There’s more to dating than having fun. Think for a minute…
Why exactly do you date? Are you looking for a long-term relationship? Marriage? A life with your soulmate?
It’s fair to say that most people date in hopes of a long-term relationship that leads to a white dress and walking down the aisle. In fact, 2.3 million couples wed every year in the U.S. alone, which is nearly 6,200 weddings a day!
According to Brides.com most married couples have a very long relationship before walking down the aisle. 4.9 years on average to be exact!
So how do you determine if a relationship is going to last in the long run?
Here are 4 questions to ask to help determine if a relationship will last long-term…
- What have you been doing for the last decade? This is like casting a wide net, so ask it easily and lightly. Find out his relationship history, travel history, work habits, family history, personal history and more by asking this open-ended question and letting him open up to you. This will open up dialogue about other topics you need to know about as well. The key is listening though!
- Do you live an active lifestyle or what do you enjoy doing for fun? Make sure you match up equally as far as activity and lifestyle goes. Do you enjoy the same things? Find the same things fun? If you are an active person who enjoys being outdoors or working out, make sure he understands, supports and will engage in activities with you (if that’s what you’re looking for).
- Do you like to travel? Hate it? Travel often or never? Being in a relationship with a “homebody” or in a relationship with someone who likes to travel a lot, or maybe travels a lot for work can lead to drastically different relationships. Get a clear understanding about how he feels about traveling, where he likes to go, how often and why so there are no surprises down the road.
- What is your greatest motivation in life? This question is similar to finding out his “love language,” except this will help you understand just exactly what drives him. Is it wealth? Knowledge? Creativity? Spirituality? Make sure you understand his driving force and can support him.
These questions should evolve as the relationship does. You don’t need to ask them on the first date, the third date or in a specific order. Let the conversations and discussions as you date lead in to these naturally.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen couples waste time dating because they are not on the same path!
These questions will give you the insight you need to see if you and your man are on the same path and have the same goals.
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