It’s my birthday, and  I decided to be really selfish and book a retreat to Maui to celebrate with my Maui Ohana (family).

It’s interesting though when I think of taking the time to refill my cup felt “selfish” at first.  I had to process the fact that I would be away from Michael. I had to consider how my children would feel.   I then even had to consider if my clients would be ok with me going away!

And, then I thought “hold it!”  That’s going too far. Do I really need approval from the people I share my life with?  Do I have to ask permission?  Is it safe to share my joys as it is to share my challenges?

I’ve shared with you the challenges I’ve had to overcome….

Abuse
Depression
Isolation
Divorce
Loss of income
Loss of family members
Loss of friends
Lack of intimacy

And my joys!  Meeting Michael on Match and getting engaged on the ski slopes and then married on the beach in La Jolla! All my dreams are coming true. My beliefs made manifest.

The bottom line is that I’m here on Maui because I’ve done the work on my dark side and now I’m reaping the rewards.  I’m living my dreams.

I attribute it all to the deep work I have done on myself.  I take all the credit! I did all the work.

Typically when the emotional waters get HOT, by hot I mean when you come face to face with your core FEARS you tend to move away from the pain by distracting yourself with more books, more lectures, more dating sites and meetups all in an attempt to avoid the one thing that will give you some relief!

YOU – in an attempt to avoid feeling the pain you avoid yourself and abandon yourself in the process.

You may have become enlightened in that process, but you are not empowered.

Enlightenment: is studying, philosophizing and conceptualizing

Empowerment: doing-ness, implementing, experiencing, and actualizing.

The key to my success and the success of my clients is the doing-ness!

Here’s Maria inspiration account of her journey to love with Eric after being single most of her adult life!

Maria & Eric – I’ve never been happier or more in love! Some women have asked me if this is possible for them, I wanted to share with everyone- YES!  This is possible for anyone who truly desires this and does the inner work to become the woman you need to be to have this I put my money where my intention was and invested in my heart’s desire and signed up with Jaki. The arduous journey to love makes this all the richer and me so incredibly grateful. My long time heart’s desire of finally meeting my Beloved came true after being single most of my adult life! I became the woman I needed to become to attract him. And it means I finally removed my inner barriers to love and be loved. Eric is so respectful of me, and he does not assume anything. Our entire courtship he waits for permission and then takes the lead.  So we are sweetly navigating this relationship. I am happy and in the flow. Eric and I have a mutual love, gratitude, respect and adoration for each other. If this is what you truly desire, I know it is possible. You are in the right place. Continue your work, as the reward is so amazing and sweet. Love, Maria