Every day, we play a bunch of different roles, don’t we?
And with each role is a new set of expectations! As women we often fall into the trap of managing our emotions, rather than FEELING them or expressing them!
Sometimes it’s tough to manage our various identities and the masks we wear for each one. Sometimes we are so busy keeping our emotions in check that we don’t always take the time to reflect on how wearing these masks can impact our lives.
Without reflection, the mask-wearing experience can impact our emotions and behaviors negatively. Many women exhaust themselves just to present an “ideal” image to the world. But, this sabotages you! A man wants to connect to the real you, not a well-crafted image of you.
You don’t have to be perfect to be successful at dating but you do need a strategy.
You have to take off the mask and be authentic so you can open yourself more and more to intimacy.
Here are Six strategies to help you U.N.M.A.S.K. in dating so you can create an emotional connection with a man who will commit to you.
U – Use your voice. Women often minimize their voices in order to please, but this can actually sabotage you. Men like a woman who has an opinion. Don’t let your approval issues keep you from expressing how you feel. Let your voice be heard.
N – Never ignore you feelings. Your feelings are not good, bad, wrong or right. They are just how you feel and are intuitive messages from your inner self. If your feelings warrant action, don’t allow self-doubt to hold you back. Trust yourself to take action.
M – Manage your expectations and detach from outcomes. When you detach from outcomes you free up tremendous amounts of energy. Attaching to outcomes causes disappointment and disillusion. When you detach, you go with the flow, which is a feminine quality that men love!
A – Acknowledge your vunerabitlies and insecurities. The key is to be aware of them so you can address them more effectively for your own sanity, and sharing a few with your date will inspires him and provide an opportunity to step in and help. Saying “My car battery is dead, not sure how I’m going to meet you now” or “Sorry, I had a rough day at work!” or “I’m nervous and not sure why” is perfectly ok!
S – Stretch yourself out of your comfort zone. Everything you want is out of your current comfort zone. Our mind is addicted to the “knowns” in life but there is little evolution in that. Stepping out into the unknown consistently will stretch your comfort zone to include a juicy relationship.
K – Know your support system. Make sure you are aware of the people who understand you and allow those people to get close to you and support you. No one can do everything alone! Build intimate relationships so that you have a net to rely on in challenging times. Use your net.
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