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· February 26, 2020

Is He Bread-crumbing You?

Ladies, there is yet another new dating buzz word that I need you to be aware of. It’s called bread-crumbing, and in my opinion, it’s even worse than ghosting! Why? Because as painful and irritating it is to be ghosted, at least you know it’s time to move on. With bread-crumbing, a man keeps you hanging on through the least amount of effort he can – in effect, tossing you crumbs – and leaves you wondering if he really wants to date you, or if you’re just a back-up plan.

You may know it as being strung along. He gives you just enough attention to keep you around, running hot and cold, depending on his whims and his schedule. Not cool at all! Here are some red flags to look out for to guard against this obnoxious behavior!

Take the Swipe Right Quiz and find out if you’re blocking your dream man by making online dating mistakes. hyper link to quiz.

You get sporadic communication from him – a text here, a DM there (oh do they love the DMs!)…and not on a daily basis. It’s almost like these guys have ESP. When you finally get fed up with the inconsistency, they sense it and crank up the contact for a few days in a row or a week. You get your hopes up and then – crickets for days. Again. Ugh!! Remember, it takes only seconds to send someone a text; if he can’t even do that, do you really think he’s planning a fabulous weekend away with you?
He isn’t one to make concrete plans a week ahead of time (or ever in some cases!). He knows he doesn’t have to because you’re so into him that he can drop you a line at 7 pm on Friday, asking if he can stop by later that evening…and you know what he’s looking for. Don’t be his booty call!
He often cancels plans you do manage to make, and you get the impression he got a better offer—multiple times.
He becomes offended if you point out his rotten behavior. Then, to prove he isn’t doing it, he will pour on the attention for a little while. That is until you’re comfortable. Get ready to pick up those crumbs again!
Your BS meter is going through the roof! Women know when we aren’t someone’s priority. The trouble is, we often fall into the trap of thinking we can change the behavior. That if we just give him some time to see how wonderful things could be, he’ll come around. I want you to stop doing this. Pay heed to that inner voice that’s tipping you off about the middle-of-the-night texts that say “thinking of you” when he hasn’t thought enough to actually to see you in person in weeks! Don’t make excuses for him.

Take the Swipe Right Quiz and find out if you’re blocking your dream man by making online dating mistakes. hyper link to quiz.

Friends, your time and love are just too precious to waste on low-quality men who play games like this! The cost of maintaining contact with someone who bread-crumbs comes in the form of uncertainty and anxiety, never wanting to be without your phone lest you miss a message from him, or keeping your calendar open in case he has some free time. It’s not happening! You deserve better than this manipulative situation (and believe me, it is – there’s plenty of forethought!)

Please know that there are quality men out there who, like you, have had enough of the games and who know time is valuable. Stop collecting those crumbs! Tell this guy his little birdie is flying the coop… and mean it.

Take the Swipe Right Quiz and find out if you’re blocking your dream man by making online dating mistakes. hyper link to quiz.

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Tags : attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, breadcrumbing, confidence, dating, law of attraction, online dating

Still Single?

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· May 8, 2017

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Still single? I am a big believer in women empowering themselves! That said, there is a misconception going on that tricks us into thinking that just because we are ok on our own, that we don’t need a man in our lives.

Bridge To Love! Your step-by-step guide to playing bigger, loving your life and finally embarking on your path to SOULMATE LOVE!

Click here to register!

I’m going to say something a little controversial.

I am a big believer in women empowering themselves! That said, there is a misconception going on that tricks us into thinking that just because we are ok on our own, that we don’t need a man in our lives.

This is really dangerous thinking.

It doesn’t matter how capable or content you are on your own, you have a right to want whatever you want. And wanting a man doesn’t make you weak!

It makes you human and sexy and passionate and loving!
So… do you want a man??? Then take some steps to get one!

