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EAA 15 | First Move

Make HIM Make the First Move

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· July 30, 2019 
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EAA 15 | First Move

 

A study shows that 92% of men want women to make a signal and let them know that they’re interested in them. Sometimes, doing that takes guts; it’s just not easy to do. At the same time, you would not want to pass up the chance, especially if you have someone you are really interested in. Muster up your courage and take charge of what you want. Jaki wants you to take note of six tips that will help you make him make the first move.

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Make HIM Make the First Move

I want to give you six tips on how to make him make the first move because I want you to signify interest in someone and I know that takes guts. There’s so much reward to be had in it if you can do it. Beyond the obvious is in getting into a potential relationship, you could walk away having learned something about yourself. When you take more risk in life, the bigger the risk, the bigger the game and you don’t have anything to lose and men are up for this. A study showed that 92% of men what women to signal them or approach them and let them know that they’re interested in them. I want you to take note of these six tips that are going to help you to make him make the first move.

The first tip is to be confident and use that five-second smile. I know this is hard for a lot of you ladies, but it works. I want you to know that it’s not desperate. It’s only desperate if you feel desperate. Focus on the part of you that is confident and knowing that what you want is what you’re going to get. You have to go after what you want. That five-second smile gives him an opportunity to recognize and realize you’re interested in being approached by him. I know it’s challenging, but you have to sit there and notice a man that you’re interested in and when you see him, just give him that smile and sit there and do that. I know it’s uncomfortable while you’re doing it, but you hold that smile and he will either do one of several things.

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He will either approach you because you gave him the signal. You are letting him know that you’re approachable with that beautiful smile. It’s confident and it lets him know you’re interested in him or he won’t approach you, which means maybe he’s in a relationship. He’s occupied or he’s not interested. It doesn’t matter. You got a lot of information in those five seconds and that’s what you need to stop wasting your precious time. That’s why this is such a valuable tool. Be confident and give that five-second smile and practice it in the mirror. Practice is the key to creation. It’s a key to getting anything you want and it’s the key to getting out of your comfort zone. Make sure you use it. Tip number one is being confident and smile.

Tip number two is I want you to be slightly touchy-feely. What I mean by this is whether you’re trying to get his phone number at the bar or he’s getting yours, you can give him a strong signal and get him to ask you out by touching him. What I suggest is touching his forearm, putting your hand on his hand or on his shoulder. You reach over and you’re saying, “It’s nice to meet you.” Making that physical contact is a subtle form of letting him know that you’re interested in him asking you out. You want to give him these obvious signs to help him to ask you out. Men are just as nervous as you are. As long as you hold back, they’re feeling you’re not interested. Sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone and take these tips and start to apply them so that you can cut down on the time that you’re single. That’s the whole reason why you’re reading this, to begin with. You’re tired of being single. I want you to like, share and comment on my videos if you’re finding value in them so that other people can find me, because I know I’m helping a lot of women. I want to help everybody get engaged at any age.

I’m going to share with you tip number three, ask for what you want. I know that it’s hard to ask for what you want and it sounds easier said than done. You can simply ask for what you want and you won’t believe how well this goes over. It can sound something like this. Maybe you’re out with your friends and you’re all decided to move on to a new location. All you have to do is say, “We’re going over to the Hard Rock, why don’t you join us?” or “We’re going over to the Hard Rock, why don’t you come?” or, “We’re going over to the Hard Rock, you should join us. You should come.” It’s casual. “You should join us. It’s going to be great. We’ll see you there. We’re heading over there now,” and then you delete. If he shows up, he’s interested. If he doesn’t, it’s no big deal. It’s like you’re reaching out as a friend and checking in to see if he’s interested or not. It sends the right message and that’s the important thing.

You want to send these signals and these messages using these tips, so he gets the signal to ask you out so that you don’t have to be that one that’s pursuing. When you do this, you’re going to expect him to run with the ball and set up the date. You’re not going to set the date up. Let’s say for example, if he does come over because you say, “We’re heading over to the Hard Rock. You should come,” and he comes over there. It’s going to be up to him to ask you out and to pursue it. Maybe you’re listening to music at someplace and there’s a party or something and he’s like, “I love this band. It’s one of my favorite bands.” If you heard that they were coming to San Diego, you can say, “They’re coming to San Diego. We should go sometime.” Just like that. It’s casual, like it fell out of your mouth. You’re not pursuing him. You’re excited. You’re following something that he’s passionate about and you’re making a suggestion. You’re not hitting on him or asking him out. You’re saying, “We should go.” It’s like a figure a speech and then he, at that point, needs to take the hint, pick up the hanky and ask you out. If he doesn’t, that’s okay. You took a risk and you’ve got information from it.

That’s why it’s important to take these risks. Don’t be afraid to feel like you’re getting rejected. It’s a redirection and you have to put yourself out there. As I said, 92% of men want to be approached by women or are okay with being approached by women and encourage it. They’re nervous too and they want a clear signal from you that it’s safe to approach you and it’s safe to ask you out. You’re going to say yes. This is setting it up to help them ask you out. You are helping them by following these tips. Here’s tip number four. This one works and I love this. Let him help you with something. This could be something like if you’re at a bar and he offers to pull out your chair. Say, “Thank you.” Don’t say, “No, I got it,” because that’s an automatic response for a lot of women. They’re like, “No, I got this,” but you’re like, “You don’t get it. You want him to get it.” You’re like, “Thank you so much.” Maybe you’re coming up to the bar and not everything’s in a bar. It could be a Starbucks or anything and you’re standing in line and your hands are full. You could turn to the guy next to you and say, “Would you mind holding this for me for a minute?” He’s going to hold it.

EAA 15 | First Move

First Move: Don’t be afraid to feel like you’re getting rejected. It’s just a redirection towards something better.

 

Give them your briefcase, ask him to hold it. Ask him to hold a shopping bag. Ask him, “Excuse me, can you hand me that please? I can’t reach that,” or, “Would you do this for me?” or, “Would you mind getting the bartender’s attention?” Ask for help. Men respond well to this because they do. They want to help you and you’re giving him an opportunity to do so. That means that he is already setting up to be in that position of being there for you. You’re teeing that up. You could also do something like asking him to look up something on your phone. Maybe you guys are talking and all of a sudden you’re going to leave to the next place. You’re there with your friends or wherever you are. It could be a party. It could be a friend’s. It could be a Starbucks. He has his phone and you don’t have yours. You could say, “Excuse me, would you mind looking something up for me? I’m getting ready to head down to this restaurant, Catania, and I’ve never been there. Do you know where it is or could you give me directions or look at those up on your phone for me?” Then smile. He’s going to look it up on his phone for you and he’s going to talk to you.

