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Archive for feminine energy

Is He Bread-Crumbing You? | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· February 23, 2021 

Ladies, there is yet another new dating buzz word that I need you to be aware of. It’s called breadcrumbing and in my opinion it’s even worse than ghosting! Why? Because as painful and irritating it is to be ghosted, at least you know it’s time to move on. With breadcrumbing, a man keeps you hanging on through the least amount of effort he can – in effect, tossing you crumbs –  and leaves you wondering if he really wants to date you, or if you’re just a back-up plan. You may know it as being strung along. He gives you just enough attention to keep you around, running hot and cold depending on his whims and his schedule. Not cool at all! Here are some red flags to look out for to guard against this obnoxious behavior!

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  • You get sporadic communication from him – a text here, a DM there (oh do they love the DMs!)…and not on a daily basis. It’s almost like these guys have ESP. When you finally get fed up with the inconsistency, they sense it and crank up the contact for a few days in a row or a week. You get your hopes up and then – crickets for days. Again. Ugh!! Remember, it takes only seconds to send someone a text; if he can’t even do that, do you really think he’s planning a fabulous weekend away with you? 
  • He isn’t one to make concrete plans a week ahead of time (or ever in some cases!). He knows he doesn’t have to, because you’re so into him he can drop you a line at 7 PM on Friday asking if he can stop by later that evening…and you know what he’s looking for. Don’t be his booty call!
  • He often cancels plans you do manage to make, and you get the impression he got a better offer. Multiple times.
  • He becomes offended if you point out his rotten behavior. Then, just to prove he isn’t doing it, he will pour on the attention for a little while. That is, until you’re comfortable. Get ready to pick up those crumbs again!
  • Your BS meter is going through the roof! Women know when we aren’t someone’s priority. The trouble is, we often fall into the trap of thinking we can change the behavior. That if we just give him some time to see how wonderful things could be, he’ll come around. I want you to stop doing this. Pay heed to that inner voice that’s tipping you off about the middle-of-the-night texts that say “thinking of you” when he hasn’t thought enough to actually see you in person in weeks! Don’t make excuses for him.

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

Friends, your time and love are just too precious to waste on low quality men who play games like this! The cost of maintaining contact with someone who breadcrumbs comes in the form of uncertainty and anxiety, never wanting to be without your phone lest you miss a message from him, or keeping your calendar open in case he has some free time. It’s not happening! You deserve better than this manipulative situation (and believe me, it is – there’s plenty of forethought!) 

Please know that there are quality men out there who, like you, have had enough of the games and who know time is valuable. Stop collecting those crumbs! Tell this guy his little birdie is flying the coop… and mean it.

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

Categories : Dating
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Stop Selling Yourself Short! | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· February 16, 2021 

Something has been puzzling me. Why do I know so many women who won’t settle for less than the best in everything they do – caring for their family, their career, how they present themselves to the world – yet will continue to make excuses for the men they date who continually disappoint them?

I had a friend who, in her 20’s, had a boyfriend who would call her on the spur of the moment, and she would jump at the chance to spend time with him even though he hadn’t given her any notice. His birthday gift to her one year was a collection of stuffed animals from a smoky bar’s “claw machine,” and they smelled like it too. She explained away this kind of thoughtlessness by saying he was so busy, he was saving his money for a house, etc. etc. etc. Mind you, this was a woman who had a graduate degree, a good job, great looks – the whole package. She was (is!) thoughtful and kind and would never treat anyone the way this guy treated her. Yet she hung on for several years, thinking she would be the one to change his behavior. Spoiler alert – she didn’t.

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No matter how many times her friends and family told her he was not good for her, it wasn’t until she finally realized she was worth more than that she finally cut him loose. 

It’s one thing to put up with that kind of behavior from a man when you’re young and naïve. Quite another to be in your 40’s or beyond, mature, successful and accomplished!

I want to challenge you this year to honor the woman you are today!  

Raise both your standards and your self-esteem by refusing to spend your precious time on men who clearly aren’t interested in a long-term, mutually beneficial and authentic relationship. Look closely at your dating pattern. Does any of this behavior sound familiar in your partners, past or present? If so…time to re-examine!

  • He always wants you to come to him – meeting at the restaurant near him or driving his way for the evening.
  • He has no interest in planning anything to delight or surprise you, let alone impress you, with a date (in fact, often says, “Whatever you feel like doing is fine”)
  • He sees you when it’s convenient – for HIM
  • He is hesitant to introduce you to his friends, let alone his family
  • Your last “gift” was clearly purchased thoughtlessly and at the last minute (or worse, your birthday/anniversary/big promotion was forgotten altogether!)

