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Archive for Jaki Ives

The Fastest Way to Turn a Man Off! 

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· November 9, 2017 
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I know you were probably expecting I would tell you the fastest way to turn a man on and into you so that he will commit to you however.. you need to understand what is sabotaging your efforts so that you can address it.

I’m all about helping you solve problems. Life is a series of self help obstacles! Your job is to get good at solving problems.  I’m committed to helping you hone this skill.

Click below to watch my Facebook Live Video

Do you unintentionally turn the keys to your significance over in dating and relationships?

When you turn the keys to your ‘significance’ over to a man you are sure to turn him off before you turn him on.

In this video I share:

  • How to avoid giving up your power
  • The fastest way to create intimacy with a man who will commit to you
  • How to maintain your high value status
  • How to stop the mood swings in dating

I would love to hear from you about what you are struggling with so I can create more videos to support you! Leave a comment below.​​​​​​​

Sending you lot’s of love!

xoxo

 

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Categories : Relationships
Tags : Attract, attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, attract your soulmate, become Mrs. Right, beliefs, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, grateful, gratitude, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, Men, relationship, turn him off, turning him on

How your dysfunctional family might be holding you back

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· October 19, 2017 
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Listen in on this conversation about dysfunctional families and how to break free from constricted roles and self-defeating beliefs that are stopping you from having a life you love.

I’m chatting with my friend and colleague, Todd Creager ​​​

Many of you may already know Todd, he’s a licensed clinical social worker and licensed marriage and family therapist.

He is known as a couple’s specialist and also helps single people break from toxic relationships and get into healthier ones.

Todd has seen many of his clients (both individuals and couples) came from families that were dysfunctional.

As a result, he created a video: 7 Signs You Come From a Dysfunctional Family

He was astonished by how many people have watched that video.

Over 51,000 views to date and the number just keeps growing and growing…

So many people have thanked him and said that it helped them understand and stop being so hard on themselves.

In our conversation, you will hear Todd talk about:

  • What he means by dysfunctional
  • How you may have inherited roles that limit your life
  • How it could affect your current relationship
  • How to begin to break free from constricted roles and self-defeating beliefs

You’ll get to hear the man who has helped shift thousands of lives teach you how to shift yours and you’ll get the details about his program >>HERE<<

xoxo

 

P.S.  Ready to break free?  Get more details on the program and sign up >>HERE<<
Stop wondering why you are so hard on yourself and get some advice that will help you break free!

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Categories : All About You, Beliefs, Confidence, Create the Life You Want
Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, dysfuntional, feminine energy, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, Men, relationship, Todd Creager

Your Accelerated Path to Find Love

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· October 17, 2017 
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I watched the movie Wonder Women last night on my flight back home from New York City to California.  My daughter and I spent the weekend in the Big Apple with some of the women from my amazing community of “Wonder Women” and it really got me fired up!

Why? Because I share the same mission that Wonder Woman does…to bring peace and love back to humanity’s heart!

She makes her impact by actually learning from and sharing her experiences.Wonder Woman has a clear vision for how she’s going to accomplish this, but soon learns that she has to accomplish it in another way.

The theme of the movie is simple— that we’re not in this world alone. And we need each other.

So what does this all have to do with YOU attracting LOVE into your life?

When you are calling in your soulmate it’s the same mission.

You are first bringing peace, love and LIGHT into your own life.

You are not looking for the sun outside of yourself.

You have to bring your own light to the equation.

You have to be the sun! Not a moon that reflects someone else’s light.

To date with confidence – You are finding out if a man is someone who likes being in your kind of light. And you are not necessarily looking for someone who is already tuned into to you, but observing if he can repair any missteps and maintain sustained interest and enthusiasm.  In dating you want to be interested, not interesting.

There’s a big difference.

Be interested in him, who he is as man, the life he’s lived. If you’re spending time trying to be interesting you are in your head and that would explain why you don’t emotionally connect with a man. He wants to connect to your sun and heart not your head.

This is the biggest mistake successful women make.

They lead with interesting instead of interested because that feels safe and familiar.

Learning to lead with your heart and shining your light from within will draw a man straight to you like bees to honey.

Looking to Activate Your Super Powers to Attract Love?