You’re going to strike up a conversation and that’s segueing into him possibly asking you out. You’re teeing it up. You’re letting him know you’re interested and you’re open and that’s a big thing. Tip number five and this one’s fun, linger around. Hang out. I did this myself. I’m going to share with you a story that I used the linger tip and it works. Use your time wisely, especially if you see someone that you’re interested in. You want to be subtle about it, but he will notice that you’re lingering and he will take that as a signal if he’s interested in you. The best approach to that is your proximity to him. You want to make sure you’re standing near him or if there’s a group of people you at least are positioning yourself so that you’re closer to him than the other people there so that he gets the sense, the vibe, the feeling that you’re interested in him. That’s the point of it. You linger near him.

My story is I went to a coffee shop. I rode there on my bike. I parked my bike and I was lingering right there at the entrance of the coffee shop. It was outdoor seating and I had gone in and got a cup of coffee and came back. I was lingering because there’s no place to sit. I was hanging out. I had my coffee. I was not on my phone. I was drinking my coffee, listening to the conversation, looking around, smiling to myself and acting happy. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. I was happy, but it was definitely awkward and I was nervous. I was playing the role of being happy at that moment. In other words, I was projecting happiness outwards. I was smiling and admiring the birds. There were birds in the tree and I was listening to that. I was appreciating life and putting the vibe out there that I was approachable.

There was a guy sitting at a table and he called over to me and said, “Excuse me, would you like to join me?” I’m like, “That would be great.” I sat down and we end up having a conversation, which led to a date. He asked me out, but I did linger. The lingering helps. If you’re in a club, you’re in a bar, you’re in a restaurant or you’re in the lobby or someplace, linger. Stand outside of the elevator and linger with him. Talk to him for a moment. Give him an opportunity to put it together that you were interested in him. That’s why you need to linger. I’m going to give you a final tip. Here’s the way that you can get him alone. Getting him alone is going to send the signal to him that you’re interested in him and have him ask you out. Maybe you are in a room together with a bunch of people. First of all, what you can do is you can draw him away to the side and you can say, “Excuse me, can I ask you a question?” He’ll step aside or away from the group while you engage him in something. You could ask him something about the area. You can ask something that’s relevant to the conversation.

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You can ask them something about a friend, “I know my friend’s birthday’s coming up and I want to surprise them. Do you have any ideas about a gift?” Make sure you have an idea of what you’re going to ask him when you draw him away. You could simply say, “Excuse me, can I talk to you for a minute?” Then he turns away from the group. At that point, you’re making a more intimate connection with him. You’re creating a little bond, which is a great place to go. From that point, he is in a position to definitely ask you out because you made this little connection. You’re on this friendship level, which could easily dovetail into a relationship. I wanted to say that a lot of these tips will help you materialize an opportunity to go on a date. You have to put yourself out there. You have to learn these tips because they will help when you’re out in real life. That’s where it’s all happening. You’re out there and you’re not all online dating. You’re out in real life. When you get out there, you clam up and you freeze up or you run away and you don’t know what to do.

I know that these tips will help you if you follow them and practice them. I also want you to know is to stop buying into society’s restrictions about who should ask who out. I know that I talk a lot about masculine and feminine energy. When we look at where we are now in our society and what the studies are showing is that men are completely okay with being approached, my husband included. I talked to him about it. Before we got married, he was approached by women. He said he was relieved because it let him know at least they were interested and if he approached them, he wasn’t going to get shut down. These six tips are a more subtle form of tips. You’re not outright asking them out, but you’re giving them strong, clear signals that you’re interested in continuing a deeper discussion or a date or something that might lead to a relationship.

 

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EAA 11 | Attracting A Financially Secure Man

Law Of Attraction: Find A Financially Secure Man

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· July 16, 2019 
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EAA 11 | Attracting A Financially Secure Man

 

When all you want is the best for you, people sometimes take it the wrong way. As you go for gold in your dating life, your efforts can be viewed negatively; most especially when what you are aiming for is attracting a financially successful man. How then can you depart from the bad rep of the term “gold digger” without having to sacrifice your vies on the importance of being financially stable in love? Jaki shares some ways you can attract someone who is financially secure. You may be a successful woman or still figuring life out, but you must not settle for less because you deserve to want things in life.

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Law Of Attraction: Find A Financially Secure Man

I wanted to talk to you about how to attract a financially successful man without appearing greedy. This is a hot topic because I’m tired of the whole gold digger term and how it has a bad name. I think of it as you should dig for gold. Why wouldn’t you go for the best in life? We’d want to give the term gold digging a new meaning behind it because it’s a great term. If you ever watched the Olympics and you see the athletes and how hard they try and they deserve to be in that number one spot for a reason. Getting the gold is important and I want to go for the gold in life. I want the best of the best. That’s what I want for you. I want you to expect that you can get it. Sometimes in that process of going for the gold, it looks like that a woman is gold digging. What that would mean is looking for a man to take care of her and feeling entitled and not giving anything back. That’s where that gold digging term got a bad rap is from women not offering anything in return or a man not feeling appreciated.

The Issue Of Finances

Does money matter when it comes to love? It does. A lot of women who are looking at starting over a new beginning in a relationship, it’s already hard emotionally, but then you add in the money factor, the finances and we all know it’s a big issue. Finding a man that’s financially secure is important because as a successful woman if you have it all together, you want someone who’s right there with you. Those of you who don’t feel that you have it all together, I’m going to cover both sides of that coin. One of the big biggest issues in a relationship can be finances and it can cause a lot of problems. Being transparent upfront is important. I’m going to give you some real-world examples and role model for you and how you can talk about your finances on dates. If you’re looking to meet a man who’s financially successful, but you don’t want to come across as greedy, I want you to know that you’re not. You’re smart and you want someone that’s your equal at least. You want someone that has committed to a path in life that has created abundance.