If you saw a friend dealing with this kind of garbage in her relationship, wouldn’t you be fed up for her? Wouldn’t you tell her to move on? Of course you would.

Be a friend to yourself and repeat that you deserve nothing less than the best. Then start working on finding it!

Click here to take the soulmate assessment and find out what vibe you’re sending out!

Categories : All About You, Confidence, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How Women Ruin Valentine’s Day | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· February 9, 2021 

With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I’ve been hearing from many ladies that they’re unsure of how to navigate the day. 

Maybe you’re wondering the same!

You know how you’d like to celebrate and may even have some bling in mind for your guy to give you as a gift. Yet, the ghosts of Valentine’s past spring up and you don’t know if you should just keep quiet and let him take the lead or give a subtle hint about what you’re hoping for. 

One woman I know is already feeling disappointed because he hasn’t said anything – but neither has she! 

You don’t have to stay silent, ladies! Men are not mind readers, and while Valentine’s Day can be full of love and fun, it’s also a holiday that puts a LOT of pressure on men. If they don’t do enough, they’re in trouble. If they go overboard, they can also be in trouble (if it scares their partner off!). 

Do them a favor and speak up so there’s little chance for confusion or disappointment on either of your parts. As we know, men are not known for their mind-reading abilities. This isn’t the time to hint around. They either won’t notice or worse, will find it annoying! Use a Valentine’s ad on tv as a springboard if you want, but from there nothing beats the direct approach. What would feel best to you? A night out? A sparkly new necklace? A weekend away? Go over in your mind the possibilities and see what your gut tells you. You’ll know what the sweet spot is, where you get what you want, and he feels appreciated by giving it to you. 

Don’t let another Valentine’s Day go by without beginning your Soulmate Journey – go here to find out how to make your next Valentine’s your best!

It’s important, however, to not use a hammer to drive home your expectations! Instead, use your feather. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – gentle guidance wins the day. Your current man isn’t to blame for your past Valentine’s Day disappointments so don’t go into complaining mode and give him the impression that he better deliver – or else! Better to give him some ideas of some special gifts you’d love, or the name of a new restaurant you’d like to try, or…well, use your imagination! If you wrap your request around words of excitement and joy that you’re so happy to have him to celebrate the day with, he will want to come through for you. 

Isn’t this a much better scenario than finding out on February 13th he got a reservation somewhere you hate, on the 15th, because the place was full for Valentine’s Day? Or receiving a bouquet of flowers when you’re allergic? Or a gold necklace when you’re partial to silver? 

Don’t be afraid, to be honest, and get your needs met this Valentine’s Day! May it be a day full of love and light for you this year. 

Don’t let another Valentine’s Day go by without beginning your Soulmate Journey – go here to find out how to make your next Valentine’s your best!

 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

How to Stop from Getting Friend Zoned | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 19, 2021 

I’ll never forget the night a friend of mine came to me in tears! She had been at happy hour with a man she had a huge crush, listening to him talk about his day, fantasizing about what it might be like to be married to him when all of the sudden he said the thing that broke her heart. “Oh Amy,” he said tenderly and genuinely, “you are SUCH a good friend.”

OUCH! 

Here she was, wedding planning in her mind while the whole time he was thinking of her as a buddy. It’s so disheartening and honestly it can make a woman question herself, her worth, even her femininity! 

Here are three things you can do to avoid getting boxed into the friend zone!

  1. Avoid talking to much about frivolous things– This is the number one thing that causes a man to see you as a friend. Women make the mistake of thinking men love to hear all about you, your life, your thoughts, your plans, your outfits. You get the idea. If you’re constantly asking for his advice or giving HIM advice, he’ll start to see you as a sounding board, not a potential romantic partner.  
  2. Wear dresses – Dial up your outfits if you feel you’re getting friend zoned. When you put on a dress it immediately separates you from your guy’s other friends. Dresses scream “WOMAN” and men love them. You’ll feel more feminine and he’ll feel more masculine and he will see you as a lady and not a friend. This works like magic.  I know it’s sounds simple but try it and watch what happens!
  3. Avoid Over sharing – This is a huge problem when dating and it’s about boundaries. When you over share not only is it a turn off but you’ve taking away a very important aspect of attraction! Mystery and intrigue. They may listen but they could lose respect for you and tune you out. Save the oversharing for your girlfriends

I’ll never tell you to be fake, but who doesn’t appreciate a little extra effort. Turn up the charm, send those attraction signals and you’ll quickly shift from buddy to BABE!

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

Categories : All About You, Attraction, Confidence, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Connecting With Your Feminine Energy | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 7, 2021 

In today’s video I talk about the power of your feminine energy and why men respond so naturally to it. 

