Limiting beliefs are anything that limits you from doing what you want out of your life. They limit you from living your best life. You can change the things that you’re aware of; it’s the unconscious limiting beliefs, the things you’re not aware of, that are almost always causing the problems. Jaki shares how you can become more aware of the limiting beliefs that are sabotaging you so that you can free yourself from them and can create something different. It’s so powerful when you understand how your belief system works and what you can do to make some small tweaks to it so you can have the life that you want.
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Stop Limiting Beliefs That Sabotage You In Love!
I wanted to talk about how to stop limiting beliefs that sabotage you and your love life. I’m excited talking about beliefs, especially limiting beliefs because it’s so powerful when you understand how your belief systems work and what you can do to make some small tweaks to your beliefs so you can have the life that you want. What are limiting beliefs? They are anything that limits you from doing what you want out of your life. They limit you from living your best life. It’s more common that it’s the unconscious limiting beliefs that caused problems. The things you’re aware of, you can change. It’s the things that you are not aware of. Becoming more aware of your unconscious limiting negative beliefs that are sabotaging you, so that you can free yourself from them and you can create something different. Your beliefs create your experiences, not the other way around. Whatever you’re experiencing right now in your life, and don’t take this the wrong way, it’s because of a belief system that’s running that maybe you’re aware of or not aware of. It’s causing you to have the experience that you maybe not so happy with.
You want to take a look at your life and note that the thoughts that you had yesterday and even now are the experiences that you are seeing right now that are showing up in your life. Because our thoughts are like seeds. When we think something over and over again, it’s like we’re creating an event that we want to happen. Just like if you want to manifest your man, what I always recommend that you do is you start to think thoughts that are congruent with what you want to create. You’re thinking about what you want. You’re visualizing your wedding, you’re visualizing your man, what you’ll do together, what you’ll cook together, where you’ll travel together. You’re just spending a lot of time visualizing that and that’s great. Essentially you’re planting seeds in your mind or thought that will someday come to fruition. They’re going to sprout up later down the road. That’s why I always say, “Watch your thoughts and guard them carefully because you’re creating your future with your present thinking.” What happens is a lot of times we start to think about what we don’t want and those are the most prevalent thoughts. Psychologists have now proven that we think 40,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day by the time we reached 50 and 80% to 90% of those thoughts are negative.
You can see how you take two steps forward and then maybe one step back and maybe even a giant step back. As much as you are thinking of your positive affirmations, thinking about your ideal man list, visualizing what you want. If unconsciously and subconsciously there is a belief system that’s running and says, “I never get what I want,” or “There are no good men out there,” or all these other beliefs that I’m going to go over each one that I hear a lot from women. Those 40,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day, it’s very hard to stop creating those thoughts. You can say 1,000 affirmation now, but that’s not going to overcome the 40,000 to 50,000 negative thoughts that your mind is unconsciously thinking. Learning a process to become more aware of what your mind is sub-vocalizing. When I say sub-vocalizing, I mean what your mind is thinking when you’re not conscious. When you go unconscious, your mind is running a storyline about what he said and about what she said or past painful experience and that’s common.
It’s easy to get stuck in our stories about the past. When you’re driving, have you ever driven somewhere and you get there and you’re like, “How did I get here? I don’t even remember driving.” Who was driving the car? That’s part of your brain that’s driving the car down and it allows you to drift into some thinking and more than likely you’re drifting into something that happened. You’re regurgitating something that happened. You’re going over it in your mind thinking about it and without realizing it, you may be unconsciously recreating what you’re thinking about. That’s why we want to get clear on what your mind is doing and to be able to hear when your mindset is vocalizing those negative thinking. You need to become aware.