In order to create that abundance, we all know what it takes. It takes hard work. It takes consistency. It takes foresight. It takes sacrifice. It takes considering the bigger picture. It takes planning. It takes education. There are many factors that go into what it takes and what it means to be a financially successful person. It certainly has a lot to do with the character because that’s how you grow character. How you create a character is by striving, working hard and building something that gives you character along the way. I want all of you to go for the gold, to set your intention to meet a man that is financially successful because that would mean to me that he has contributed or spent a lot of his time planning out carefully and meticulously his future. He thought about perhaps his children and how he wanted them to go to college. How his lifestyle was going to be for him and his family or for himself and what his dreams were. That says a lot about a person and that’s important. It’s important as a woman and it says a lot about me as well and it reflects on me.

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I want to share a little story before I go any further about my history because I always liked to be transparent with you. Some of you might say, “Jaki, how can you share things if you’re so open and transparent?” It’s easy and I’m going to tell you why it’s easy before I tell you what I’m going to tell you. It’s because I’m not identified with what I’m going to tell you. It’s not who I am. It doesn’t define me. At one time in my life, it did define me. I did think it was the role that I was playing. That’s why it’s easier for me to share this with you because I know how much it’s going to benefit you by telling you a little bit about my background. I grew up in an economically-challenged situation. I was from a large family. We were on welfare. I remember standing in line with my mother waiting for powdered milk. That’s a true story. I used to be afraid at night that I wasn’t going to have food the next day. I was scared about that. As you can imagine, I had a lot of fear around money and around lack and scarcity because of that. I also had a drive down deep in my belly that I was going to pull myself out of that and create something fantastic in my life because of that.

The thing that started off to be challenging for me as a child and instilled a lot of fear in me also created the drive that I needed to overcome those financial challenges as a child. This isn’t about my parents. They did the best they could, but things happen. That was my situation. It was important for me to marry a man that was financially successful because I haven’t experienced that as a child. That was a driving force for me. All of you have a different history and that may not be your driving force. When I say driving force, the root cause that caused me to strive to have more and to want a man that was financially successful originated from my childhood and it originated from scarcity and lack and fear. It was a fear-based desire to have money so that I would never have to experience those things again. What I ended up doing was working hard. I got a degree in the school of hard knocks before I graduated from grade school. I had learned through trial and error what worked and didn’t work and started to find success for me even as a child.

Fear-Based Desire

My first job was pulling around my little red wagon selling doilies that I crocheted that went over a Barbie’s body and it covered the roll of toilet paper. That was my first job. I was an entrepreneur when I was six years old. My grandmother taught me how to crochet. From there, I was an entrepreneur. I started making money when I was a little girl and that was my first job. Why I’m telling you this is that you want to look at your motivation and your desire, which is good. I don’t want you to label your desire to have a financially successful man in your life as bad. That desire started as a fear-based desire, but it still drove me to do things in my life so that I wouldn’t have those experiences. More importantly, I wanted my children to have the opportunities that I didn’t have. That was big for me. The family was everything to me because I was from a big family. I wanted a financially successful man because I wanted my children to have the opportunities that I didn’t have or that I had to work hard to get. That’s my history in terms of why I have the opinions I have. These are all my opinion. My perception is based on my life experiences and the education that I have and what I’ve learned and what I’m channeling for my spirit to share with you.

EAA 11 | Attracting A Financially Secure Man

Attracting A Financially Secure Man: If you value yourself and know your worth, then you know that you cannot be quantified in dollars.

 

Value System

You want to temper everything I say with that. We all have a different opinion, but this is my opinion and I’m sticking to it. Going back to talking to you about are you frowned upon by wanting a man who’s financially successful and how do you do that without appearing greedy? First of all, you have to look at your value system and you have to look at yourself personally if you value yourself. If you value yourself and you know your worth, you know that you’re worth cannot be quantified in dollars. You can’t say, “I’m worth $150,000. I’m worth $500,000. I’m worth $1 million. I’m worth $1 billion so that I can get a billionaire or I can get a millionaire.” You can’t quantify your value and worth by a stack of money. Money is love energy made manifest. It’s an exchange of energy. What you have to do if it’s important to you that you have a man that’s financially successful for whatever reason and however successful you want him to be. It doesn’t matter because your desires. You have the right to want what you want and expect that you will get it. It starts with expecting that you will get it. You have to expect that you deserve these things in life.

Let’s go back to your value systems. You have to value yourself and know your worth and not try to compare yourself to a bank account. What you do have to do is you have to bring something to the table. I talked to my husband about this. He was a guest speaker on one of my private client calls and he was emphatic and clear about it. He did not mind sharing expenses. He didn’t mind and does not mind paying for everything, but he was clear that he wanted to feel that he was appreciated. He wanted to be respected. He wanted to always feel that way. If that wasn’t there, then he would feel resentful. Then he wouldn’t be inspired to provide because he wants to provide and he provides for me. I love that and I appreciate it so much. We have that balance.

There needs to be a genuine appreciation for a man and what he provides and what he can bring to the table. I was reading this statistics and I wanted to share with you that dating is expensive for men. The cost of dating according to research is about $7,000 a year at the minimum. That includes twelve movie dates, three apology flower deliveries and a new wardrobe when she improves him. The costs add up if he’s looking for love, then there are trips. Men are investing in you when they’re out there online dating because they have to pay for the meals and they have to pay for the little gifts and the little trips and all in an attempt to win you. They know that they have to pull out their wallet. What you need to do is be on the receiving end of that, receiving that with a genuine appreciation and with genuine gratitude. Most importantly is that you feel worthy of those gifts.

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I feel that’s a lot of the problem that women have that it hangs them up because they don’t feel worthy and they sabotage it by pulling out their wallet, offering to pay or by forgetting to say thank you or not gushing. You should gush over something that a man does. Everybody loves to feel appreciated, especially men. Especially when what they are bringing to the table is something that is important to you. As long as you’re coming across as grateful, authentic, genuine and you know your worth and you hold yourself in a high value, you’re transparent about your situation, a man will be inspired to take care of you and by the best means that he has. He will give you everything that he has and then it’s going to be up to you to decide if that is going to be sufficient. We want to settle at some point. Settling is a fabulous word. I know a lot of people say don’t settle. I’m like, “I say settle when you find an amazing man and you look at your lifestyle and what he’s offering and it’s a match. You settle.” You say, “I’ll take it.” You say, “I do,” as fast as you can. You want to keep that settling word in mind because it’s a good word.

