The holidays might look different, but the desire to share them is the same!
Pandemic or no pandemic, the holidays are coming!
And even though the celebratory social whirl that comes along with that might not be the same this year, the messages we receive are the same – among them, that the holidays are a time of romantic and joyful togetherness. It’s in our social media feeds, Hallmark movies, and commercials. And it can be relentless. I’d say that this is the hardest time of the year to be single.
I remember many Decembers myself where I longed for someone special to curl up with me and watch cozy holiday specials by the fire or meet me under the mistletoe.
That’s why I’m using this space today to share some ways to beat the holiday blues and enjoy the season. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in your mindset to change things around!
You can use this special time of the year, in fact, to practice extra self-care and give yourself extra love. Relax, recharge, and share your joy with others (even if it’s through Zoom!).
To avoid feelings of loneliness:
1. Stay in touch with potential quality men you meet online. The holidays themselves are a great source of conversation topics! Special childhood memories, crazy traditions, hopes for 2021, favorite holiday treats…the list is endless. With COVID limiting dating, it’s actually less pressure on a budding relationship through this time of year! You can enjoy someone’s virtual company without the added stress of “do I buy him a gift?” or “do I ask him to dinner with my family,” etc. etc.! Put on a gorgeous top, have a glass of eggnog, and continue getting to know some people! You may be busier in the new year than you can even handle!
- (An addendum to this is, show up for any Zoom “parties” you might be invited to. You just never know when a great guy will be in one of those little squares! And if not, it’s so easy to sign off.)
2. Take advantage of the free time you may now have in your schedule to cater to one person – you. It’s natural to be disappointed when long-anticipated parties or events are canceled but maybe you’re also a little relieved! Read that novel on your nightstand. Cook yourself your favorite meal. Nap. Work out. Meditate. Clean your closet. Ask yourself what would make you feel happiest – and do those things!
3. Remember that this too shall pass. Meaning both the pandemic and your single state. It’s hard to be patient in the face of the unknown, when there is no firm answer to the age-old question of “WHEN???” Keep your eyes focused forward and keep working towards your goal of finding that special someone. Remember, he’s out there somewhere in the same boat as you, wondering when you will arrive, and how, and hoping that next year he will be kissing you at midnight on New Year’s Eve!
You can be by yourself without feeling totally alone or full of self-pity. It’s ok to have some moments of doubt, of course, but try to limit them! You are so very special, and there IS a man out there who deserves you.
Wanting is the opposite of HAVING.
So, focus on gratitude for what you DO have this holiday season and you will raise your manifesting ability sky high!