How you can do that quickly? It’s off the topic, but I want to give you a little tool. You can tell what you’re thinking about, especially if it’s negative by how you feel in your body. If you’re driving along and you notice all of a sudden, you’re clenching your stomach and your shoulders are getting tense, more than likely, just quickly say, “What was I thinking about?” You probably were thinking about something that is not pleasant to you. The indicator will show up in your body because your body is going to communicate to you when you’re not feeling good. When you’re thinking something that’s not good for you or not positive, then it’s going to show up in your body as a message or warning sign that you’re out of balance. Pay attention to how your body feels because that’s how your intuition communicates with you, through the language of feelings. Sending you messages to try to get your attention. Queasy tummy, that tight chest, or maybe a sore throat, those are all messages from your intuition saying, “Something is trying to access you,” so that you can become conscious in that moment. Then start to address in more consciously what it is you were thinking about. I’ll do another talk on that more, the language of feelings and of your intuitive heart.
I Don’t Think It Can Happen
Right now, I want to stick to the topic which is beliefs. Let’s talk about the beliefs that are the most common that I hear a lot of the ladies saying. The number one belief is, “I don’t think it can happen.” It’s easy to believe that especially when you don’t have any evidence. You haven’t had success in dating or you haven’t had a relationship in a long time or maybe you’ve never been married. It will be a very easy belief for you to buy into. It’s easy to believe, but it’s also lazy. I want to direct your attention to when I say lazy, it’s because there are things you can do to bolster your belief and to even address that belief. If you don’t take action, then it’s being lazy, just an excuse. It’s an excuse that your mind creates to keep you from feeling the pain that you’re still alone. Your mind does a good job at protecting you and it puts a wall up to protect you like, “Don’t believe it’s going to happen,” so you can stop trying. That’s great. It protects you, but it also keeps out the information you need to move forward. If you don’t believe it can happen for you, then that’s the time for you to look at who you’re surrounding yourself by, who you’re talking to.
It might be a good time for you to look at your inner circle and replace those people. Sometimes when we listen to people and they give us advice and it’s well-meaning, but maybe it’s based on their experience. Maybe you have a single girlfriend that you hang out with and she isn’t having any luck, so you start to believe what she’s saying. Together, you buy into each other’s story and it doesn’t support you to move out of that discouraging place you’re in. Looking at the people that you’re spending time with who are supporting these negative beliefs and finding some new friends and new people to surround yourself with that are going to influence you in a better way to make sure that your goals and ideals are in alignment. That will help you with that belief that don’t believe it can happen for you.
Here’s the thing, whatever you believe, you’re right. If you don’t believe it can happen for you, then you’re right. If you do believe it can happen for you, then you’re right also. I would always choose the better feeling belief. The better feeling belief is clear, that I believe that it can happen for me. That felt so much better then I don’t think it can happen for me. Take some more steps to make sure that you’re doing the things that you need to be doing to make it happen for you. The other belief is there are no good ones left. There are no good men out there or all men are bad. This is another excuse that the mind uses to rationalize. It’s a rational lie that our mind uses to keep us safe and stuck. We always want to ask questions. We have to ask more questions of ourselves. “Where does that belief come from?” The belief that there are no good ones out there or all men are bad, I would look at that belief and what I hear in that is pain. I hear that there is some pain that you haven’t resolved.Stay detached from an outcome, stay present, and go with the flow. Click To Tweet
If you’re resonating with this belief or you’ve bought into the belief that there are no good ones out there or that all men are bad, I would look at what painful experience have you been through that you haven’t healed from? When I hear that, that’s a protection mechanism. Your mind is protecting you from experiencing any more pain, but it tells me that you have some unresolved pain that you need to heal and release. As long as you have that belief, there are no good men out there or all men are bad, you’re going to be attracting likes. The Law of Attraction, like attracts like. With that belief, you’re going to be getting men that maybe are disrespectful, that don’t treat you right. It confirms your belief because the Law of Attraction is law. It’s the universal law of life, so you’re right. Getting underneath your belief and following them to their source. Following your beliefs to their source and trying to figure out where you picked up that belief, to begin with. Looking at these painful experiences you’ve been through and healing those at the core level will free you from that disempowering belief that there are no good men and there are no good men left and all men are bad. I’m definitely wanting to heal that part of you.