You’re not bringing to the table and being transparent. You’re not going to disclose your financial situation on a first date. You’re certainly not going to share anything negative. You’re going to have to temper that with the boundary rule that I’ve shared with you. You share a little bit. You see how it’s received. If they share a little bit, then they see how you receive it and then you share a little bit more. That’s how you know it’s safe. That’s a boundary. You don’t share everything. You don’t dump everything. You don’t tell a man, “My credit cards are maxed out. I’m not going to be able to afford to join you on that trip.” You don’t say things like that. If a man invites you on a trip and he says, “I’d love to take you skiing.” You say, “That sounds amazing. I would love to go. I’m excited. Thank you so much for thinking of me. Unfortunately, I probably have to take a rain check because it’s not in my spending plan this month.”

I want you to use that phrase so you can let them know that it’s not in your spending plan, but you would love to go, then it’s up to them. It’s on them to decide whether or not they want to cover the cost of the entire trip. If it’s not something they can afford, maybe they’ll say, “Maybe another time,” and you’ll say, “I would like that,” and then you can go home and think about that. Always use that spending plan phrase instead of, “I can’t afford it.” “I can’t afford it,” is speaking in the lack, where, “It’s out of my spending plan,” speaks into you have a plan but it’s not on the plan this month. You deserve to have a man that is your equal. If you are a woman who’s successful financially, you want a man who’s equally as successful. I don’t want you to take on men that you end up taking care of because you’ll end up resenting them. You’re not getting any younger. You need to have that balance, that masculine energy. Eventually, he’s going to come to resent you because you’re holding the purse strings. That’s my opinion. I definitely don’t recommend that you get involved with a man who has less money than you do unless there are special circumstances.

EAA 11 | Attracting A Financially Secure Man

Attracting A Financially Secure Man: Don’t take on men that you end up taking care of because you’ll end up resenting them.

 

I’m going to say that there’s always a gray area for everything that I’m teaching. It’s not an exact science. Generally speaking, you want to have enough self-esteem to know that you can attract a man who’s on your level financially unless you consciously choose to not do so. If you did that, then you would want to have a transparent conversation with your man about what the expectations are and what the budget’s going to be and then it can totally work. It’s all about communication. It’s all about responsible communication and transparency and boundaries. If you have a lot of money and he doesn’t and you decide you’re going to get into that relationship, you need to have boundaries. You need to not turn over the reins to everything to him. You need to set boundaries and let him know what those boundaries are and if he could live within them.

Not Being Financially Successful Yourself

I want to cover the situation that’s opposite. You don’t have any money and he does. You want to date a guy that’s financially successful, but maybe you’re not so much. What I’m going to say about that is I’d like you to start working on a plan so you can feel more confident about your financial situation. I already shared that I’ve had to start over three times in my life and maybe more. I spent a lot of money, got into debt and then I had to pay it all off and start over. I went up and then I went down, then I went back up and I went back down. The great thing about being down is when you’re down the view is great, because the only way you can go is up. There are a lot of things you learn on the way down that you can use when you go all the way back up. If you go down, you can go back up. The important thing is to remember that.

If you are starting over again after a divorce or you’re widowed or you’re starting out and wanting to get married for the first time, you need to have a plan. Having a plan is going to give you self-esteem. First of all, a lot of women don’t even want to look at their checkbook. They’re like, “I don’t want to look. I don’t even want to look and see what’s in there.” You have to stop that. You have to have awareness. You have to rip that bandage off and confront things. When you’re not looking at your checking account, you’re not addressing these things. I don’t care how dire it is. You’re not being intimate with yourself. There’s the problem right there. You’re not even being intimate with your situation. How can you start to correct it if you won’t look at it? It’s not who you are, it’s a situation that you’re going through. Don’t play the role of the poor woman, broke. That’s a role that your mind has you play. You’re much more than that. You’re not your money. You’re not your hair. You’re not your body. You’re a spiritual being having a human experience. You’re your God self.

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When you come at all your problems in life from that perspective, the possibilities are infinite. It’s unlimited. If you got yourself in this little mindset where like, “My bank account looks bleak.” You need to have a plan. Reach out to somebody that you know that may be savvier with her finances and ask her to help you lay out a plan. Be transparent. Tell them, “I need some help. I made some choices in my life that weren’t the best and the consequence is then that I don’t have a lot of money. I need to have a plan so I can feel better about that situation.” That’s going to make you feel much better by admitting the fact that you are in this situation, to begin with. Honesty is emotional intimacy. It’s what you’re leaning into. Start with being honest with yourself. Laying out what have and start taking some concrete steps to move forward so that you can feel better about your situation.

You can’t quantify your value in comparison to money. I wholeheartedly, 100% recommend that you date men that are financially successful and here’s why. It says a lot about their character. It says a lot about all of our character. A man that works hard, that has foresight, that’s planning for the future, he’s thinking of how he’s going to provide and protect you, that is a man who has a lot of character and those are important things to him. Those are things that I admire in a man. As long as you present that in a way, the attitude that I’m presenting right now, a man will not misinterpret your intentions for wanting a great lifestyle as a gold digger, because you’re not. Let them say what they’ll say. People used to call me that. I’d say, “Heck, yes.” I want the best out of life. I want the best for my family. I want the best for my children. I want the best for my clients. I want to be a great role model. I want it all. I want to experience everything in life. I want the gold and I want you to go for the gold.

If you want to call me a gold digger, then you go right ahead because that’s great. I do. Let’s get rid of that negative connotation of that term and let’s blow it up. Go for the gold. Make sure you come from gratitude, from appreciation, from having a plan that you’re willing to work hard to pull yourself out of whatever situation you’re in. Have integrity. Don’t let that define you. You’re not your victims. I had somebody write in and I encourage you to write in and ask me questions so that I can answer them. Here’s her question. She said, “Should a woman look for a financially secure man if she’s not financially secure herself?” Yes. Why would you look for somebody who’s not financially secure? All you’re going to be doing is fighting about money and it says a lot about his character. Knowing that you’re going to be working on this piece for yourself, I recommend yes. She also goes on to say, “I understand that women who have it altogether want their equal. What about those who don’t have it all together financially and may even be in a financial pickle? Should they look for their equal, a man who’s in the same insecure financial boat?”

