I’m not good enough. It never works out. So why waste the time?
I have terrible judgment. I always pick the wrong man.
I don’t even know how to act when I am attracted to a man. It’s been so long!
I don’t want to get in yet another relationship where I am more in love than he is.
Do any of these sound familiar to you?
Here’s what I want to tell you about these limiting statements.
They are all things that women have actually said to me.
They are all fear-based statements.
And they all have kept women from stepping into their destined love.
This week, I had a wakeup call in the form of a family emergency. It was the kind of wakeup call that makes you realize how short and fragile life can be.
I lay in bed that night and thought about all the things I haven’t pursued because I was afraid. Everything from tough but necessary conversations I’ve avoided to adventures I never found the courage to go on!
Recently, when I had the pleasure of speaking to author John Gray, he spoke about the fact that women play too small; that we tend not to take risks and not to stand up for what we need.
In reality, standing up for what we need, using our voice, taking risks and acting with courage teaches men how to treat us! It sends a message about the kind of life we want to live and the kind of relationship we expect (and desire) to have.
I’m curious, where in your life do you need to take more risks?
Do you need to get out there more and try some new activities?
Do you need to be a bit bolder when you find yourself face to face with an attractive man?
If the past week taught me anything it’s this:
We are not promised a tomorrow. Heck we aren’t even promised tonight!
So where and how can you show up bigger for yourself? Where can you be more brave? What can you finally fight for?
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I promise myself that the next time I am faced with___________________ I will ______________________.