I’ll End Up Alone
This next belief is, “I believe I’ll end up alone.” This is a big belief that a lot of women share. A lot of women are concerned about spending the rest of their life alone and ending up alone. I feel for those of you who are stuck in this limiting belief because it feels real when you’ve been alone for a long time. One positive aspect about this belief is that it is such a big motivator to move you forward. If you have this belief that I’m going to end up alone, then you can use that fear as a catalyst for change because that’s a pretty powerful belief and you don’t want to end up alone. Let that push you as a catalyst to be able to make some changes in your action so that you don’t end up alone. Here’s the thing, it’s safe to say that we all need to be prepared to be alone. That’s probably not what you wanted to hear. What I mean by that is we have to make peace with ourselves and our lives. I know we talk about this a lot about loving yourself, loving your life, loving the single life until you meet your man. There’s a lot of validity in that.
There’s a lot of power in that because you have to make peace that you might be alone. When you make peace with being alone, you actually meet someone. The sooner you make peace with that, the more likely you are to meet with someone. When you’re focused on, “I’m alone,” you’re focusing on what you don’t want. When you believe that, “I believe I’ll end up alone,” it’s a powerful belief and it’s going to create a magnet. It’s going to draw experiences that confirm that you are going to be alone. What would match that experiences are that relationships don’t work out for you. You’re not making a deeper connection with a man, nothing lasts. Those are the consequences of having that belief. There are consequences for not evaluating what your unconscious negative beliefs are. As long as you don’t evaluate them, get underneath where they came from, and stop creating those beliefs, they’ll continue to wreak havoc in your life and perpetuate the same thing that you’ve been experiencing. I know that you want to step off that dating treadmill.
It starts with the belief. The belief creates your action steps. When you look at a belief, the stronger your belief is that you’re going to meet a man, the bigger your action steps and the bigger the result. If you have a very little or weak belief or no belief at all that you’ll meet a man, your action steps are going to be very small and you’ll have no results. It does all start with beliefs. Spending time surfacing, getting clear on what unconscious beliefs you’re resonating and start to chip away at those and start to dismantle those beliefs is going to serve you so powerfully and much faster than anything else you can do. This is very deep work and I recommend it because the dating process is so exciting because it gives you the opportunity to see these beliefs for what they are limiting. For example, you go out on a date and you’ll have an experience. Through that experience, it gives you the opportunity to see a part of yourself that you can’t see on your own.
I’m Not Good Enough
Relationships provide mirrors. Somebody shows up, causes an interaction and then you want to look at your behavior. Your behavior can tell you about your beliefs. Your behavior stems from your beliefs. If some of your behavior isn’t what you would like it to be, you want to look and see what belief is causing that. Sometimes we’ll have a belief that I’m not good enough and we might go out on a date and then conduct ourselves. Some of our behavior will sabotage ourselves on the date like maybe getting there late or saying things that you mean or agreeing to do things that you really want to do. Those all might be feeding into that belief that, “I’m not worthy. I’m not good enough,” because you’re probably thinking this guy is not going to call me back anyway or you don’t feel a connection. Sometimes when we like a man, it can happen. You meet a guy and you’re like, “He’s great,” and you start to sabotage yourself because you’re thinking, “He’s too good for me. I’m not good enough. He’s not going to like me when he gets to know who I am,” because you don’t have a positive view of yourself.
Whether you like somebody or don’t connect with them, that belief of, “I’m not good enough” can be a very powerful belief that can sabotage you to keep you safe. It wants to keep you from experiencing any more pain. That’s what your mind is designed to do, to keep you safe at all costs. Another false belief is I’ve heard some clients of mine say they had a false belief about what love is. They were disillusioned. They thought love was one thing, but it turns out to be that it’s something else. That’s an interesting conversation. I’ll give a little stab at it. I would say that we do start off when we’re younger having more of magical thinking about relationships and it comes from our culture. Look at all of the Disney movies that lead us to believe that our prince charming is going to come up riding on a white horse. I certainly bought into that myself and hope that that would happen. I was very disappointed to see that it doesn’t happen that way. That’s too much pressure for men and they’re not going to ride up on their horse and save us.