Just click here to register, and in 5 weeks you’ll have the keys to:

Reconnecting with the deepest desires you’ve been hiding in your heart. A woman who knows what she wants is irresistible to a quality man!
Overcoming self-doubt so that you can move in the direction of your goals
Accessing your inner wisdom so that you can hear your own intuition and know exactly what to do in any situation (This is HUGE in helping you avoid the wrong men, and calling forth the right one!)
Quieting your fears about the future and leaning into hope and possibility (Men are more intuitive than we give them credit for. Michael says this all the time. They can tell when you’re scared, when you don’t trust them, when you’re not ready. And they can tell when you are too! Quieting your fears sends powerful signals that they should come closer and make a move!)
Unhooking from praise and criticism, and learning to validate yourself!
Playing much, much bigger—according to what playing bigger means to you (because after all, this is YOUR life, and Bridge to Love is about building an action plan that works for YOU no matter where you’re starting from!)

I designed this program to inspire hope in women who feel that life is passing them by, and who still very much want a man to share it with.

Bridge to Love is all about the search for a Soulmate by way of a bridge that connects YOUR soul to theirs. It starts with YOU.

It will show you how to be aligned with every choice you make, and show you the way to finally living your life on YOUR terms.

This is your time.

So where will you be in five weeks? Still stuck? Or newly inspired and ready to pursue the love of your life?

Click here to get started.
I’ll see you there!

Love,

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Categories : All About You, Beliefs, Create the Life You Want

Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, law of attraction, life of your dreams, relationship

Let Love Grow!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· April 19, 2017

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In my part of the world, everything is blooming and it’s absolutely gorgeous!

I love digging my hands into the soil and getting my garden ready to go for another season.

The beauty that can grow from a tiny seed and some TLC amazes me year after year.

It’s not such a stretch to think about your love life as a garden that needs some tending.

For years, I let weeds grow around my heart and thought I was undeserving of true love and attention from a soulmate. It was my defense against being hurt again. Better to leave my emotions hidden in the tangles rather than prune those weeds and lay my feelings bare to the world, right?

Wrong! Oh, so wrong!

Yes, I was shielding myself from pain.

But I was also not allowing the sun to shine through to my heart.

Seeds can’t grow without sunlight.

I made the decision to start small, and let the seeds of hope and love take root in my soul. From there my emotional garden grew like it never had before!

So how is your personal garden? Not the one in your back yard – the one in your heart.

Could it use some pruning? Could it use some planting and care?

You’ve got to tend to yourself for anything at all bloom! Whether you want to grow your confidence, your purpose or a life-long love, you’ve to take the right steps in the right order:

Plant the seed for something new to grow, keep the soil healthy, water it regularly and generously give your time and love.

Something beautiful can grow for you when you start turning your attention to the seeds YOU want to plant!

Let the sun shine! It’s the only way to let love plant itself in your life. Wanda committed to this exact process and her and Freddy and in full bloom!

Wanda & Freddy

“I look back on where I was last January, and I love how much I’ve learned about myself and my power to manifest what I want. Jaki’s program has fortified me with the tools I use to identify and maintain healthy personal boundaries with my children, my sister, my coworkers, and people I come in contact with on a daily basis. I have learned how to nurture and heal myself when life triggers me. This is MY power and my responsibility! I put my intentions on paper when I started the program last January, and I decided to live with integrity and be firm with myself about what I was doing. I declared out loud that I would be in a life long loving, committed relationship and married this year because I am enough and I deserve it! I met Freddy in the middle of my spiritual growth spurt. We’ve been together for nine months, and my whole life is better with Freddy in it! I am his Queen, and he is my King! I am so excited about my present and my future! Thank you for your guidance and your Love”. Wanda

Much love,
Jaki

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Categories : Attraction, Relationships

Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, grow, happiness is attractive, law of attraction, life of your dreams, love, married, relationship

It’s My Birthday!

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· April 10, 2017

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It’s my birthday, and I decided to be really selfish and book a retreat to Maui to celebrate with my Maui Ohana (family).