EAA 11 | Attracting A Financially Secure Man

Attracting A Financially Secure Man: Remember that you are worth much. Know it, believe it, and it will be so.

 

No, I don’t want you to argue for your limitations. I want you to speak into what you want as if it’s already happened. Fake it until you make it, if you can understand that term. It’s all about your perception of your worth. This is where it’s all coming from. There’s somebody telling you or somebody’s told you or you’re telling yourself you’re your worst critic, that you’re not enough or that you don’t have enough. Your value can’t be quantified in dollars. You’re priceless. You’re a priceless jewel. You’re such a treasure beyond belief and men treasure and adore women. You have to remember that we make each other better and we need each other. You have to know your value because if you don’t know your value, how can a man see your worth if you can’t see it? Work on building up that self-esteem and that self-worth. It’s a perception. That you can change and you can believe that you are a high value, a high worth woman who’s rich beyond belief. You have qualities. You have your integrity. You have your personality. You have your connections to your source. You have your wits. You have your intellect. You have many things and many qualities.

There’s one more question. She’s asking, “Should she be honest and tell a guy about her financial situation?” Not at the front because it’s not appropriate. You don’t tell somebody on a first, second or third date about your finances. You don’t even know if you’re going to go out with him again. You only start talking about those things if you’ve agreed to be inclusive. He can already tell your financial situation by the car you drive, by the clothes you wear, that house you live in and by how you talk. What you say is giving him indications. He’s picking up all the cues. When you walk into a restaurant, he notices your purse. Men aren’t that dumb, they are smart. They can tell what’s going on with you. It’s okay if you don’t have a Gucci bag, you don’t need that. What you need is you. You need to be you. You need to come from truth, integrity, appreciation and that is going to connect. That’s worth its weight in gold. If you have a golden heart, that’s what a man wants. He wants a real woman with a heart of gold and that’s what he’s looking for and he’s willing to pay for that. He’s willing to provide for you if you have a heart of gold.

That’s what my husband has. He has a heart of gold and so does I. We’re a perfect match. He said that he’s inspired to take care of women. He always has been like that. He’s generous, but he expects appreciation. He expects me to bring something to the relationship, and I do. I bring my awareness. I bring my presence. I listen. I modify my behavior if it’s not working. I’m sensitive to his needs and wants. I consider his children. I consider him. He’s my best friend. I am always thinking about him and he’s always thinking about me. I know that he feels loved and appreciated by me and that inspires him to take care of me and do the things for me.

Your value can't be quantified in dollars. You’re a priceless jewel and a treasure beyond belief. Click To Tweet

One last question, “When men spend on dates, there’s a sense that the date owes something more than a thank you.” That’s a perception. That’s something that’s going on in your mind that your mind’s made up. You can’t speak for everybody. You can only speak for yourself. Somewhere along the way, you’ve got some incorrect thinking. There’s nothing wrong with you if you got some incorrect thinking because it’s a belief system. You don’t have to believe it if you don’t want to. What you owe him on a date is to be present. You owe him to be courteous. You owe him to be grateful. You say thank you. You owe him to be interested in him and interested in what he’s talking about. That’s what your obligation is. You’re obligated to show up as your best self. That is the reciprocation. He’s going to provide the atmosphere and the goodies and you’re going to provide the energy and the beauty, your beautiful inner self and that golden heart. That’s the energy exchange. Money is love energy made manifest. Your heart is love energy made manifest.

Remember that you are worth much. Know it, believe it and it will be so. The timing of intimacy comes into the picture. Is this the negative image of a bought woman? The timing of intimacy comes into the picture. She’s referring to physical intimacy and if a man gives you presence and you sleep with him, are you being bought? I’m like “No, I don’t think that either.” However, it depends. I hope this was helpful. Like my page, so you receive the notifications that we can connect on a regular basis. Jump over to my website if you want to find some tools that I teach. I always send your replies to my emails. Let me know your questions so that I can answer them. Thank you so much for being here. Remember that I’m sending you lots and lots of love. I love you and I mean it.

 

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EAA 8 | Things That Attract Men

Law Of Attraction: 3 Things That Attract Men 50 And Up!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· June 25, 2019 
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EAA 8 | Things That Attract Men

 

You may think it is hard to find a partner when you are over 50, but this is only because you have not gotten in line with how to attract them. There are specifically different qualities that men are looking for as they age, and Jaki shares three things with you. Backing it up with statistical data and some smart insights and advice, she talks about how you can attract men 50 and up.

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Law Of Attraction: 3 Things That Attract Men 50 And Up!

I’m excited to connect with you because I want to talk to you about three things that attract men over 50. It’s over 50, over 60, over 70 and beyond because this is what men are looking for in a woman that is over 50. Here’s the thing. All men want to attract the same type of woman. What I’d read through this statistic, it all shows the same thing. All men want a fun, honest woman that they can have a good time with. That’s easy. You’re a fun, honest woman that they can have a good time with. You’ve already solved half the problem.

Relationship-Minded Partners

There are specifically different qualities that men are looking for as they age and I want to share those with you. One of the things that stood out when I looked at the statistics and what I hear from the men that I know and also from the women that I’m coaching. Men are looking for a relationship over 50, over 60 and over 70. They’re more relationship-minded. Ladies, I don’t want you to be afraid to be expressing that you’re interested in a committed relationship because that is exactly what men are looking for over 50, over 60 and beyond. They recognize that the important things in life are having a loving partner by their side and they want to experience life with someone. They’re recognizing that more and more as they age.