In fact, men don’t want to save us. They want to meet us as an equal and a partner in life. When we mature, we start to recognize that it’s a healthier approach to look at relationships as that we’re not two holes that become one. We’re in fact two holes that need to stay side by side, like two circles, the infinity symbol, not overlapping each other, supporting each other, but not becoming the shade under somebody else’s tree or not being the shade for your partner. I have a saying that I say to Michael. We say, “I’ll take care of me for you if you take care of you for me.” It works really well. I’m not responsible for meeting his emotional needs. He’s not responsible for meeting my emotional needs. I’m responsible for meeting all of my emotional needs. When I respond to myself with ability, so that’s that word responsibility. When I respond to me with ability, then I can address whatever is coming up in me. Then when I am with him, I’m coming from a place of wholeness, a place of calm, a place of security because the truth is security doesn’t lie in external sources. We’re learning that as we mature more and more, we become wiser women, that security is an internal thing. The way I feel secure and safe and sane in my life is for me meeting my emotional needs as they surface.
As soon as the need surfaces, I’m there to meet it. I’m not abandoning myself in that process. Sometimes we expect our partner to be able to read our mind and know that we have a need, but if we don’t express and share that with them and invite them to help us to examine what could be going on, then we can’t expect them to be able to meet that need. A lot of women get disillusioned because I hear it, “He doesn’t understand me. He doesn’t listen to me.” A part of that could be you. You could be the problem because you’re not aware that these are your needs. You need to learn to meet them on your own or at least bring them to your partner in a way that out of curiosity help me to understand when this happened and things like that. As we mature going back to the false belief about what love is, we bring to the table an ability to become more whole in the relationship. Now, the relationship isn’t necessarily to make you happy. It’s to help you grow. That’s what relationships are designed for and it’s very exciting to me.Make sure that your vision is congruent with what you want. Click To Tweet
Here’s the wonderful thing. When you grow, you become happy. You’re there in the relationship for your personal growth and that personal growth makes you very happy. You don’t come into a relationship so the other person can make you happy. You come into it accepting, knowing, believing, and understanding that you are the cause for your happiness, not somebody else. When you take responsibility for your own happiness, you take a lot of pressure off the men that you’re dating and the relationship that you’re in. Your partner can thrive in that relationship. You can thrive in that relationship. You’re supporting each other, but you’re not shading each other and becoming codependent. Having these unrealistic expectations on each other for your unconditional acceptance, your unconditional love, your boundary protection, and your nurturing. Those are things that you want to be doing for yourself and you’re going to be feeling a lot better when you do that.
I’m Too Old
The next thing I wanted to talk about is the two old belief. You hear this a lot with women of all ages. Women that maybe don’t get married in their 40s might have this belief, “I’m too old,” and women all the way up into their 80s. I love talking about this and that’s why I have my program Engaged in Any Age because I know that we all want love in our life. It’s a fundamental thing about being a human and we are loved. That’s our nature. We always are going to want love in our lives and men feel the same way. Why I know this to be true in terms of that you can find love at any age and every stage in life is because my grandmother lived to be 99 years old. That woman had a line of men out the door and I loved her for that. She was married to my grandfather for 30 years and she had another relationship. Her second husband died. He had a heart attack after they were married for a month. Then she married again for another 30 years. Then she had boyfriends. I asked her, “What’s your secret with all these men?” She said, “I never think of the past and I live in the moment.” Those were pretty profound words for my grandmother who lived to be 99.
