Not long ago I married my Mr. Right! We are madly in love and living in La Jolla, California. My husband treats me like a queen. When he goes to the grocery store he always comes back and presents me with bushels of flowers. He’s always thinking of ways to make me happy!
It wasn’t always this way. It took time to TEACH him how I wanted to be treated. Because we teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves.
The respect you receive from others is in direct proportion to how much you respect yourself. In other words if you want to attract a man who will respect you, treat you like a queen, bring you flowers and ultimately commit to you in love and life you need to LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS “LOVING WITHOUT CONDITIONS”
It’s fully accepting yourself AS IS. Unconditional love requires you to be emotionally intimate with yourself. Intimacy begins with you knowing you. The better you know yourself, the more comfortable you will feel with others.
Men find women who love themselves irresistible! No man likes a woman who acts like her whole life revolves around him! You can’t sacrifice your needs to become what you think a man wants. That’s pathetic!
IF YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF THE WHOLE WORLD
WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU!
TIPS TO SELF LOVE
Fall in love with yourself
Completely accept yourself as you are today
Be gentle with yourself
Nurture yourself
Eliminate self-criticism
Let go of worry
Trust yourself
Forgive yourself
Be honest with yourself
Look good to make yourself happy
Build your own life; don’t try to fit into his
Be selfish, put yourself above all others, you come first
Respect yourself
Keep healthy boundaries
Be your own best friend!
Self-love is heart work. Self-love is you fulfilling your own emotional dependency needs. Emotional dependency needs are: intimacy, nurturing, unconditional love and boundary protection that you need to feel safe and secure. If you don’t demonstrate unconditional love for yourself you show people that you are not worthy of receiving it.
If you don’t learn to fulfill your emotional dependency needs you will always look to others to tell you who you are.
(The good news is I can teach you how to apply these empowering tips to SELF LOVE. Because in order to attract Mr. Right you need to become Mrs. Right!)
WE ATTRACT WHAT WE ARE, NOT WHAT WE WANT.