This might not be your favorite thing to read, but my mission is to help you find the love of your life. And sometime that mission requires me to be a little…lovingly honest.
If you’ve been alone for quite some time and have found yourself struggling to either find or keep a good man in your life, it’s time to ask yourself, what would Oprah do?
Oprah inspires me because she has committed to honoring a sacred pact with herself. She is on a life-long journey towards alignment and we can all take a page out of her book!
The physical manifestation of her commitment to consistently expanding her consciousness was the creation of Super Soul Sunday. Super Soul was born out of a longing to ALWAYS be growing. My guess is that if Oprah were sitting in your kitchen right now, she’d be encouraging you to look in the mirror!
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but if you don’t work on your own soul FIRST, attracting a soulmate will always feel like an uphill battle. You will attract people who mirror YOUR soul. So if your soul needs a clean up, so will theirs. If your soul is still wounded, you will attract wounded souls. NOT FUN!
What are some signs that your soul needs a little tune up before you can start attracting the right man?
- You still say mean things about your ex or are still MAJORLY triggered by him.- If you are still spitting out words of contempt about your ex, you are harboring unhealthy anger. And two things will happen-you will either attract a man who is also angry, or you will attract a great man who isn’t going to put up with you dwelling on your ex! You’ve got to work on forgiving and releasing.
- You haven’t learned to set boundaries– How do you know if you have this problem? You over-give and then resent the person you are over giving to. You put everyone else’s comfort first, which means you may give too much too soon just to keep a man happy, or put up with more than you should just “to keep the peace.” When you do this you fail to earn a man’s respect. You will attract men who are controlling and take advantage of your weak boundaries. You need to identify your non-negotiable values and stick to them. You need to learn to put yourself first!
- You ignore your own intuition– I see this all the time. Bright women, broken by men who then say, “I KNEW something was off!” Of course you did! You are a woman and your intuition is naturally strong! So why do you ignore it? Is it loneliness? Disillusionment? Whatever it is, you SAW the red flags. You FELT the red flags, and you willingly leaned in anyway, putting yourself and your heart at risk. NO more. You’ve got to learn what your intuition sounds and feels like. And then BELIEVE IT!
The bottom line? You’ve got build yourself a Super Soul before you can attract a super love!