Is it possible to be confident and insecure at the same time?
Yep!!! You can be confident but have totally low self-esteem.
At first, it may seem counterintuitive, but it’s true.
Confidence is situational, which makes it conditional. You can feel confident in plenty of SITUATIONS in your life, but lack confidence in others. Often, it’s external CONDITIONS that cause confidence…
You can feel confident in an outfit that accentuates your best features, while feeling totally insecure in a bathing suit!
You can feel confident writing a report on your area of expertise, but completely insecure presenting that same material to a group of your peers.
This is because confidence is not directly tied to self-esteem or self-acceptance.
Yet we often hear that men are looking for confident women…
But is that really what they mean?
In actuality, men don’t necessarily want a confident woman, they want someone who fully accepts herself… who holds herself in high esteem, regardless of conditions.
No matter what Renee Zellweger says in Jerry McGwyer, no one can “complete” anyone else.
And if you’re still looking for that, I’ve got news for you….
It’s time to look inward. It’s time to recognize that you are complete and loveable AS YOU ARE.
Now let that sink in.
You are complete and loveable AS YOU ARE.
But until you believe that… until you fully and unconditionally love and accept yourself,
you’ll still be searching for validation from a man.
Newsflash – He doesn’t want to have to validate or complete you (that’s a tall order!).
And he doesn’t want you to complete him!
He merely wants to compliment the amazing woman that you know yourself to be!
And he wants YOU to compliment the amazing person that he knows himself to be!
So, if you’re still struggling with self-acceptance…
If you’re looking for someone who “knows you better than you know yourself’…
Or if you find yourself feeling “less than,” unworthy, or simply not good enough, I have good news for you!
If you wonder where to start and what you need to do to create your dream relationship, I am going to give you the roadmap to follow.
You’ll discover:
✓ What matters the most in a dream relationship
✓ How to know your worth and value
✓ How to practice detached involvement
Click HERE today to watch my interview on the Meet & Marry Mr. Right Summit hosted by my friend and founder of Find Love and Keep It, Polina Solda.
XO
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