You may think it is hard to find a partner when you are over 50, but this is only because you have not gotten in line with how to attract them. There are specifically different qualities that men are looking for as they age, and Jaki shares three things with you. Backing it up with statistical data and some smart insights and advice, she talks about how you can attract men 50 and up.
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Law Of Attraction: 3 Things That Attract Men 50 And Up!
I’m excited to connect with you because I want to talk to you about three things that attract men over 50. It’s over 50, over 60, over 70 and beyond because this is what men are looking for in a woman that is over 50. Here’s the thing. All men want to attract the same type of woman. What I’d read through this statistic, it all shows the same thing. All men want a fun, honest woman that they can have a good time with. That’s easy. You’re a fun, honest woman that they can have a good time with. You’ve already solved half the problem.
There are specifically different qualities that men are looking for as they age and I want to share those with you. One of the things that stood out when I looked at the statistics and what I hear from the men that I know and also from the women that I’m coaching. Men are looking for a relationship over 50, over 60 and over 70. They’re more relationship-minded. Ladies, I don’t want you to be afraid to be expressing that you’re interested in a committed relationship because that is exactly what men are looking for over 50, over 60 and beyond. They recognize that the important things in life are having a loving partner by their side and they want to experience life with someone. They’re recognizing that more and more as they age.
A Woman Who Values Intelligence
That’s such a benefit, a bonus to know and to understand, accept and empower yourself with this knowledge that men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for a long-term committed relationship that leads to marriage. What else are they going to do? Having a relationship as we age is the most rewarding experiences you can have. I’m sharing this with you because I know that to be true based on my own experiences with Michael and the ladies that are getting into relationships. Men are looking for relationships over 50. In fact, they are more interested in that than dating for fun. A loving partner is a priority to men over 50, 60 and 70. Another thing that men over 50 are looking for a woman in a relationship over 50, 60 and 70 is a woman who values intelligence. Men are looking for intelligent women. Emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence. Emotional intelligence is your ability to have great communication skill. Your ability to hold a conversation without getting triggered. Your ability to bring more wisdom to every situation because that is such a benefit to him. Benefiting from your wisdom, your intuition, your life knowledge and your life experience is what he’s looking for. Not that you’re younger, that you have all this life experience and you know how to apply it. That’s what emotional intelligence is. Having compassion, having empathy, having good listening skills.By being rigid in our thinking, we limit ourselves. Click To Tweet
Being present and being open-minded, that’s another thing that men are looking for over 50, 60 and 70 in a woman. What happens is over time and this is something I want to dig into a little bit more, being open-minded. As we age, we tend to get more closed-minded. We tend to get rigid in our thinking. In doing that, we limit ourselves. We limit not only what’s possible, but we limit ourselves from learning something new. You want to always keep an open mind. Sometimes when we feel we know-it-all or we know a topic that somebody is sharing with us, especially on dates, we shut that person down because we’re not open to hearing anything new. Life is all about learning, growing, evolving and expanding. Men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for a woman who is open to exploring the possibility, is open to looking at life in a different angle, who sees the value in learning and growth. That’s what men are looking for.
It goes across the board to say that men are looking for a woman who has a sense of humor. All men are looking for that when I looked at the statistics. Here’s the surprise that you may not think that is true, but men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for romance. They’re not done with the romance. In fact, they are more likely to be more romantic because they value the qualities that a woman can bring to a relationship. Bring that touch of feminine energy that makes life more rich and interesting and more colorful for a man. They’re definitely looking for more romance. As women, we love romance. That’s a wonderful thing to keep in mind. Men want to romance you. They want to have romantic experiences with you, especially as they get older. They’re looking for that quality so don’t shy away from those romantic experiences because men do want that.
A Woman They Can Be Active With
Here’s the last piece I’ll share with you and there are many things, but this one is key. Men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for someone who they can be active with. Whether that means riding bikes, taking walks, skiing, whatever it is for you, being active is an important thing to men over 50. When we’re active, we live a healthier life. We live longer. We sleep better. We feel better about ourselves. If you haven’t been active lately, this is a good time to break out your walking shoes if summer is coming. You can get out there. If it’s hot in your environment, you can go early in the morning. Getting you back into a yoga routine or a workout routine, anything that you can share on dates that show you’re active. Even if it’s taking long walks, that is something that is going to appeal to a man over 50, 60 and 70. He wants to remain active as long as he lives. My husband is like that. He’s like, “I’m going to work out until the day I die because I never want to not be able to get out of bed and do the things that I want to do.” I couldn’t agree more with him. We do that together. That’s one of the things that attracted me to Michael. Him, to me, is that we were both active.