My mission is to help strong, successful Wonder Women just like you learn how to lead from your heart, stay in your power and become irresistible to quality men!

If you’re looking to find your Soulmate love and you’re ready to do the work I can help you.

I’m opening my calendar to speak with a select few women who would like to work with me privately. This is a quick call to discover if we are a fit to work together.

My private program is an intense accelerated path to finding your soulmate. It’s for smart, successful women that need help in the areas of love and relationships. You have everything in life figured out except the love piece.
If you know this is what you want, get on the phone with me.

Click here to chat and I will send you a short questionnaire to fill out before our call.

Love,

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Categories : All About You, Attraction, Dating, Relationships
Tags : Attract, attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, fall madly in love, feminine energy, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, relationship, Wonder Woman

Still Single?

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· May 8, 2017 
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Still single? I am a big believer in women empowering themselves! That said, there is a misconception going on that tricks us into thinking that just because we are ok on our own, that we don’t need a man in our lives.

Bridge To Love! Your step-by-step guide to playing bigger, loving your life and finally embarking on your path to SOULMATE LOVE!

Click here to register!

I’m going to say something a little controversial.

I am a big believer in women empowering themselves! That said, there is a misconception going on that tricks us into thinking that just because we are ok on our own, that we don’t need a man in our lives.

This is really dangerous thinking.

It doesn’t matter how capable or content you are on your own, you have a right to want whatever you want. And wanting a man doesn’t make you weak!

It makes you human and sexy and passionate and loving!
So… do you want a man??? Then take some steps to get one!​​​​​​​

Just click here to register, and in 5 weeks you’ll have the keys to:

  • Reconnecting with the deepest desires you’ve been hiding in your heart. A woman who knows what she wants is irresistible to a quality man!
  • Overcoming self-doubt so that you can move in the direction of your goals
  • Accessing your inner wisdom so that you can hear your own intuition and know exactly what to do in any situation (This is HUGE in helping you avoid the wrong men, and calling forth the right one!)
  • Quieting your fears about the future and leaning into hope and possibility (Men are more intuitive than we give them credit for. Michael says this all the time. They can tell when you’re scared, when you don’t trust them, when you’re not ready. And they can tell when you are too! Quieting your fears sends powerful signals that they should come closer and make a move!)
  • Unhooking from praise and criticism, and learning to validate yourself!
  • Playing much, much bigger—according to what playing bigger means to you (because after all, this is YOUR life, and Bridge to Love is about building an action plan that works for YOU no matter where you’re starting from!) ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I designed this program to inspire hope in women who feel that life is passing them by, and who still very much want a man to share it with.

Bridge to Love is all about the search for a Soulmate by way of a bridge that connects YOUR soul to theirs. It starts with YOU.

It will show you how to be aligned with every choice you make, and show you the way to finally living your life on YOUR terms.

This is your time.

So where will you be in five weeks? Still stuck? Or newly inspired and ready to pursue the love of your life?

Click here to get started.
I’ll see you there!

Love,

 

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Categories : All About You, Beliefs, Create the Life You Want
Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, law of attraction, life of your dreams, relationship

It’s My Birthday!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· April 10, 2017 
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It’s my birthday, and  I decided to be really selfish and book a retreat to Maui to celebrate with my Maui Ohana (family).

It’s interesting though when I think of taking the time to refill my cup felt “selfish” at first.  I had to process the fact that I would be away from Michael. I had to consider how my children would feel.   I then even had to consider if my clients would be ok with me going away!

And, then I thought “hold it!”  That’s going too far. Do I really need approval from the people I share my life with?  Do I have to ask permission?  Is it safe to share my joys as it is to share my challenges?

I’ve shared with you the challenges I’ve had to overcome….

Abuse
Depression
Isolation
Divorce
Loss of income
Loss of family members
Loss of friends
Lack of intimacy

And my joys!  Meeting Michael on Match and getting engaged on the ski slopes and then married on the beach in La Jolla! All my dreams are coming true. My beliefs made manifest.

The bottom line is that I’m here on Maui because I’ve done the work on my dark side and now I’m reaping the rewards.  I’m living my dreams.

I attribute it all to the deep work I have done on myself.  I take all the credit! I did all the work.

