Do you have a bucket list? The term bucket list came from the idea that we should all have a list of things we want to do before we “kick the bucket!”
Usually these lists consist of major things- climb a mountain, write a book, go on a safari, walk on fire!
All great ideas, but today I challenge you to write a second bucket list. A love one!
Why?
Because the kind of relationship you experienced in the past may have programmed you to expect and tolerate certain things. It may have programmed you to behave in certain ways. And if the relationship didn’t work out, then we know that a little re-programming is in order.
I had a friend who was dating someone new and every time she’d try to kiss him in public he would pull away. She finally asked him why and his reply? “I’m just not used to that.” He had been through a terribly unhappy marriage and a bitter divorce and I loved her response-
“Do you want what you’re used to or something better? What you’re used to caused you pain and cost you thousands of dollars!”
Don’t settle for what you’re used to. Make a bucket list for love of things you WILL have in your next relationship.
YOUR LOVE BUCKET LIST
- Celebrate my body by confidently walking around naked
- Stay open after a fight instead of shutting down or immediately retaliating.
- Never go to bed angry
- Schedule time for date nights once a week just like I schedule, and KEEP, my massage appointments!
- Wake up every day and say “I love You” in the mirror
The list could go on forever. Someone once told me that a relationship was only as strong as it’s agreements. This list is your agreement. Whatever you did before, whatever you were given before, make a list of OPPOSITE desires. And watch what happens
Lots of love to you,
Jaki
PS – LAST CALL! — Bridge to Love! starts on TOMORROW 11/21 – you still have time to join me! Click here to join!
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