I work with a lot of women who are looking at a new beginning, many because they are divorced.
Starting over after a divorce can be hard emotionally, plus getting back into dating isn’t always a task we want to tackle. Your heart might still be pretty raw!
On top of that, we may have underlying thoughts that make it difficult to put ourselves out there due to the breakup. We can be left wondering if we will ever find someone who is ready for a real relationship. Someone who will treat us the way we want to be treated. Or maybe we are worried about making another mistake!
All that combined can be enough to make you want to join a convent—I’ve heard A LOT of women joke about that—or swear off men—yep, I’ve heard that one too!—but let’s look at it a different way.
You already know what doesn’t work, and you have a better idea of what you’re looking for now that you’ve been through the battle! And we both know that money is a BIG issue after a divorce. Finding a man who is financially secure is important because, let’s face it, as a successful woman who has it all together, we want someone who is right there with us.
One of the biggest issues in relationships can be finances. So if you feel a little nervous about looking for someone who has all their stuff together financially, don’t be! You’re not greedy. You’re not a princess. You just want someone who is your equal. And that’s awesome!
Someone who doesn’t have direction or is always struggling to pay off credit cards or hasn’t bothered to save any money for the future isn’t someone you want as a partner, so don’t believe for a second that it’s ok to accept that. You know what you deserve, and that’s someone who has their finances together, just like you do! The total package is out there <name> so you don’t have to choose between desires!
Don’t accept a date from a guy who isn’t on par with you just because a friend told you it’s time to get back in the game or because he has the most beautiful blue eyes or whatever! Know what you want, and don’t accept anything less!
You’re amazing, and he should be too!