A Woman Who Values Intelligence

That’s such a benefit, a bonus to know and to understand, accept and empower yourself with this knowledge that men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for a long-term committed relationship that leads to marriage. What else are they going to do? Having a relationship as we age is the most rewarding experiences you can have. I’m sharing this with you because I know that to be true based on my own experiences with Michael and the ladies that are getting into relationships. Men are looking for relationships over 50. In fact, they are more interested in that than dating for fun. A loving partner is a priority to men over 50, 60 and 70. Another thing that men over 50 are looking for a woman in a relationship over 50, 60 and 70 is a woman who values intelligence. Men are looking for intelligent women. Emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence. Emotional intelligence is your ability to have great communication skill. Your ability to hold a conversation without getting triggered. Your ability to bring more wisdom to every situation because that is such a benefit to him. Benefiting from your wisdom, your intuition, your life knowledge and your life experience is what he’s looking for. Not that you’re younger, that you have all this life experience and you know how to apply it. That’s what emotional intelligence is. Having compassion, having empathy, having good listening skills.

By being rigid in our thinking, we limit ourselves. Click To Tweet

Being present and being open-minded, that’s another thing that men are looking for over 50, 60 and 70 in a woman. What happens is over time and this is something I want to dig into a little bit more, being open-minded. As we age, we tend to get more closed-minded. We tend to get rigid in our thinking. In doing that, we limit ourselves. We limit not only what’s possible, but we limit ourselves from learning something new. You want to always keep an open mind. Sometimes when we feel we know-it-all or we know a topic that somebody is sharing with us, especially on dates, we shut that person down because we’re not open to hearing anything new. Life is all about learning, growing, evolving and expanding. Men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for a woman who is open to exploring the possibility, is open to looking at life in a different angle, who sees the value in learning and growth. That’s what men are looking for.

It goes across the board to say that men are looking for a woman who has a sense of humor. All men are looking for that when I looked at the statistics. Here’s the surprise that you may not think that is true, but men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for romance. They’re not done with the romance. In fact, they are more likely to be more romantic because they value the qualities that a woman can bring to a relationship. Bring that touch of feminine energy that makes life more rich and interesting and more colorful for a man. They’re definitely looking for more romance. As women, we love romance. That’s a wonderful thing to keep in mind. Men want to romance you. They want to have romantic experiences with you, especially as they get older. They’re looking for that quality so don’t shy away from those romantic experiences because men do want that.

A Woman They Can Be Active With

Here’s the last piece I’ll share with you and there are many things, but this one is key. Men over 50, 60 and 70 are looking for someone who they can be active with. Whether that means riding bikes, taking walks, skiing, whatever it is for you, being active is an important thing to men over 50. When we’re active, we live a healthier life. We live longer. We sleep better. We feel better about ourselves. If you haven’t been active lately, this is a good time to break out your walking shoes if summer is coming. You can get out there. If it’s hot in your environment, you can go early in the morning. Getting you back into a yoga routine or a workout routine, anything that you can share on dates that show you’re active. Even if it’s taking long walks, that is something that is going to appeal to a man over 50, 60 and 70. He wants to remain active as long as he lives. My husband is like that. He’s like, “I’m going to work out until the day I die because I never want to not be able to get out of bed and do the things that I want to do.” I couldn’t agree more with him. We do that together. That’s one of the things that attracted me to Michael. Him, to me, is that we were both active.

Things That Attract Men: Our needs and wants change over time.

 

Ladies, they’re not looking for younger women. They’re looking for women that are a relationship-minded. They’re looking for women that are active. They’re looking for women that are easy going. They’re looking for a woman who’s intelligent emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. Make sure you begin to cultivate those parts of you to make sure that you bring that forward when you’re out on your date. We’re all looking for a sense of humor. That’s what we need to do to do all the dating. You have to have a sense of humor about everything. Bring that sense of humor to your date because it’s going to connect well to men over 50. That’s what they’re looking for. I don’t know about you, but it’s good to share a good laugh with somebody, especially when you’re on a date. If you can come up with some jokes or don’t forget to be playful and witty and have that fun, playful banter, not taking things seriously, not taking things personally that’s for sure, and questioning things when you don’t understand something shows emotional intelligence.

It doesn’t show that you don’t understand something, it shows that you have knowledge and that you’re curious and you want to be clear about something that was shared to you. You’re not afraid to ask questions, especially when you don’t understand something or don’t know something. It’s attractive when you don’t know something and you’re not afraid to admit it. When you’re like, “I’m not familiar with that. Tell me all about it.” Instead of faking it and going, “I know about that,” when you don’t. Bring that vulnerability forward. It connects. I’d rather say, “I don’t know about that. I’ve never heard about it. I’d love to hear more about it,” than to pretend that I do. You don’t have to do that. Let that go. Ladies, I hope this was helpful. I’m going to answer a question before I conclude our talk here, “How do you know if he’s the right man you should commit to if most things are good, but then you question other things that aren’t matching up to your core wants and needs?” We need to know what those other things are.

I recommend that you look at what your core wants and needs are more closely. Sometimes the things that we want and need, we haven’t examined them in a while. Our needs and wants change over time. I would look at more about what your needs are. What are the needs? The wants? A lot of those things you can fulfill on yourself. Maybe you want to travel to different places and maybe he doesn’t. Maybe you can go, “Are you okay with me going on trips with my girlfriends?” If he’s okay with that, you guys can work that out. Maybe that’s a deal breaker for you. Maybe you want to travel with your partner, so that would be a need. Getting clear about making the distinction between wants and needs is going to help you to take the confusion out of whether or not this man has a real place in your life.

You said your core wants. I’m imagining that the core would be maybe financial, would be a core or maybe children’s ages could be a core thing. You don’t want to take on a relationship where somebody has younger children. They have to get clear on what those core needs are. I certainly would come to the table with a lot of questions and see if you can negotiate. If he has a lot of good things that are matching up, it’s worthy of conversations to see if you can negotiate some compromises. Relationships are compromises and I say that with the highest respect in a good way. I compromise my time. I compromise where we eat, what we’re going to watch on TV or where we’re going to go on vacation. My core needs are to be with Michael, to be with a man who loves and adores me, who supports me, who accepts me and treats me well. Those are the things that are the most important to me. The other things are like where we’re going to go, what we’re going to eat, and all those little things. I can let all those go and go with the flow because I’m easy-going and those things aren’t that important compared to the core needs. It’s getting clear on is it a need or a want? How important is it to you? Can you negotiate that? If the man has the qualities and the principles you resonate with, I say it’s worth negotiating.

