Well, it’s that time of year!
It is time for most of the world to make New Year’s Resolutions that they totally abandon by February.
(Gyms packed right now will be empty in a few weeks.)
What about you? Did you resolve that this would be the year you lose the weight? Or leave your job to start your own business? Or maybe THIS was going to be the year you FIND YOUR MAN!
I hope you’ve got some BIG plans for yourself, and I want to make sure you get what you want.
So why is it so hard to stay positive and motivated? Why do we start a new year so excited, so fired up, only to go back to business as usual so quickly?
There are a couple of reasons for that.
The first is that most of the world misunderstands what a “resolution” really is. They treat it like a hope or a wish or an intention, and it’s none of those things!
A resolution is defined as “a firm decision to do or not do something.”
It is a FIRM DECISION to lose weight once and for all. A FIRM DECISION to put yourself out there and create a dating profile.
A resolution is about deciding to finally take a stand for your deepest desires and playing all in even when things get tough. This brings me to the second reason resolutions fail.
Now stay with me because this goes against conventional wisdom, but I promise you if you embody what I’m saying here, your life will be better for it.
The second reason resolutions don’t work is because we are trained to act based on how we feel. Now I am not saying to ignore your intuition by any means. What I’m saying is that so often, when we have goals, we are told to “check-in with our feelings.”
And too often, women take that as permission to ease up and let themselves off the hook.
You see, feelings are transient. They can change minute by minute. So it’s dangerous to make decisions based on how you feel. You’ve got to make decisions, instead, based on what you WANT!
If you’re putting yourself out there in the online dating world, and you have a bad day or feel tired, you might be tempted to cancel the first date. But what if, instead, you remind yourself of your desired outcome? Is your desire to find love GREATER than your desire to give in to fatigue or negativity?
Who will you let run your show? Your moods or your DESIRES?!
Anytime you feel like giving up, picture yourself with the desired outcome and keep going.
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