Dating as an older woman can sometimes be perceived as more difficult than it is for younger women. Some even say finding love becomes more and more impossible the closer you get to your 60s+.
But, I have to say that this is a MISCONCEPTION! Sure, there might be a smaller pool of men to choose from in your age bracket, and while the dating game has surely changed since you last engaged in it (10+ years ago), the expectations in dating have not changed.
No matter how old you are, or what stage of life you are in, we all long for a healthy relationship with someone we are physically and emotionally attracted to.
Here are 3 things to consider when dating over 50 if you want to find true love…
- Your perspective. Don’t ask IF, but ask yourself HOW your perspective has changed over the years. How have your losses, loves, past relationships and experiences helped shape who you are and/or have changed your expectations for the future? I talk to women all the time that define love and chemistry to what they felt on dates years ago. While the spark, chemistry and longing for a “soulmate” are all realistic expectations, just make sure to change your perspective.
- Your frame of mind. Make sure to change your frame of mind to accommodate a new chapter in your life. Don’t be too set in your ways. Be open to someone else. Be emotionally available and you’ll attract someone who is ready to be emotionally available for you. Emotional connection and intimacy is something that creates chemistry in relationships as we age. The ability to be more vulnerable and authentic creates chemistry between men and women over 50.
- Your focus. Make sure you focus on the right things you want in a relationship. Focus on and identify realistic expectations. We all know that finding a tall, dark and handsome man with a lot of money, or say a woman with flawless skin and no wrinkles is dreamy, make sure to focus on finding someone who knows who they are and has a perspective similar to yours. Make sure they are genuine.
Obviously, there is no “right” answer here. What each of us wants in a partner is entirely personal. I’m simply suggesting that each of us take a second look and check whether the priorities of our past are compatible with our present emotional needs.
Make sure you’re operating from who you are NOW, and who you want to become!