Typically when the emotional waters get HOT, by hot I mean when you come face to face with your core FEARS you tend to move away from the pain by distracting yourself with more books, more lectures, more dating sites and meetups all in an attempt to avoid the one thing that will give you some relief!

YOU – in an attempt to avoid feeling the pain you avoid yourself and abandon yourself in the process.

You may have become enlightened in that process, but you are not empowered.

Enlightenment: is studying, philosophizing and conceptualizing

Empowerment: doing-ness, implementing, experiencing, and actualizing.

The key to my success and the success of my clients is the doing-ness!

Here’s Maria inspiration account of her journey to love with Eric after being single most of her adult life!

Maria & Eric – I’ve never been happier or more in love! Some women have asked me if this is possible for them, I wanted to share with everyone- YES!  This is possible for anyone who truly desires this and does the inner work to become the woman you need to be to have this I put my money where my intention was and invested in my heart’s desire and signed up with Jaki. The arduous journey to love makes this all the richer and me so incredibly grateful. My long time heart’s desire of finally meeting my Beloved came true after being single most of my adult life! I became the woman I needed to become to attract him. And it means I finally removed my inner barriers to love and be loved. Eric is so respectful of me, and he does not assume anything. Our entire courtship he waits for permission and then takes the lead.  So we are sweetly navigating this relationship. I am happy and in the flow. Eric and I have a mutual love, gratitude, respect and adoration for each other. If this is what you truly desire, I know it is possible. You are in the right place. Continue your work, as the reward is so amazing and sweet. Love, Maria

 

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Categories : Confidence
Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, grateful, gratitude, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, law of attraction, life of your dreams, peaceful environment

Your mind is playing tricks on you!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· April 3, 2017 
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Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. That’s no secret.

It has recorded every mistake or misstep you’ve ever made, and sometimes, like to bring up them up time and time again, sabotaging you in your efforts to find love and making you believe you’re undeserving of it.

This mind trickery is affecting your sense of self-worth, and it plays out in many ways.

For example, you may find that it’s easier to give than to receive. You might be shying away from pursuing really good looking men. You may even be passing up opportunities, or cutting promising ones short because you feel they’re too good to be true and won’t last anyway.

But you can stop this pattern of destructive thinking in its tracks.

First, if you step back and observe your life you will discover that you don’t get what you deserve – you receive no more or no less than you believe you deserve.

Remind yourself that you are NOT your past mistakes! Try repeating this mantra to yourself: “I choose where I am now and I choose something better for myself.”

Say it until that little nagging and negative voice in your head is quiet.

The change in your attitude and self-confidence will be palpable. You’ll be freed from those self-imposed difficulties that are holding you back from true happiness!

Shifting your perception of your own value, and what you deserve out of life, will open you up to receive life’s bounty regardless of any mistakes you made in the past.

And let’s face it – a self-confident woman who believes she deserves the best is way more attractive than one who wallows in self-pity and past mistakes!

I believe in you!

The question is, do you believe in you?

 

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Categories : Confidence
Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, self-love

Why the WORST result can bring the BEST men

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· December 6, 2016 
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We’ve all been there.

We’ve all felt the sting of heartbreak. The emptiness. The uncertainty.

If this is how you are feeling now, stuck, unable to heal, I wrote this for you!

First, let me reassure you that you are in my heart and that the feelings you are currently feeling are temporary.

Yes, you are in victim mode – it feels that so much has happened TO you.

You are stuck in the blame/shame/victim game. And it’s ok. It’s a REALLY easy trap to fall into. You have suffered, and because of that, have come to believe that there are no good men out there  – or that if there ARE, they won’t like you, or want you.  You are afraid to take risks.  You feel “less than” or “not good enough,”  “inadequate” and afraid of rejection.

It’s hard for you to try again after previous rejections and heartbreak. You don’t know how to hold boundaries with men, so they treat you poorly – which reinforces that belief that there are no good men out there.  You always pick the wrong men and fear they won’t like you or will leave you. You pick men who are emotionally unavailable, needy or broken. You tend to attract men that don’t step up.

It’s exhausting, and eventually you start to believe that you are better off alone. But you know, deep down, that you are longing to share your life with someone. And you will!

