortable with. As you age, you may tighten the time frame because you’ll spot the red flags faster. And yes, it’s OK to get married in 6 months, especially if everything is clicking.
Follow your gut. It’s called “women’s intuition” for a reason. It’s strong. It’s aligned with your truth. And it will never mislead you!
Love,
Jaki
You should only date men who lift you up, build your self-esteem, and make you a better person. Period.
If you are constantly feeling like he is jealous, is intimidating you, or making you feel like you need to change who you are, then he is not who you want to build a relationship with.
Here are 4 red flags you’re dating a jealous man…
1. Feeling the need to change yourself. If you feel you are dimming your own light to make him feel better about himself, this is a red flag. Don’t ever change who you are, and especially don’t dim your light to make him feel brighter and happier.
2. Constant overexplaining. You shouldn’t be questioned about every situation and you definitely shouldn’t find yourself constantly overexplaining unnecessary things. There should be a deep level of trust and understanding between both parties, so you don’t have to explain yourself when it’s not necessary.
3. Comparison. You shouldn’t be comparing yourself to other people, and he shouldn’t be comparing you to anyone either. No ex, no visionary “dream” woman, no one! He should love you for who you are.
4. Too Nosy. A tell-tale sign of a jealous man is one that is nosy. A man who digs through your things out of suspicion and wants in on every detail of your life is jealous. You deserve your privacy and deserve to be trusted when you are dating someone.
If you find that you are dating a jealous man, then here’s my advice and solution for you today: vote with your feet and leave the relationship!
We all know women who seem to just have a “way” with men.
Yes, some of us are just born with it.
The good news is, you can LEARN it…and once you do, you’ll surprise yourself with how fast you catch on! You can be one of “those” women who always seems comfortable and always seems to have the attention of every man in the room!
Women who attract and keep men know that it’s all about these four principles of seduction:
You can’t lay this on thick enough. Men love to play the hero, even when the heroic act is something as simple as vacuuming or picking up dinner. Treating these everyday actions like he just carried you up Mt. Everest will do wonders for his mood…and make him a shoo-in to keep WANTING to do more for you!
Tell him you admire something he’s doing. Example: “I really admire how attentive you are to your kids.” This will make him feel like a man – something they all crave – and he will connect that to you. Besides, who doesn’t adore someone who tells them they’re doing something well?
You need to remember that it’s important to convey to a man that you accept him for who he is, not what he can do for you. In fact, the more accepted he feels, the more likely it is that he will want to do more for you! You won’t even have to ask!
I don’t know a man in the world that doesn’t want a woman to touch him. Think of ways to introduce more incidental but meaningful physical contact into your days. Stroke his arm as you walk by, steal a quick kiss, tousle his hair gently…whatever feels right to you. We all need to be touched and embraced, and the more you do it, the more connected you’ll both feel.
It’s ok to start slowly with these! Try one at a time and see the changes…you’ll be excited to build from there, I promise!
Before you know it, other women will be looking at YOU and thinking “Wow, how does she DO that?”
xo,
Jaki