Click below to watch the video:

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence, Feminine Process
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

New Year, New You | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· January 5, 2021 

This isn’t going to be one of those posts that encourages you to throw out the old you and do something totally different. And it’s not to push you to do things that feel completely foreign and make you soooo uncomfortable.

What I want to suggest though, is that you look at the possibility of being a “new you” as adding to what’s already wonderful! You are amazing exactly as you are, and I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that everyone has something that they would like to change. And acknowledging that and working toward a change for the better is wonderful!

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

So, let’s start in that direction by looking at the one thing that you probably have had on your list for a long time: you want to build a strong, healthy relationship with the man you’ve been looking for. Great! Here are three ways that you can make changes for the better, small changes, that can help you call him into your life this year.

Practice gratitude. It’s amazing the difference practicing gratitude makes in your life! And I don’t just mean telling someone “thanks” for holding the door. Really sit in this feeling of gratitude. In the quiet moments, reflect on all the people and things in your life that you truly appreciate. Supportive friends, never-ending summer (hey, that’s real for some people!), your favorite food, even the way the sun shines through the windows of your living room. When you appreciate the little things, you call in more to be thankful for. Even the stuff that you may not appreciate normally like being caught in traffic are an opportunity for gratitude! If you’re in traffic, you have to slow down, and that’s a chance to take a deep breath and relax. Be thankful for new things this year!
Be spontaneous. If you always have to book things weeks in advance, then this is definitely for you! Leave a little space in your calendar for being spontaneous. If the mood seizes you, call some girlfriends for lunch, ask a friend to meet you for drinks, head to a new part of town with your cousin. And remember: you’re also leaving space for someone to ask you, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?”
Try one new thing. New things don’t stick if they are jarring and uncomfortable, so start small. Make a list of things that you would like to try or that you think you would enjoy, and just pick one to do. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish. It could be as simple as jogging on a new trail or stopping by an organic-only grocery store. Expanding your idea of what works in your life opens you up to stretch your comfort zone in new ways, which makes it easy to welcome in someone new.

When you feel like a whole new you full of gratitude, trying new things, and ready to be spontaneous, you’ll find yourself enjoying life more and more! And what’s more attractive than a woman having a blast just being herself?

I’d love to have the opportunity to get to support you and know you better this year. If you haven’t joined the Ladies Club, Click here to join. You’ll be embraced by our community of like-minded women, who like you, are on the Journey to their Soulmate.

Sending you so much love!

PS: Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!

Categories : All About You, Confidence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

4 Quick Tips to Beat the Holiday Blues | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 24, 2020 

In today’s video, I talk about how hard the holidays can be when you are single and give you some tips to sidestep all the mental drama associated with being single over the holidays.

Click below to watch the video:

 

Go here to join my Free Ladies Club Facebook group and you’ll always have someone to talk to, someone who shares your goals and dreams and wants you to succeed!
Categories : All About You, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy

Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely | Engaged at Any Age

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 22, 2020 

When you’re single, you sometimes have a feeling of deep loneliness, that feeling that there is something wrong with you. I’ve been there before, and I know exactly what that’s like! 

It seems like everywhere you look, EVERYONE is a couple. Old people, young people, birds, pets . . . Geesh. 

This is because your mind is focused on finding a partner, or rather your lack of a partner. What you focus on, you always see more of! 

Instead of letting that perpetual shoe-without-a-mate feeling make you lonely, let’s try something that will make you feel better. 

Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams. 

The next time you see a happy couple together, smile. Think about their happiness and mentally congratulate them. They are together, and that’s something you want too! This is a much better way of welcoming it into your life than letting it reflect negatively on you. 

Sending love and light to happy couples in love aligns you to the same frequency. It sounds crazy but it’s true. And better yet, it’s an EASY way to send out signals of attraction.  

Remember, there is nothing wrong with you, and there is also nothing wrong with being alone. You can be alone without being lonely. Appreciate your alone time while you wait to find someone who deserves you. Take a little extra time to work out, read a book, or hang out with friends. Love yourself in that time, and you will attract more love! This all about energy and doing simple things that raise your frequency, your vibe and your powerful feminine essence! 

You have everything else in your life together, and you will find someone who will appreciate that and love you for being you.   

Your state of being “alone” is temporary. Raise your vibe, send out love and love is exactly what you’ll get back! 

 Come join my Facebook Group Ladies Club for (free) feedback on your burning dating questions and tips for attracting and keeping the man of your dreams. 

Categories : All About You, Feminine Essence
Tags : Affection, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy
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