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I’ve heard it a thousand times.
The second I saw him, my knees turned weak! I was shaking! My heart was racing. I wanted him so bad!
I can’t tell you how many emails I get from women who felt this way, mistook it for a “sign,” went home with him and found themselves hurt and confused when he never called again. Frantic energy almost always leads to heartbreak.
Conventional wisdom and more than a few fairy tales have taught us that this kind of weak in the knees reaction to a man is a sure sign that he’s the one!
Don’t believe the hype!
The feeling described above is certainly pleasant and exciting but it’s more likely a feeling of lust than a sign of a true love connection.
You see, spirit, intuition, whatever you want to call it, doesn’t speak frantically through racing hearts and manic energy.
Spirit speaks in whispers. In peace. In a feeling that you’ve known someone forever and can be exactly who you are.
This is true about everything! The conversation on finding your love is a big one. And the conventional wisdom is to “find your true love!” But the truth is, a lot of us have ideas that excite us, and then we are left confused when our enthusiasm wanes a few days later.
That’s because spirit speaks with PEACE and SERENITY.
Should you be enthused? Of course. But the enthusiasm should come from a place of peaceful flow. Ease and grace. Certainty.
When I met Michael I was instantly attracted to him of course, but I didn’t feel frantic. I felt content. I noticed that my breath was steady and relaxed. It was almost… a given.
In Lady Chatterley’s Lover, D.H. Lawrence wrote of Lady Chatterley falling in love with Oliver Mellors. This line always stood out to me:
His face was pale and without expression, like that of a man submitting to fate.
That’s what real love feels like. Like fate handing you an invitation that you find yourself accepting, with a happy and peaceful obedience. Because you recognize it as YOURS.
Love,
Jaki
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