I’m curious. How might your life be different if you had a strong feminine role model growing up? If there had been other women who had nurtured you and modeled for you what it is to be in your feminine energy, do you think your relationships might have been a little happier? More balanced maybe?
We live in a patriarchal society where men rule and women have developed the masculine process to survive. We have learned definition, clarity, logic and order, which have so often seemed superior.
Now we are beginning to see that our feminine process is very much needed for the wholeness we crave. Understanding that we possess both masculine and feminine that must be balanced is key to feeling fulfilled.
I know because I have lived most of my life in my masculine energy. I used my mind to get my needs met, raise my children and relate to my spouse. But there was something missing, I was wearing the pants and it didn’t feel good. I pushed, I struggled, I dominated and it was exhausting.
I knew that I needed to surrender to my inner urgings to get in touch with my own process. After years of pressing forward I needed to find a better way to live my life. I couldn’t keep up the pace. I was also repelling men. I didn’t know why, but I felt there was a connection.
Then I discovered that women who use their masculine energy repel good quality men. I’m not saying that it’s good or bad. I’m just saying that if you want a strong, solid, confidant man with great work ethic and strong family values who loves and adores you he’s going to be in his masculine energy. And he is going to need you to let him lead!
We have learned to ignore our feelings, we have learned to “go with the flow” rushing along in a pressure filled life, lists in hand, pushing ahead through the endless stream of tasks in the professional and political realms.
I was talking to a man I met about this conundrum and he said: “Of the female friends I have, almost all of them can be considered strong and independent, because almost all of them have proved so by their own actions and their own lifestyle. They have the need to display their strong and independent self; they go to great lengths to act both directly and indirectly, in order to get people around them to recognize their strength and independence. And here is the funny thing; I can describe them quite easily, as bossy and domineering. And being an extremely independent guy myself, I would often run into major problems with that type because their need to display and my need to maintain my dignity as a man would come clashing”.
So independent women come off as bossy and domineering and it clashes with a man’s need to maintain his dignity? Very eye opening.
So you need to be in your feminine energy. But how do you ground yourself in that energy? How do you draw your thoughts and feelings together in a way that you can come to a clearer knowing of what your life is about? And how can you be strong and independent but not come off as bossy or domineering?
It’s an inside job. What’s going on inside shows up outside. It’s not how you dress, or what you say it’s how you are. Is your essence at ease? Are you able to be soft, open and loving without crossing boundaries and appearing needy, clingy and emotional?
It’s time to live in the divine essence that you were born with!
And if you need some help getting there, reach out anytime. Click here to book a FREE strategy call to stop repelling men and start attracting your ideal man now.