It’s interesting though when I think of taking the time to refill my cup felt “selfish” at first. I had to process the fact that I would be away from Michael. I had to consider how my children would feel. I then even had to consider if my clients would be ok with me going away!

And, then I thought “hold it!” That’s going too far. Do I really need approval from the people I share my life with? Do I have to ask permission? Is it safe to share my joys as it is to share my challenges?

I’ve shared with you the challenges I’ve had to overcome….

Abuse
Depression
Isolation
Divorce
Loss of income
Loss of family members
Loss of friends
Lack of intimacy

And my joys! Meeting Michael on Match and getting engaged on the ski slopes and then married on the beach in La Jolla! All my dreams are coming true. My beliefs made manifest.

The bottom line is that I’m here on Maui because I’ve done the work on my dark side and now I’m reaping the rewards. I’m living my dreams.

I attribute it all to the deep work I have done on myself. I take all the credit! I did all the work.

Typically when the emotional waters get HOT, by hot I mean when you come face to face with your core FEARS you tend to move away from the pain by distracting yourself with more books, more lectures, more dating sites and meetups all in an attempt to avoid the one thing that will give you some relief!

YOU – in an attempt to avoid feeling the pain you avoid yourself and abandon yourself in the process.

You may have become enlightened in that process, but you are not empowered.

Enlightenment: is studying, philosophizing and conceptualizing

Empowerment: doing-ness, implementing, experiencing, and actualizing.

The key to my success and the success of my clients is the doing-ness!

Here’s Maria inspiration account of her journey to love with Eric after being single most of her adult life!

Maria & Eric – I’ve never been happier or more in love! Some women have asked me if this is possible for them, I wanted to share with everyone- YES! This is possible for anyone who truly desires this and does the inner work to become the woman you need to be to have this I put my money where my intention was and invested in my heart’s desire and signed up with Jaki. The arduous journey to love makes this all the richer and me so incredibly grateful. My long time heart’s desire of finally meeting my Beloved came true after being single most of my adult life! I became the woman I needed to become to attract him. And it means I finally removed my inner barriers to love and be loved. Eric is so respectful of me, and he does not assume anything. Our entire courtship he waits for permission and then takes the lead. So we are sweetly navigating this relationship. I am happy and in the flow. Eric and I have a mutual love, gratitude, respect and adoration for each other. If this is what you truly desire, I know it is possible. You are in the right place. Continue your work, as the reward is so amazing and sweet. Love, Maria

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Tags : attract a man, attract Mr. Right, attract your ideal man, confidence, dating, fall madly in love, feminine energy, grateful, gratitude, happiness is attractive, Jaki Ives, Jaki Sabourin, law of attraction, life of your dreams, peaceful environment

Why the WORST result can bring the BEST men

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· December 6, 2016

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We’ve all been there.

We’ve all felt the sting of heartbreak. The emptiness. The uncertainty.

If this is how you are feeling now, stuck, unable to heal, I wrote this for you!

First, let me reassure you that you are in my heart and that the feelings you are currently feeling are temporary.

Yes, you are in victim mode – it feels that so much has happened TO you.

You are stuck in the blame/shame/victim game. And it’s ok. It’s a REALLY easy trap to fall into. You have suffered, and because of that, have come to believe that there are no good men out there – or that if there ARE, they won’t like you, or want you. You are afraid to take risks. You feel “less than” or “not good enough,” “inadequate” and afraid of rejection.

It’s hard for you to try again after previous rejections and heartbreak. You don’t know how to hold boundaries with men, so they treat you poorly – which reinforces that belief that there are no good men out there. You always pick the wrong men and fear they won’t like you or will leave you. You pick men who are emotionally unavailable, needy or broken. You tend to attract men that don’t step up.

It’s exhausting, and eventually you start to believe that you are better off alone. But you know, deep down, that you are longing to share your life with someone. And you will!

