This isn’t going to be one of those posts that encourages you to throw out the old you and do something totally different. And it’s not to push you to do things that feel completely foreign and make you soooo uncomfortable.

What I want to suggest though, is that you look at the possibility of being a “new you” as adding to what’s already wonderful! You are amazing exactly as you are, and I want you to know that. But I also want you to know that everyone has something that they would like to change. And acknowledging that and working toward a change for the better is wonderful!

So let’s start in that direction by looking at the one thing that you probably have had on your list for a long time: you want to build a strong, healthy relationship with the man you’ve been looking for. Great! Here are three ways that you can make changes for the better, small changes, that can help you call him into your life this year.

• Practice gratitude. It’s amazing the difference practicing gratitude makes in your life! And I don’t just mean telling someone “thanks” for holding the door. Really sit in this feeling of gratitude. In the quiet moments, reflect on all the people and things in your life that you truly appreciate. Supportive friends, never-ending summer (hey, that’s real for some people!), your favorite food, even the way the sun shines through the windows of your living room. When you appreciate the little things, you call in more to be thankful for. Even the stuff that you may not appreciate normally like being caught in traffic are an opportunity for gratitude! If you’re in traffic, you have to slow down, and that’s a chance to take a deep breath and relax. Be thankful for new things this year!
• Be spontaneous. If you always have to book things weeks in advance, then this is definitely for you! Leave a little space in your calendar for being spontaneous. If the mood seizes you, call some girlfriends for lunch, ask a friend to meet you for drinks, head to a new part of town with your cousin. And remember: you’re also leaving space for someone to ask you, “Can I take you to dinner tonight?”
• Try one new thing. New things don’t stick if they are jarring and uncomfortable, so start small. Make a list of things that you would like to try or that you think you would enjoy, and just pick one to do. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish. It could be as simple as jogging on a new trail or stopping by an organic-only grocery store. Expanding your idea of what works in your life opens you up to stretch your comfort zone in new ways, which makes it easy to welcome in someone new.

When you feel like a whole new you full of gratitude, trying new things, and ready to be spontaneous, you’ll find yourself enjoying life more and more! And what’s more attractive than a woman having a blast just being herself?

I have something exciting coming up that I can’t wait to share it with you. Join my email list to make sure you get the notification because you won’t want to miss it!

Love,

Jaki