Maybe you’re wondering the same!
You know how you’d like to celebrate, and may even have some bling in mind for your guy to give you as a gift. Yet, the ghosts of Valentine’s past spring up and you don’t know if you should just keep your mouth shut and let him take the lead or give a subtle hint about what you’re hoping for.
One woman I know is already feeling disappointed because he hasn’t said anything – but neither has she!
You don’t have to stay silent, ladies! Men are not mind readers, and while Valentine’s Day can be full of love and fun, it’s also a holiday that puts a LOT of pressure on men. If they don’t do enough, they’re in trouble. If they go overboard, they can also be in trouble (if it scares their partner off!).
Do them a favor and speak up so there’s little chance for confusion or disappointment on either of your parts. As we know, men are not known for their mind-reading abilities. This isn’t the time to hint around. They either won’t notice or worse, will find it annoying! Use a Valentine’s ad on tv as a springboard if you want, but from there, nothing beats the direct approach. What would feel best for you? A night out? A sparkly new necklace? A weekend away? Go over in your mind the possibilities and see what your gut tells you. You’ll know what the sweet spot is, where you get what you want, and he feels appreciated by giving it to you.
It’s important, however, to not use a hammer to drive home your expectations! Instead, use your feather. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – gentle guidance wins the day. Your current man isn’t to blame for your past Valentine’s Day disappointments so don’t go into complaining mode and give him the impression that he better deliver – or else! Better to give him some ideas of some special gifts you’d love, or the name of a new restaurant you’d like to try, or…well, use your imagination! If you wrap your
request around words of excitement and joy that you’re so happy to have him to celebrate the day with, he will want to come through for you.
Isn’t this a much better scenario than finding out on February 13th he got a reservation somewhere you hate, on the 15th, because the place was full for Valentine’s Day? Or receiving a bouquet of flowers when you’re allergic? Or a gold necklace when you’re partial to silver?
Don’t be afraid, to be honest, and get your needs met this Valentine’s Day! May it be a day full of love and light for you this year.