I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”
OUCH!
Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity!
Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!
- Avoid talking to much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.
- Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love them. You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic. I know it’s sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
- Avoid Over sharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn off but you’ve taking away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends
I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!
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