Ladies, they’re not looking for younger women. They’re looking for women that are a relationship-minded. They’re looking for women that are active. They’re looking for women that are easy going. They’re looking for a woman who’s intelligent emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. Make sure you begin to cultivate those parts of you to make sure that you bring that forward when you’re out on your date. We’re all looking for a sense of humor. That’s what we need to do to do all the dating. You have to have a sense of humor about everything. Bring that sense of humor to your date because it’s going to connect well to men over 50. That’s what they’re looking for. I don’t know about you, but it’s good to share a good laugh with somebody, especially when you’re on a date. If you can come up with some jokes or don’t forget to be playful and witty and have that fun, playful banter, not taking things seriously, not taking things personally that’s for sure, and questioning things when you don’t understand something shows emotional intelligence.
It doesn’t show that you don’t understand something, it shows that you have knowledge and that you’re curious and you want to be clear about something that was shared to you. You’re not afraid to ask questions, especially when you don’t understand something or don’t know something. It’s attractive when you don’t know something and you’re not afraid to admit it. When you’re like, “I’m not familiar with that. Tell me all about it.” Instead of faking it and going, “I know about that,” when you don’t. Bring that vulnerability forward. It connects. I’d rather say, “I don’t know about that. I’ve never heard about it. I’d love to hear more about it,” than to pretend that I do. You don’t have to do that. Let that go. Ladies, I hope this was helpful. I’m going to answer a question before I conclude our talk here, “How do you know if he’s the right man you should commit to if most things are good, but then you question other things that aren’t matching up to your core wants and needs?” We need to know what those other things are.
I recommend that you look at what your core wants and needs are more closely. Sometimes the things that we want and need, we haven’t examined them in a while. Our needs and wants change over time. I would look at more about what your needs are. What are the needs? The wants? A lot of those things you can fulfill on yourself. Maybe you want to travel to different places and maybe he doesn’t. Maybe you can go, “Are you okay with me going on trips with my girlfriends?” If he’s okay with that, you guys can work that out. Maybe that’s a deal breaker for you. Maybe you want to travel with your partner, so that would be a need. Getting clear about making the distinction between wants and needs is going to help you to take the confusion out of whether or not this man has a real place in your life.
You said your core wants. I’m imagining that the core would be maybe financial, would be a core or maybe children’s ages could be a core thing. You don’t want to take on a relationship where somebody has younger children. They have to get clear on what those core needs are. I certainly would come to the table with a lot of questions and see if you can negotiate. If he has a lot of good things that are matching up, it’s worthy of conversations to see if you can negotiate some compromises. Relationships are compromises and I say that with the highest respect in a good way. I compromise my time. I compromise where we eat, what we’re going to watch on TV or where we’re going to go on vacation. My core needs are to be with Michael, to be with a man who loves and adores me, who supports me, who accepts me and treats me well. Those are the things that are the most important to me. The other things are like where we’re going to go, what we’re going to eat, and all those little things. I can let all those go and go with the flow because I’m easy-going and those things aren’t that important compared to the core needs. It’s getting clear on is it a need or a want? How important is it to you? Can you negotiate that? If the man has the qualities and the principles you resonate with, I say it’s worth negotiating.Sometimes when we feel we know it all, we shut the other person we are talking to down. Click To Tweet
I hope this was helpful. If you want more clarity on what I’m sharing, I’m here for you in these Facebook Lives and I do the YouTubes. I’m always here providing you with these tips. If you need to learn how to apply them and take action on them because intellectual knowledge is what I’m supplying here, but it’s useless if you can’t take action on it. I’m winding down my enrollment into my Engaged at Any Age Program. If you’re interested and you’ve been toying with the idea and you regret not taking advantage of it, I’m going to give you this one last opportunity to jump in with us and join the group. I want you to private message me on Facebook where we can talk in a private message and see if that’s a fit for you. Go ahead and private message me. We’ll have a little dialogue privately. I’ll tell you if it’s a fit for you and share with you the details and the commitment. I have a special bonus for you if you sign up. It’s a fast action bonus, but I’ll tell you that in a private message.
I hope you join me. I’m excited about this group. It’s amazing women. One of the ladies that are in the group has such exciting news. In a couple of weeks of being in the group, after talking to me and laying out a plan and looking at her beliefs because she didn’t feel she can meet a man in her town. We opened up that possibility of meeting a man outside of her town where she wanted to live and made some tweaks to her profile and made some other changes. Within a couple of weeks, she connected with a man in another state. He flew her to the state. She put her up in a hotel. She met his friends and they’re planning a life together. She’s flying back home and we’re going to be working with her so she can continue to move forward in the relationship in a healthy way with clear boundaries. Making sure that everything’s on track for that commitment and taking her time to get to know him. This is exciting because love happens fast. She was worried that she wasn’t going to meet anybody, now she’s making plans for her future. That’s exciting. That’s how fast things can happen, especially when you’re working with me. I hope that answered your question. Thank you for being here. I love you all so much. I’m sending you lots of love.