Like many people, you’ve probably wondered what it is that makes a man truly want to commit to a woman. It’s natural to think that there is some trick, some catch, that makes some women worthy of a lasting relationship and leaves the rest of us, well, eating Ben and Jerry’s and watching a chick flick alone on a Saturday night.
Well, I’m here to tell you that there IS a special secret sauce to the love game! There are two very important components that you must have to inspire a man to fall in love.
And, this should come as no surprise: you don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to have commitment. I mean, come on, look at the divorce rate in Hollywood.
So what is it that makes men fall in love and finally commit? How do you catch the guy and get him to stay?
First, you must show up as a high-value woman. He has to believe that you are better than other women out there. You have to believe in yourself and present yourself as confident. You have to value yourself to make others believe that you are truly high-value.
A woman who believes in herself knows that she has flaws, but she also knows that she has traits and talents worthy of praise. She has interests that she is passionate about. She feels comfortable with herself. She loves herself. For a man to know your value, you have to present yourself as someone with value.
Now here’s the catch: a high-value woman can also feel unapproachable or cold. That’s why you have to pair this trait with the other must-have to truly make a man fall in love and then commit.
What is that trait? Vulnerability.
This is what allows you to connect with someone on a super deep level. A woman who is vulnerable is in touch with her emotions and is willing to open up about them. This is what lets a man truly connect with you and feel like he should stay. Vulnerability gives a man a desire to protect you. Not only do you have high value, but you also need him around. That works WITH his primal instincts!
Being open and honest on this level can be scary, but pushing past that allows for a deep connection.
Though we may feel like this is contradictory to the strong, modern woman ideal—and hey! We can certainly be strong and take care of ourselves!—there has to be balance. You can be a strong, successful woman and still be vulnerable in your relationship. Showing your connection with emotions helps a man see that he is needed and wanted. A man who thinks you can completely take care of yourself doesn’t exactly have a reason to stick around, right?
Sounds so simple, right? High-value and vulnerability are a winning combination that practically guarantees commitment!
Want to figure out how you can do it, too? Let’s schedule a time to talk! I’d love to help you succeed at the love game!
XO
