I am losing track of how many dating sites are out there these days and it’s amazing the vastly different experiences women have with these things!
I know women who have had amazing experiences with men they met on sites like eHarmony and I know women who had awful experiences too!
Regardless of how you feel about meeting your man online, there is one thing that the cyber dating sites do get right- they ask you to create a profile.
And that profile is all about who you are and what you want.
Essentially, they are asking you to do what I hope you do too—deliberately date and consciously create the man of your dreams. Think about that! When you sign up for one of these platforms, you are making a DELIBERATE decision to take charge of your love life. And as you fill out the membership forms, you are asked to consciously create your perfect outcome. You’ve got to know what you are looking for in order for them to effectively match you up!
But here’s the thing that these sites can’t do for you.
They can’t do your inner work. They can’t help you work through resentment or self-worth issues. They can’t teach you to tap into your feminine energy or to flip the switch on your tools of attraction. Those things have to come from within.
If you don’t do the inner work first, it doesn’t matter how great their matching system is, you will bring old issues into new relationships. It’s like trying to plant a lush garden on bad soil. It doesn’t work!
Self-love, self- care and inner work are step ONE.
It doesn’t matter where you go to meet your man, if you are prepared from within, your results will be significantly better!
What do you need to do? Is there something you need to let go of? Is there something you need to connect to more deeply within yourself? Something you need to work on and feel better about BEFORE you open the door to your ideal man?
Self-awareness is a beautiful thing!
Jaki, in one of your interviews you said that you used in your dating profile a different name. How far into your new relationship you would share your real name? And how would you script that without make him trust you less? Thanks
Hi Mac, I told him the first time we met for a drink. I explained that I had a teenage daughter at home and our safety and protecting my identity was very important. I would be honest and vulnerable. Tell him that you are practicing caution and say “I’m sure you understand”. Then let it go. If he has a mother or a sister or daughter he will accept it. “Being online makes me feel vulnerable so I’ve used a different name while dating until I feel comfortable to share my real identity. I’m sure you understand” and then tell him your real name. Allow him to have a question or two. But don’t over talk it. I hope this helps! Jaki