Sometimes when we feel we know it all, we shut the other person we are talking to down. Click To Tweet

I hope this was helpful. If you want more clarity on what I’m sharing, I’m here for you in these Facebook Lives and I do the YouTubes. I’m always here providing you with these tips. If you need to learn how to apply them and take action on them because intellectual knowledge is what I’m supplying here, but it’s useless if you can’t take action on it. I’m winding down my enrollment into my Engaged at Any Age Program. If you’re interested and you’ve been toying with the idea and you regret not taking advantage of it, I’m going to give you this one last opportunity to jump in with us and join the group. I want you to private message me on Facebook where we can talk in a private message and see if that’s a fit for you. Go ahead and private message me. We’ll have a little dialogue privately. I’ll tell you if it’s a fit for you and share with you the details and the commitment. I have a special bonus for you if you sign up. It’s a fast action bonus, but I’ll tell you that in a private message.

I hope you join me. I’m excited about this group. It’s amazing women. One of the ladies that are in the group has such exciting news. In a couple of weeks of being in the group, after talking to me and laying out a plan and looking at her beliefs because she didn’t feel she can meet a man in her town. We opened up that possibility of meeting a man outside of her town where she wanted to live and made some tweaks to her profile and made some other changes. Within a couple of weeks, she connected with a man in another state. He flew her to the state. She put her up in a hotel. She met his friends and they’re planning a life together. She’s flying back home and we’re going to be working with her so she can continue to move forward in the relationship in a healthy way with clear boundaries. Making sure that everything’s on track for that commitment and taking her time to get to know him. This is exciting because love happens fast. She was worried that she wasn’t going to meet anybody, now she’s making plans for her future. That’s exciting. That’s how fast things can happen, especially when you’re working with me. I hope that answered your question. Thank you for being here. I love you all so much. I’m sending you lots of love.

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EAA 24 | Emotionally Unavailable Men

Dating Advice On How To Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· May 14, 2019 
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EAA 24 | Emotionally Unavailable Men

 

In our dating history, we may have encountered men who, after making you feel multiple possibilities, ghost you. They stop turning up and eventually disappear and leave, making you see how emotionally unavailable they were. If this continues to go on, you may not find yourself becoming committed soon. How then do you stop attracting emotionally unavailable men? Jaki has the answers as she takes us to look from the inside out. She asks us to look within ourselves and identify whether or not we are also emotionally unavailable, as she shares some signs of emotional unavailability that you can figure out and address with your partner.

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Dating Advice On How To Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

I wanted to talk about how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men. I hear this a lot. These men are emotionally unavailable and it seems to be a big complaint with women and I get it. In fact, I used to say that quite a bit in my own life and in my own experiences. I was constantly thinking that men are emotionally unavailable. In fact, I wanted to share a little story with you because it’s going to help make it more “relatable” to you. I don’t know if you’ve ever been ghosted or even know what that term means. It means when the man disappears and doesn’t bother to let you know that he left the relationship and that can be painful. He leaves you to feel that he wasn’t emotionally available. That happened to me. What happened was I was seeing somebody for a couple of months and we were having a wonderful time. I was thinking that this could be something special and we had spent the weekend together.

What happened was after that weekend that I thought was wonderful, I never heard from him again. That really stung. I was thinking I cannot believe that I got ghosted that this guy just disappeared because I didn’t see that coming. I was trying to draw my conclusions around him being emotionally unavailable and why would anyone do that to another person. When I started to examine what was behind that, I did that by the process of asking myself some questions. After I got out of blaming him, I started to look at a deeper connection to what I was doing and how I was showing up. I want you to ask yourself this question, “What are the ways that I’m being unavailable in this relationship?” I want you to ask yourself a question, “What are the ways that you’re being unavailable in your dating experience? What beliefs are keeping you from fully committing to the process?” There are a lot of things that you can be doing that are causing you to be emotionally unavailable. When you’re emotionally unavailable, you’re not going to be connecting with these men because you’re not available to make that connection.

When you're emotionally unavailable, you also attract those who are. Click To Tweet

For example, I have a client that is dating a nice guy. She’s been on about six dates with him and she had told me that she’s going to stop seeing him because all he does is talk about himself. She said he’s a good guy. He’s very nice but he goes on and on and on. I was listening to her and she’s complaining that he’s not emotionally available because he’s so preoccupied with his own story and what’s going on in his life that he never asked her anything. I started to ask her, “What patterns do you see repeating in this experience?” I asked her about her history and she went to share with me about her history but here’s the thing that she meant. I said, “What’s the common denominator in these previous relationships?” She started to go into the details and I said, “You’re missing the point. The common denominator in the relationships is you. You’re the consistent theme in the relationship so I want you to look at what pattern is repeating itself in this relationship.”

She wanted to withdraw and stopped dating him and that’s her coping mechanism. Instead of being able to address the fact that he was not listening to her, she’s going to withdraw. In that moment and in these relationships, she’s the one who’s being emotionally unavailable. I would say they both are but here’s a golden opportunity. It’s an opportunity for her to reverse that pattern, to stop the pattern and turn it around. What that is going to require is for her to become emotionally available. She’s going to have to be vulnerable and intimate at that moment with that man, emotionally speaking, and give him an opportunity to step up into being more emotionally available. I would encourage all of you to take a deep look at how you’re showing up and check in with the pattern that you have in your past. Here’s what I told her to do. I told her when he starts talking and he’s going on and on, I told her to lean forward, put your hand on his forearm and just say his name over and over until he stops talking.

Intervene and lean in and say, “Are you open to hearing what I want to share? I’ve enjoyed hearing about what you’ve been talking about but I’d like the opportunity to share a little bit.” Then pause. Lean and put your hand. If the man’s talking and he’s going on and on, a part of that is nervousness, part of that is that he isn’t emotionally available. You have this golden opportunity to create this emotional intimate moment where at that moment he can step into it so you can lead the way. You do that by holding a boundary around what it is that you want. What she was doing is she was putting his needs before hers and in an attempt to fill the need, she’s going to withdraw. That’s what she’s been doing all along and that’s getting her the same thing that she’s been getting, which is no relationships which is emotional unavailability.

