Today, I wanted to offer you a two-part “love hack”!
Sometimes, we get so stuck in our heads when we’re worried about making the right impression in a new relationship. It can make us feel stiff and uncertain. And that can make us come across as cold.
Since that’s exactly what you DON’T want, I’d like you to go into your next date remembering that you are a high-value woman. You are confident. You are passionate about things you enjoy. And you are worthy of being with someone who appreciates all that!
You truly have to believe in your value so it shines through. THIS is what a man needs to see to commit. You need to show him that you have something to offer that other women don’t. Talk about what is really important to you, and let him into your world. You want to be with someone who respects your interests, so don’t worry about being judged.
The second part of this is being vulnerable. Vulnerability is NOT weakness. It’s about having the strength and courage to be open and honest, with no guarantee of a result. That is FAR from weak!
Vulnerability helps you connect on a deep level. Open up, and show him your true self. Men innately want to help and, honestly, take care of a woman, even if it’s just a few little things—we’re not talking about a 1950s housewife, by the way. Let him see that you’re a real person, not just your Facebook profile (come on, we all know those are everyone’s highlight reels).
When you show him that you have frustration or uncertainty—just like everyone else—it opens up that beautiful space of love so you can have deep conversations. Be real. Let him be there for you.
Sometimes a man will offer to help you with something because it makes them feel like they are taking care of you, so be open to receiving. If he offers to do something for you, take him up on it. Be appreciative! If he’s trying to do something that will make your life easier, even if it’s picking up Mexican to go for dinner, that’s a step in the right direction!
Love you!
Jaki
