I was married to my first husband for years.
I’ll spare you the painful details, but there were a few incidents that made it crystal clear that our union needed to end.
I was heartbroken. My self-worth was damaged.
And yet…I went back.
Again and again. No matter how many times my intuition was begging me to let him go, I kept going back.
Why do we do this to ourselves??
I’ve come to learn that there are a couple of reasons women cling to men who are never going to be good for them and none of them are your fault!
The first reason is that society trains us as little girls to source our worth from external sources. The prince always comes to save the princess! We are taught to stay quiet and obedient and find a man who will take care of us.
We are TRAINED to NEED.
The second reason is that we are programmed at birth with an internal compass and every year after we are born life works to DE-program that compass. We are constantly distracted and tempted and reprogrammed to listen to everything BUT our gut and that results in us being completely unable to trust the guidance of our own hearts.
Because what if we are wrong? What if we can’t make it without him? What if the grass isn’t greener?
But what I came to realize is that those risks were worth it.
I was willing to risk all of those things in favor of saving and honoring myself.
I’m curious if you can relate to this. Have you ever had trouble letting go of an ex? Or maybe you’re in a situation right now that you know isn’t right, but you can’t bring yourself to leave? I’d like to hear about it.
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