Wow. You hit the nail on the head. Can I really fix this – and how?

This is a journey of personal growth and begins with focusing on yourself. Loving yourself as you are is vital. You’ve got to stop looking for someone else to fill the space in you. You are already complete. Repeat that – YOU ARE ALREADY COMPLETE. YOU ARE ENOUGH.

A man isn’t the answer, he is a compliment. A bonus. The icing on the cake. When you are in victim mode you send the message that the man is the answer and that’s a heavy burden that most men run from!

Remember, you come to this party already complete and whole and ready to have a real Soulmate connection. Your MAIN goal is self-work, self-love and self-acceptance. You will need to heal the hurt from the past and release the hold it has on you. This will help you to learn to hold healthy emotional and physical boundaries and start to consider your own feelings and wants first – which raises your self-esteem and creates more self- respect. Remember, we allow people to treat us how they treat us, and men will start treating you the way you are treating yourself. Any time you hear the negative put-downs swirling around your head, think about what you’d say to your best friend or sister or daughter if she were telling you these things about herself. Then rewrite the script with love. Cultivating a positive relationship with yourself is the building block for attracting your Soulmate. You had given up on the idea that you’ll meet your Soulmate, but now you know that love is your birthright.

Allow that to sink in and look at your life for ways that you already feel love. Appreciate what is already there. You are embracing new empowering beliefs and attracting your Soulmate is one of them.

And now, here is HOW we are going to remind you of the goddess that you are – and that you don’t NEED a man to be enough, you need a man to compliment the life and being that you are.

We will start with the forgiveness and gratitude circle. A daily 5-10 minute exercise that will set the foundation for your day, and the rebuilding of your spirit.

What that means, is that you will take a few minutes to repeat the following sequence:

I forgive ______________ for_____________________

I forgive myself for____________________________

I am so grateful for____________________________

I love____________________________________________

Repeat that sequence every day until you run out of things to fill in those blanks!

In doing so, you are releasing pain, inviting pleasure, and sending a powerful message to the Universe that you are READY for love!

So take a few deep breaths, hug yourself for me, and let’s get you out of victim mode, and into victory mode…your Soulmate is waiting on you!

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Do you want to meet Mr. Right?

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· January 20, 2015

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Roses Not long ago I married my Mr. Right! We are madly in love and living in La Jolla, California. My husband treats me like a queen. When he goes to the grocery store he always comes back and presents me with bushels of flowers. He’s always thinking of ways to make me happy!

It wasn’t always this way. It took time to TEACH him how I wanted to be treated. Because we teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves.

The respect you receive from others is in direct proportion to how much you respect yourself. In other words if you want to attract a man who will respect you, treat you like a queen, bring you flowers and ultimately commit to you in love and life you need to LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS “LOVING WITHOUT CONDITIONS”

It’s fully accepting yourself AS IS. Unconditional love requires you to be emotionally intimate with yourself. Intimacy begins with you knowing you. The better you know yourself, the more comfortable you will feel with others.

Men find women who love themselves irresistible! No man likes a woman who acts like her whole life revolves around him! You can’t sacrifice your needs to become what you think a man wants. That’s pathetic!

IF YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF THE WHOLE WORLD
WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU!

Heart in the Sand

TIPS TO SELF LOVE

Fall in love with yourself

Completely accept yourself as you are today

Be gentle with yourself

Nurture yourself

Eliminate self-criticism

Let go of worry

Trust yourself

Forgive yourself

Be honest with yourself

Look good to make yourself happy

Build your own life; don’t try to fit into his

Be selfish, put yourself above all others, you come first

Respect yourself

Keep healthy boundaries

Be your own best friend!

Self-love is heart work. Self-love is you fulfilling your own emotional dependency needs. Emotional dependency needs are: intimacy, nurturing, unconditional love and boundary protection that you need to feel safe and secure. If you don’t demonstrate unconditional love for yourself you show people that you are not worthy of receiving it.