She learned a thing or two in her life. I can see why the men found her interesting and intoxicating is because she had the most positive outlook on life. Even though she had lost everyone in her family and all the men that she was dating, she was outliving them. She remained with that upbeat attitude until the day that she left the planet. Her physical body left the planet a couple of years ago and I admired her so much. I know it can happen no matter how old you are because I watched my grandmother do it. I’m a firm believer in that. Take it from her. It can happen to you at every age. You have to take the steps in order to make your dreams come true. What happens when you get older, we all start taking less risks. We get afraid. We’ve been hurt and we start to duck down. We start to keep our head down. We don’t want to get hurt, but there’s no evolution in that. We have so much access to amazing dating sites and activities. There are tons of single people dating activities that you can find in your community. More and more we’re seeing this is totally mainstream to meet people online. That’s how I met my husband is through Match. It’s becoming the norm to meet somebody online more and more. I know that, “I’m too old,” just flies right out the window. Don’t even buy into that.
Dating Is Scary
The other belief that can keep you stuck is, “Dating is scary,” and that’s true. Dating can be scary but here’s the thing, if you buy into that belief, then it’s going to keep you stuck. When I hear that, it’s because you haven’t become a skilled dater. Dating can be a wonderful opportunity and it certainly is a place where you can do a lot of self-discovery. That’s exactly what I recommend using it for. You have these wonderful thousands of men that are willing to take you out. Maybe not thousands to take you out, but there are thousands of men online that are taking women out. You look at this not as duty dating, because I don’t believe in duty dating. I do believe in deliberate dating. Deliberate dating is when you take deliberate steps to set your intention to go on a series of first, second, and third dates for the sole purpose to become a better dater, to become a better listener, to become more present in your actions with men, to not take things personally, to detach from outcomes.
These are all pieces that you can cultivate when you’re in this dating cycle. Until you master the ability to become socially skilled, that’s what dating is. It’s having a high skill set. You become socially skilled by dating. It’s like getting a degree in dating or in social skills. I highly recommend dating. Maybe you started out with dating as your intention is to not meet the one. Your intention at first is to get better at dating, to become a better conversationalist, to become more present, to stop taking things personally and look at your approval issue. Approval issues get triggered so easily in the dating process because we have this massive fear of rejection. If you think about that, fear of rejection is fear of somebody not approving of you. If somebody rejects you, what they’re saying is not, “No.” It’s just, “Not right now,” or maybe “No” is reverse on, “Keep moving on until you find somebody.” When I hear a no from a man that I was dating, I’d be like, “Thank you for saving me a lot of time and thank you for being honest with me.” I don’t have to wonder if it’s not a fit, if it’s not a match, then I move on.
If you’re taking things so personal, like you’re so devastated, that tells me that you attached to an outcome. One of the things that can happen is that you started doodling your name and his on paper. You start fantasizing about a relationship with someone that you don’t know enough about to start that process. If you stay detached from an outcome and you just stay present and go with the flow. Allow things to unfold and not make any attachments to what’s going on until that man has proved to you through his actions that his actions match his words, then you can start to form those attachments. Until that happens, you see a consistent amount of actions that matched the words, then I wouldn’t make any attachment. I wouldn’t make any assumption. I would assume that more has to be disclosed, more has to be discovered. You’re still in the discovery stage, so stay out of attaching to outcomes.
Also, back to the approval, approval issues are big. That fear of rejection is huge because, at the core, we want people to approve of us. We want people to like us. Even if we don’t like the guy and we’re like, I’m not into him, but he rejects you, it really triggers you. Even if you don’t like him, you at least want him to like you. The approval issue is a big one that starts when we’re children. The truth is that we want our parents to approve of us. In fact, we need them to survive. It’s a survival mechanism and it’s very dysfunctional. Until we examine and look at these approval issues and do more work around to release this unconscious dysfunctional need for craving approval from external sources, we’re always going to feel that little twinge of rejection.