Wow.  You hit the nail on the head.  Can I really fix this – and how?

This is a journey of personal growth and begins with focusing on yourself. Loving yourself as you are is vital. You’ve got to stop looking for someone else to fill the space in you. You are already complete. Repeat that – YOU ARE ALREADY COMPLETE.  YOU ARE ENOUGH.

A man isn’t the answer, he is a compliment. A bonus. The icing on the cake.  When you are in victim mode you send the message that the man is the answer and that’s a heavy burden that most men run from!

Remember, you come to this party already complete and whole and ready to have a real Soulmate connection. Your MAIN goal is self-work, self-love and self-acceptance.  You will need to heal the hurt from the past and release the hold it has on you. This will help you to learn to hold healthy emotional and physical boundaries and start to consider your own feelings and wants first  – which raises your self-esteem and creates more self- respect.   Remember, we allow people to treat us how they treat us, and men will start treating you the way you are treating yourself.  Any time you hear the negative put-downs swirling around your head, think about what you’d say to your best friend or sister or daughter if she were telling you these things about herself. Then rewrite the script with love. Cultivating a positive relationship with yourself is the building block for attracting your Soulmate.   You had given up on the idea that you’ll meet your Soulmate, but now you know that love is your birthright.

Allow that to sink in and look at your life for ways that you already feel love. Appreciate what is already there.  You are embracing new empowering beliefs and attracting your Soulmate is one of them.

And now, here is HOW we are going to remind you of the goddess that you are – and that you don’t NEED a man to be enough, you need a man to compliment the life and being that you are.

We will start with the forgiveness and gratitude circle.  A daily 5-10 minute exercise that will set the foundation for your day, and the rebuilding of your spirit.

What that means, is that you will take a few minutes to repeat the following sequence:

I forgive ______________ for_____________________

I forgive myself for____________________________

I am so grateful for____________________________

I love____________________________________________

Repeat that sequence every day until you run out of things to fill in those blanks!

In doing so, you are releasing pain, inviting pleasure, and sending a powerful message to the Universe that you are READY for love!

So take a few deep breaths, hug yourself for me, and let’s get you out of victim mode, and into victory mode…your Soulmate is waiting on you!

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Categories : Dating
Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, law of attraction, life of your dreams, married, Men, relationship, self-love

Dating in The 21st Century

Posted by Jaki Sabourin 
· August 12, 2016 
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Last week I met with some girlfriends for dinner and the subject of dating came up. We started talking about how dating USED to go:

You meet someone you like.

You smile at them for a few weeks, shyly look away.

Eventually they would work up the nerve to speak.

But things are different now. Now, thanks to social media, the courting process that used to take months can progress in just hours!

Facebook allows people to know a LOT about us in a very short time, sometimes before the first conversation has even happened.

But here’s the truth- we can’t change what’s happening in the social sphere, but the qualities of courtship remain the same.

If you find yourself tinkering with dating sites, being approached on Facebook or maybe even doing a little google search background check of your own, remember these tried and true facts about successful dating:

  1. I read a story once about a dinner party. A celebrity remarked that one particular guest was the most fascinating woman in the room. When asked what she said to draw that kind of response from such a star, she replied, “Nothing. I said nothing. I just listened to him all night.” Keen interest in the other party, genuine questions, unwavering enthusiasm for their answers, will always be attractive.
  2. Give only some Sneak peaks. Take a cue from Hollywood on this one. They release movie trailers months before the movie shows up at the box office. They give 30-60 hints about the plot, just enough to pique our interest. Same goes for dating. With so much info readily available save a little for PROGRESS. As you reveal things, little by little, you create “moments” and “firsts.” The first time you revealed a secret. The first time you showed your soft side etc. Leave a little room for “firsts.”
  3. Be open minded. Just because you’ve never been to a drag race doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be a blast! Being open minded sets you up for new experiences, new adventures, new opportunities for passion and fun. And when you are in that space, the energy is primed for CONNECTION!

It doesn’t matter whether your new guy came from the grocery store, the bar, or twitter. The classic rules of dating will always apply!

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Categories : All About You, Dating
Tags : attract Mr. Right, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin
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