By her addressing it at that moment and by leaning in and saying, “I love what you’re saying but I would like the opportunity to share a little bit. Are you open to hearing what I have to say?” You do that again with the feather. Everything that I teach is about being very gentle about how you present things because it’s not what you say, it’s how you’re saying it and how it’s being perceived that gets people to shut down. If she was to be more assertive, he’ll back up and stop telling her anything altogether but you don’t want that. You want him to notice that he’s going on his monologue and be able to stop and focus on what you have to say and believe me, he will realize. That’s like with anyone if someone does that to you at that moment, you’re going to go, “Yes, of course. I want to hear what you have to say.” Inside, he’s going to be, “Yeah, I was talking. I was rambling.” It’s a golden opportunity to address these unconscious patterns that are sabotaging you.

EAA 24 | Emotionally Unavailable Men

Emotionally Unavailable Men: It’s not what you say, it’s how you’re saying it and how it’s being perceived.

Another big one is fear. Here’s a big fear that I had and it especially happens when you’re single for a long time, is the fear of commitment or fear of being found out. I realized looking back on that relationship that I had, I was the one that was emotionally unavailable. I had been watching the signs all along. He was sending me signs. He wasn’t doing certain things that I wanted to do but I was ignoring those because I was afraid that one, I wouldn’t meet anybody else and two, that it was a little too intimate. I wasn’t ready to be that intimate with someone, so I wasn’t willing to address what he was doing and letting him know what my needs were because I was too afraid to do that. Subsequently what that did for him is it turned him off. I turned myself into a pretzel for him and it wasn’t attractive. He abandoned the relationship. I was the one who was emotionally unavailable and so was he because he didn’t go to me. It isn’t a very mature thing to do but it’s one way to solve the problem. What was coming up for me was ahead of all this fear around he’s going to find out. You may not be connecting to this in a conscious way but sometimes we have a deep fear to be accepted.

We don’t want anyone to see those deep fears, so we have this protection in place that all the good men are taken. These rational lies that we tell ourselves to keep us safe but to keep us stuck because looking at the truth or maybe I’m not lovable or I’m not good enough is much harder to look at. It’s going deeper and getting behind what’s going on. Looking at your pattern that’s repeating in your relationships and looking at what belief or fear about the relationship that’s keeping you stuck in a pattern. Also looking at what you need to do and to believe in order to change this experience you’re having because experiences come from your beliefs. You have a belief and then you created an experience that aligns with it. In order for you to change the experience, you got to back up. You’ve got to examine your unconscious beliefs that are running this experience. For me, I had an unconscious belief that I wasn’t good enough and I had a lot of fear. When I analyzed it and got in there and did this deep work that I’ve done is, I was afraid that someone would discover that it was true. That I’m not good enough. I had to do that work to repair that relationship with myself that was keeping me from being emotionally available.

I had so much fear around someone seeing me and accepting me for who I was because I hadn’t accepted myself for who I was. Everything that I talk about is interrelated. It’s all connected. It all goes back to these approvals and us hiding behind these patterns in an attempt to stay safe and to not be hurt. In the process of staying safe and not being hurt, we’re keeping out the love that we long for. I know that one of the biggest regrets that you will ever have in life is to not have love in your life and recognizing that you could be the problem. In recognizing that you could be the problem, you also are the solution. That’s why this is so exciting for you to have this awareness because healing accompanies awareness. The more awareness that you bring to these patterns, to this emotional unavailability and skills so that you can address it on a date across from this man and present it in a way that he can hear it is going to help you rapidly change. You’re going to start seeing a different type of man show up because you’ve shifted.

When you shift, others can shift. It just takes recognizing, bringing awareness to it and then using some different skills. Having more boundaries around what it is that you want and being able to articulate that to the man that you’re sitting across from but you are doing it in a way that invites more trust. You’re not going to hammer him with like, “You know what would make me really happy? I would love it if we could have another appetizer. I’m starving.” You can ask for that or, “I don’t like salad. I like some pasta.” Just letting your needs be known, putting your needs above his and then seeing if he will step up and meet that need. You have to present it and you have to present it in a way that it gives him an opportunity.

The rational lies we tell ourselves keep us safe but also keep us stuck because looking at the truth is much harder to do. Click To Tweet

If you think about when you’re online and you’re like, “I’m not attracting any good men online.” You have to look at how you’re showing up and how you’re presenting it. When your profile talks all about yourself and all the things you’ve done and everything you want, it’s like a, “Me, me, me,” story. You got to look at it from a man’s perspective. He sees that he doesn’t know where he’s going to fit in your life because you haven’t given him a vision of what role he would play. It starts by looking at your profile. Is it speaking to the men in a way that he’s like, “She loves men and she’s interested in making me a priority and making me her biggest fan.” You want to lead with what that looks like for him and adding in those pieces about yourself but you do need to get his attention. Some of your profiles are showing up emotionally unavailable because it’s all about you and he doesn’t see where he fits into that. Taking another look at how you’re showing up, what you’re saying in those emails and those instant messages that are causing some disconnect and creating a little more intimacy. Go ahead and take some more risks because the bigger the risk, the bigger the game.

Take more risks emotionally speaking so that you will have the experience of stepping out of that. It always helps to have support to do that. You’re going to be getting a lot of support from me because I’m launching my next interview series. We’re going to be talking at a much deeper level about all these topics, about sabotaging, about the fears that are associated with dating, and about the fear of commitment. That’s a big one. You wouldn’t think that when you go to get committed, you would have all this fear. Much fear comes up because you’re confronted with changing your life and merging your life with the man. All of these fear-based thinking is going to surface so that you can heal it. A lot of times what happened is so much fear surfaces that you push back and you sabotage it. We’re going to be diving into all of that in that interview series. Make sure you’re signed up for that and also, I love getting your questions and comments and the emails. A lot of you have been sending me a lot of emails and comments and I would love to continue to get those so that I can answer these questions. It was so great to connect with all of you.

Don’t forget that life is so much better when you have love in it. Don’t give up on your dreams. Never ever give up on your dreams because love happens fast. One minute you’re single and the next minute you’re planning your honeymoon and your weekend retreat. You’ve got to be diligent. You have to be consistent and you have to be deliberate in everything you do. You have to be consistent with that so you can start to get some traction here and you can start to shift and things will start to show up in your life. Thank you for being here. Lots of love to you.

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