If you look to yourself as the only person that needs to approve of your choices and things you do, you will find a lot more peace in dating and your relationships in life. You will suffer less disappointments when you’re not holding that other person as an object of your happiness. When you look for someone to approve of you, you’re objectifying them, turning them into an object, because you’re not seeing them as a person anymore. You’re seeing them as a source that will feed this need you have to be approved of, and as soon as they approve of you, then you feel better and then you’re back in balance. You constantly need that person, not for who they are, but to gain some need that you have, to fulfill some need they can only truly be fulfilled internally from you. That’s why we want to look at this big fear of rejection.Do the workaround. Examine your belief systems. Question your thinking. Click To Tweet
To wrap it all up of what I’ve shared, let’s go back to our belief systems. I went over to several limiting beliefs that are common with women. Maybe you resonated with a few of them. I wanted to talk a little bit about your belief systems and I want to give you a tool that you can use right away. It’s going to help you to start to create a belief that will cause you to have the experience of having your soul mate. This is what I call the fourth level belief. A fourth level belief is a belief that you create with your conscious mind so that you can have the experience that that belief will bring. That’s why it’s exciting. You can say whatever you want in your life and then start to work towards having that.
I Now Have A Man Who Loves Me And Adores Me
I’m going to give you the belief now. The belief and the intention that you set is going to be something that as if it’s already happened. You’re going to a set of belief as if it’s already happened so that you can have the experience of that belief. The belief that I’m going to give you is, “I now have a man who loves and adores me.” You start saying that belief over and over again, “I now have a man who loves and adores me.” If you want to add something to it like, “We live happily in the seaside community in San Diego with our two beautiful dogs in our beautiful home.” You’re talking into that belief as if it’s already happened. You can start to program your mind because beliefs are just programs or programs that had been running and a lot of them are outdated. By adding in this support of belief with your conscious mind, you’re creating a belief system about something that you want to experience. Once you plant that seed or create that affirmation, I would write it down and post it where you can see it. Post it on a little yellow sticky and put it on your computer or on your mirror in the bathroom.
You can write it in lipstick on your mirror in the bathroom and put it where you can see it so you’re constantly checking in with, “I now have a man who loves and adores me.” That feels good to say that. Then you start taking action steps that push you forward to having that experience that you want to create. I did this when I was attracting Michael and I do this whenever I’m wanting to experience something new. How you can add to that is to start to create experiences that support having your man in your life. If you now have a man who loves and adores you, you might be looking at your engagement ring or your wedding ring going, “That’s so beautiful. I love that.” I would recommend going engagement ring shopping. Go to a jewelry store and try on rings. I want you to feel what it feels like to have that ring on because when you can feel what that feels like, it’s so much easier to visualize it. It starts to bolster your belief. Your mind can’t tell the difference between the real and the imagined.
That’s why having all these little experiences that will continue to cultivate this belief system are going to be helpful. The feeling of having a ring on, trying it on, looking at it or even buying yourself a beautiful ring and starting to wear it around the house or wear it on your dates, wear it on your other hand. You can start to feel what that would feel like to have that ring and be married to your man. Trying on wedding dresses is another thing. Going to places that you want to share with your beloved. Little things like these help you to create that vision so you can tap into the power of your visualization. It’s like sucking on a lemon. If you would think about sucking on a lemon, your mouth starts to salivate a little. Your mind can’t tell the difference between the real and the imagined. That’s why fantasies or visualizations do help.
Just make sure that your vision is congruent with what you want. Take me up on this challenge to go and try on some engagement rings and wedding dresses. Sign up for the Knot. That is a service online. It’s called the Knot.com where you can sign up and register as a bride. They are getting emails about organizing weddings and all of these things. Start to read about it and make yourself more knowledgeable. That’s going to continue to support the experience that you want to have which is your man, “I now have a man who loves and adores me.” The other part of this talk that I wanted to leave you with is that a lot of the beliefs that are resonating more strongly, we pick up as children. Especially the beliefs like, “I’m not good enough. I’m not smart enough. I have to be perfect. I have to control to feel safe. I have to distance myself. I don’t have a voice.” These are all unconscious beliefs that we pick up as a child when we don’t have the physical strength or the critical thinking skills to understand what’s happening to us.