If you don’t learn to fulfill your emotional dependency needs you will always look to others to tell you who you are.

(The good news is I can teach you how to apply these empowering tips to SELF LOVE. Because in order to attract Mr. Right you need to become Mrs. Right!)

WE ATTRACT WHAT WE ARE, NOT WHAT WE WANT.

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Get off the Dating Roller Coaster

Posted by Jaki Sabourin

· October 25, 2014

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Are you on the dating roller coaster? It’s not that fun of a ride is it? I have been there. I dated men that were controlling, emotionally distant, passive aggressive and men that I’m embarrassed to admit that I ever went out with! During this phase of roller coaster dating I recognized a pattern. A pattern of attraction. I discovered the secret for becoming a Love Magnet!

The universe is set up to bring people and experiences to us that match our personal belief systems. If you think you won’t fall madly in love this year, YOU’RE RIGHT. You probably won’t. However if you teach yourself to believe that you will fall madly in love this year and that your man is looking for you right at this very moment, YOU WILL BE RIGHT!

Your thoughts really do create your life. What ever you think about, you bring about.

I began watching my thoughts more carefully and I created an affirmation for the love I wanted to attract. Any time my mind wandered off to worry or fearful thoughts I recited my affirmation. I began noticing things lining up for me. I knew I was onto something but I needed more help with my discovery of the law of attraction.

I went to the farmers market in La Jolla on a Sunday when I first moved to San Diego with the intention to meet someone who could help me FAST TRACK my desires. As I walked through the market I scanned the booths for some kind of connection to someone. What I found was a man sitting by himself at a table. On the table was a book. I was intrigued. I wasn’t interested in the man but the book drew me in. After reading a few paragraphs I had a premonition that this book held the keys to what I was seeking. I quickly went home and devoured the book! Here’s what I found out that was blocking me from attracting love:

I didn’t feel worthy of love.
I had low self esteem.
I had a lot of emotional baggage

I was so astonished to learn that I had these unconscious beliefs I broke down and sobbed. I felt so sad as I realized I was the one that was unconsciously blocking the love that I deeply desired from coming into my life.

The very next thing I did was to begin the process of dis-creating those negative unconscious beliefs and creating new empowering beliefs that would support my falling madly in love. I made some radical changes with the help of my Love Coach. I implemented a step-by-step program, using the law of attraction, visualizations, prayers and techniques to shift my thinking, heal my heart and prepare myself so I could be the receiver of this amazing love I desired. Within 6 months I met my husband Michael and he is everything that I had visualized he would be and he continues to amaze me on a daily basis!

Falling madly in love is possible at any age if you are willing to do the work to shift your energy in a way that you become a match to the love you want.

If you are not happy with the life you have created and want to create something different, FAST TRACK your man plan and CLICK HERE to book a FREE FALL MADLY IN LOVE strategy call.

But here’s something to get you started right away! You need to understand the CREATION TRILOGY. Your thoughts, words and deeds all need to be in alignment with what you really want in order for you to have it.

3 SIMPLE STEPS TO GET YOU STARTED

Step 1: CLARITY

First you need to get CRYSTAL CLEAR on what you really want.

Step 2: WRITE IT DOWN

If you want to be in a committed relationship, write down specifically what you want. It’s critical to put this in writing.

Step 3: SETTING INTENTIONS

When you set an intention and then act on it this demonstrates your commitment and amazing things occur!

Step 4: FAST TRACKING

Discover what unconscious beliefs are sabotaging your ability to fall madly in love. We all have blind spots. Since 90% of our thoughts are unconscious, it’s no wonder that you cannot see your blocks! They are invisible to you.

This is where I can help you! The sooner you can see your unconscious negative beliefs that are sabotaging your love efforts the sooner you can shift your vibration to match the man that is searching for you at this very moment!

Nothing changes until you do!

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Categories : Dating

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