I was raised in a large family. My mother was a single parent and so we were challenged economically. My mother had a lot of fearful thinking. She passed that onto me. I grew up with a lot of beliefs around I’m not good enough. I didn’t feel good enough. I had to share with my sister’s clothes. I had this belief resonating when I grew up that I never examined. I didn’t have the tool to examine. I didn’t even know it was resonating. I was living out the consequences of having that belief. It’s only after I got divorced that I started to take a look at what was causing the divorce, what caused the dysfunction. I started to recognize the pattern of my thinking and where it came from. I encourage all of you to do the workaround examining these belief systems. Question your thinking. A lot of this is just incorrect thinking. There is nothing wrong with any of you. You’re all amazing women.
You’re going to find love but you have some incorrect thinking. It’s your job on this journey to start to question your thinking. If you get in there and you start to notice this belief, it’s absolutely not true. You are good enough. You are worthy. You’re deserving as anybody else. It’s your birthright to have love because you are loved. Starting to look at where does that belief come from and follow it to its source. You’re going to follow it all the way back to a time when you were probably a small child and you didn’t have something. Maybe somebody wasn’t there for you and it hurt you and you’re still carrying this belief to this day. Starting to do that deeper inner work is going to speed up the process of you finding your soul mate. It’s these unconscious things that keep tripping you up.
On the surface, you might be doing everything that is right. You might be dating, you’re putting yourself out there, but you’re still not connecting with men. I would say that there is some belief that’s resonating that you need to stop creating. I call that discreating and dismeaning to stop creating. You need to stop creating those unconscious beliefs. Going back to the dating platform, it’s a perfect place to begin that process. You go on dates, you hit a couple of roadblocks, you go home, less about what he did, more about what came up for you. Follow that to its source and figure out where that source is from and you get back out there and see if you can continue to adjust the way you’re showing up your behavior. You start to question your belief systems because they’re the reason you’re experiencing this disconnect.
If this is work that you’re resonating with, and the message that I’m sharing with you, I would be honored to work with you. Help you work through these limiting beliefs while you’re going through the dating process or work on your inner journey into yourself before you get into the dating platform. There are two ways that you can go about it. It’s such an honor for me to work with the most amazing and empowered women that maybe everything else in life has gone well for them. They’re successful in their careers but they’re not connecting in their love life. Those are the women that I love to work with. If that resonates with you, private message me on Facebook so that we can be in touch and jump on the phone for a quick chat to see if we’re a fit to work together. Ladies, thank you so much for being here. I appreciate those of you who showed up. I hope this was helpful and I’ll talk to you again and we’ll connect. If you have any topics you’d like me to teach around, please let me know through an email and I’ll set that. Also, if there are any experiences that you have that you want to share with me, that you need some insights, I also cover those insights as well. I’m sending you all lots and lots of love.
Hi Jaki: thanks for the video: love the shirt!
Topic for clarity:
Clarity on boundaries. In one of your videos you mentioned that you and Michael were in a restaurant and ran into a couple who asked about his ex infront of you. I don’t remember which video it was, but that type of thing has happened often to me. Your response to them was very courageous. Mine, was to remain quiet.. I would have thought myself rude to say something. I am
Not sure what that is about. 1) not feeling entitled 2) lack of self -respect 3) too nice somehow .. I think about how you created a boundary and I believe spoke directly to them. I so often wanted to say something, but didn’t. Is that a boundary issue?
Argh, biggest thing I struggle with (please do a video on this!) is that I’m physically attracted only to men who are not good bets, aka unavailable, etc. The nice, good ones who adore me, show up, follow through leave me cold. Please, please, some suggestions on how to change this! Thank you.